It's pet peeve day.
I was riding the ferry over to the island when I overheard someone talking about working at a summer camp with kids with disabilities. The conversation was full of "f,umbles".
What is a "f,umble?"
"I just love working with disabled kids, but you know what, I learn so much more from them than they ever learn from me."
"I spend time volunteering at Special Olympics and you know what, they give me so much more that I could ever give them."
"F,umbles" come in variants of course:
From one non-disabled person to another who works with people with disabilities:
"I don't know how you do what you do, I just could never do that myself."
"It's amazing how you cope with the kids you work with (often said about adults) you must be so much more patient than I could ever be."
Another f,umble variant:
From a non-disabled person to a disabled person:
"You are just so amazing, I could never cope being in wheelchair like you do."
To a parent of a child with a disability:
"You must have so much more love in your heart to be able to cope with/ handle / parent your child with Down Syndrome."
F,umbles happen outside the disability context, of course, awards shows are full of them and they are equally annoying there - but I'm staying within the context of:
"What I'm amazed about with the paralympics is that they have the courage to go out and compete like that, if I was disabled like some of them, I'd never have the courage to go out." (actually said)
By now some of you will have guessed that "f,umble" is a portmanteau of faux and humble. It's a word that I coined some while ago and I've been using it in my head for quite a while. I find faux humbles annoying, particularly where the person arranges their face into an angelic glow to go along with the f,umble. I'm not sure why people feel driven to do this, but they do it often, particularly in my field of work. Yikes, it's everywhere. It's an odd form of attempting to demonstrate, in a superior way, one's personal humility. A kind of 'braggart humility" I suppose. When I'm in my darker moods, I see f,umbles as hiding an equally dark kind of hositility - and in those moods, when I hear them, they frighten me more than annoy me.
Anyways, I wanted to introduce you to a Dave-ism and wondered if any of you have you-isms yourself, I'd like to hear them. (But, no f,umble here, I wrote this mostly to get it off my chest, hearing yours would just be the cherry on top.)