Saturday, November 11, 2017
"How old were you when you enlisted, Dad?"
"Young, I was a very young man," he answered.
He talked of that young man going to basic training, being shipped over to England and then he paused and said, "You can't be prepared for what happens." He shook himself away from that thought and moved quickly to tell a story that involved water, a monastery and some small exploding device and how they combined to scare the crap out of people.He really laughed at the memory.
Over the time of our chats it became clear that he had to pull himself away from the realities of the war, in which he was a stretcher-bearer, something that make me extraordinarily proud, to funny moments, like he was trying to light candles in the vibrant colourful darkness of those memories.
My dad has made the transition from one of those who remembered to one of those now remembered. He was a Canadian Veteran.
What I've been thinking about, as I've thought about him after the funeral, was about his personal sacrifice. How much a mistake it is to 'remember the dead' and not 'remember the living who came back changed.' There is no question in my mind that the 'very young man' who enlisted was not the man who came home, he'd been changed by his sacrifice, by his willingness to serve, by the bloody trail that love for country leaves on a snowy Canadian landscape.
So today I wish to REMEMBER ALL OF THEM, those who died and those who came home different. My father carried the war with him through his whole life. I had foolishly thought that his service in the war was something he did, but I was wrong, it was something he continued to do his whole life. It was there in the words he wouldn't say and the stories he wouldn't tell.
It's easier to remember the fallen.
It's harder to see and understand the needs of those who didn't fall. But that's because of lack of willingness, loss of interest, and a refusal to recognize that heroic service given 'over there' means that there is a right to heroic service given back, 'over here.'
This Remembrance Day is the fist one that my father is qualified and considered deserving of memorializing. But we're wrong, he deserved it every day of his life from the moment he signed up until the moment he checked out.