Monday, June 29, 2009

40th Anniversary



Today is our 40th anniversary, thanks to Mike and his family for the wonderful photograph above. Instead of writing a typical blog, here are answers to five questions we are often asked, leaving out the inevitable, what do guys do in bed together anyways ...

Question: Did you plan your anniversary to be so close to Gay Pride Day?

Answer: Our relationship began 40 years ago, one day past the Stone Wall riots that began the gay movement and would eventually become Gay Pride Day. We had no idea what was going on in New York at the time. After all we were high school students in Campbell River. So our relationship is one day younger than the modern Gay Pride movement.

Question: Who asked who out?

Answer: Oh, there was no 'dating' for two 16 year old boys back in those days. I had met Joe in the hallways of high school in Grade 12 and discovered that he was also going to the University of Victoria. We agreed to share rides up and down island, Joe would pay half gas. Well, he never paid for gas and the rides took longer than they ought.

Question: Do you ever fight?

Answer: Well, Joe is more difficult than you might imagine, so yes, we fight. Our fights now are shorter, less mean, and haven't much of an emotional hangover. Sometimes we get to the edge of a fight and Joe will say, 'Do you have the energy for a fight?' I'll say, 'Nah'. And it will be over. There is a good side to being tired all the time.

Question: How has Joe adjusted to you becoming disabled.

Answer: It is more work for him, what with the wheelchair and all. But, remember, I haven't changed. We organize ourselves better. We think things through. It's all OK. What's interesting is that people notice this adjustment, because it's a big one. We've been adapting to each other's changes for all of our 40 years - that's what makes a relationship work.

Question: Do you have joint goals for the future?

Answer: Yes and no. We, of course, have professional goals. But as to personal goals, we keep it simple. Live well together. Do well together. Sleep well together.

So there you have it. I'll be back tomorrow with more 'disability oriented' blogs. I've got a list of little notes beside me to remind me of things that have been happening over the last few days. But Gay Pride and the 40th just got in the way of regular life.

31 comments:

FridaWrites said...

Congrats--I enjoyed reading yesterday's post too. The early years must have been difficult because of discrimination and violence.

Heike said...

No no, that's quite ok. Gay Pride and the 40th ARE regular life. Congratulations to you both! I'll drink a toast to you guys tonight, for the next 40 years.

Susan, Mum to Molly said...

At the risk of sounding like an "Aussie clone", I agree with Heike - Gay Pride and the 40th are a very important part of regular life and definitely not in the way.

Congratulations to you both, and here's to the next 40! What a great photo. Hope you both had a fabulous day and get to celebrate with friends.

BenefitScroungingScum said...

Congratulations to you both! Bendy Girl x

Kate said...

Great post. Happy 40th! Quite an accomplishment.

wendy said...

Happy Anniversary, Dave and Joe!

Andrea S. said...

Congrats and Happy Anniversary!

Virginia S. Wood, PsyD said...

40 years! Wow! High-school lovers! (Or college, anyway). What an accomplishment! Congratulations, and many happy returns.

Belinda said...

I don't have all the answers and don't need to. But I know you both and love you and celebrate every bit of joy in your lives, including this special anniversary.

40 years? We'll be catching up on you August 23rd!

Leslie said...

Congratulations! 40 years is wonderful!

Kris Stableford said...

"Do you have the energy for a fight?" I love that! I'm assuming you don't take a "rain check" if the answer is "No."

Seriously...congratulations on celebrating 40 years together.

lisa said...

Happy Anniversary Dave and Joe! Today is my daughter and son-in-laws first anniversary, I hope they are able to have as good of a relationship as you two.

Lisa

CJ said...

Mazel Tov!

40 years is quite the accomplishment!

Amy said...

Happy Anniversary to you both!

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary!! Wow, 40 years!!! That is wonderful! Here's to the next 40!!!
Cheers!
Michelle

liz said...

Happy Anniversary!!!

Whatshername? said...

happy anniversary! Hope you guys have a great day! :D

Princeton Posse said...

Have a great day and here's to the next 40!

Kristine said...

Happy 40th! :)

Sarah A. said...

Happy Anniversary! I wish you many more happy ones...

Rebecca said...

Congratulations on your anniversary Dave and Joe!

Rebecca

Erin said...

Happy 40th! You two are a wonderful couple.

Anonymous said...

that is wonderful, congratulations to you both. I must admit to having a lump in my throat reading todays blog.

Shan said...

Ah, good old days. It used to take the teenaged me and her boyfriend a heck of a long time to make that same exact drive.

'grats!

Anonymous said...

Congrats to both of you!!! I won't be drinking tonight but I will toast a piece of cinnastix to both of you!!! :)

-KR

astruc said...

Happy anniversary. I love you guys together. :)

FAB said...

Congratulations! you continue to be a beautiful couple!

Brenda said...

Thanks for sharing your anniversary with us, and for showing the rest of us how it's done. Congrats on 40 wonderful years!! Wow!! (raising my can of Schweppes) Here's to another 40!!

Colleen said...

Dear Dave:

Happy Anniversary to you and Joe!

Colleen

theknapper said...

Congratulations.....40 years together & you still like one another!!!! Not many couples have what you have.

Suelle said...

Congratulations you two! 40 years!! That's something to celebrate!