I'm even hesitant to write this. I am compelled only because I really want to know what you think, get advice from you.
Here's the situation and the question that arose from it ...
This morning we went down for breakfast at our hotel in Glasgow. We were a little later than usual because we decided to have a lay in and just take it slow. When we arrived we were seated at a table with a full view of the restaurant. As it was a buffet breakfast, I waited as Joe went up to get the goodies.
Shortly after we tucked into breakfast a family came in, Mom and Dad along with two beautiful daughters and a wee little boy with Down Syndrome. They all looked tired, like they'd had a busy weekend. Watching parents parent is exhausting. They had to have eyes on three kids and still operate as a couple. It's amazing when done right.
The little boy probably hadn't turned one. He was beautiful. And bright. His eyes followed every action at the table. He laughed when his sister made faces, grabbed at a bottle full of juice and charmed the hell out of the waitress. He looked over towards me once and I waved and he smiled. I know I shouldn't say it ... but man, can these kids smile.
Afterwards when we were upstairs I confessed to Joe. "I wanted to just go and talk to them for a second and tell them that their little boy had a real future ahead of him, that they needed to think about full adulthood with work, with weddings, with worth. That anyone who tells them different is operating on old data and antiquated assumptions."
Joe admitted that he wanted to rush out to the car to get a copy of either 'the R word' or 'In:Difference' to give to them. We talked about what the right thing to do was. Would they have found our intrusion intrusive, would they have welcomed the books? Would our simply noticing and commenting on a personal aspect of their son be offensive?
What should we have done?
What would you have done?
Is even asking offensive?