We bought the tickets several weeks ago. I was pleased that I was able to purchase the seats on line as the Opera House has an interactive website that includes seats for people with disabilities. Typically, I have to make a phone call, wait for hours for an operator and then choose seats with assistance. Booking an accessible seat, on line like everyone else, is just another little bit of freedom, another way of making me gloriously anonymous, and I appreciate it fully.
Anyways, we have the tickets to the Nutcracker in hand and will be going to the afternoon performance. Mike, Marissa, Sadie and Ruby all arrived yesterday in the early evening turning our house into pandemonium instantly. We had made a huge lasagna which had just come out of the oven, there were the final Christmas stockings to be dealt with and they had brought a DVD to watch together, the evening had some structure in the chaos of children's laughter and children's needs.
At one point in the evening Joe asked me to find a bit of the Nutcracker on YouTube so that Ruby would know where it was we were going tomorrow. As I looked this sparked a debate. Some felt it would be better to surprise Ruby with the treat of going to the ballet. Others felt it's way better to know and have the joy of anticipation. Our choice was made for us because Ruby had heard Joe and was already over to see the computer screen so it would have been mean to change horses midstream.
As she hopped up and got herself comfortable I picked a segment where there are ballerinas all over the stage strutting their ballerina stuff. Ruby's eyes grew wide and asked if we were going to see all the Cinderella's tomorrow. I said that we were and she was well pleased with the idea. She went to bed with a real excitement of the day to come.
While there was no real strife about it here, it become clear that there are two very different views of planning something special, the 'surprise' perspective and the 'anticipation perspective'. I'm really curious as to how other people see these things. Me, I'm an anticipator, I pointed out that I've had the pleasure of looking forward to the ballet for several weeks, imagining Ruby's joy at seeing the spectacle has given me pleasure. Others have imagined Ruby's surprise at turning up at the Opera house and having the ballet start.
So where are you on the spectrum? Are you a 'surprise' person or an 'anticipation' person ... or are there other points of view. In this little slow down between the holidays, a bit of conversation would be nice!