I've had several comments and even more email about yesterday's post regarding Ruby being bullied. Most people want to know the magic words that I wanted to put into the story. Well, there's a story about the 'magic words'.
If you are a regular reader here you will know that I've written about being teased a lot as a child. My weight. My athletic cowess. My lack of manliness. All were fodder for bullies. Some days of my childhood were simply torture to endure. I got the 'sticks and stones' thing and it did nothing for me. I knew that confronting the bullies would lead to a shitkicking. I knew that I had to develop a kind of mental toughness.
So, I came up with a little rhyme that I would say to myself. It's a simple rhyme and, now that I look at it objectively, kind of childish. But it gave me strength. I never told anyone about it. I never shared it with a single soul. It was something that was just mine. It was then and is now precious to me. The idea of sharing it terrified me. If someone mocked it they would be mocking my way of survival. If someone laughed at it, it would be worse than the laughter I suffered as the brunt of jokes. So I kept it for 'just me'. I never even shared it with Joe.
And then when I heard that Ruby was getting teased, suddenly I wanted to share it. Suddenly it's childish nature seemed to fit with the situation. For the first time ever I wrote it down and emailed it to her.
But I wonder how vulnerable to make myself here on the blog. I've got terrific readers and the comment section here often has wonderful and respectful discussion. The discussion thread on 'Touchdowns' was terrific, really terrific. People disagreed with each other but did so with remarkable restraint. Even so, the thought of publishing it here on the blog chills me to the bone.
How do you share life strategies yet stay safe at the same time?
What would you do ... would you share ... how would you handle discussion or debate about something dear to you ... could you handle it?
What would you do if you were me? ... Help me decide.