Ruby is being bullied at school.
She is only 4.
This is pre kindergarten.
The bullying was discovered because she asked her dad, 'am I ugly daddy?' Mike was surprised at the question because Ruby doesn't tend to think of her attractiveness very often. He said, 'no, you are very pretty, why?' She then told him, as if she was confessing something wrong, that another girl at school whispers to her that she is ugly and that she should just shut up because ugly girls shouldn't talk.
Despite the fact that we do live in a world where people believe, on the whole, that ugly people shouldn't talk ... I was so angry that my spit dried up in my mouth. I could barely speak.
So Ruby was given some strategies to deal with the bullying, some ways to think about it and was encouraged to talk about it if it keeps happening. Moreover she was reassured about who she was and about how she was seen by the world.
I knew going in that Ruby was going to face a social world wherein meanness would be part of her experience. But it would have been nice if she'd made it more than 5 weeks before having to deal with what's worst in human nature.
Ruby is used to getting cards from us in the mail. I'm going to cut this blog short because right now I've stopped everything to write a little story for Ruby that I want to go in the mail tomorrow.
It's called: Ruby And The Bully
It's about a little girl named Ruby who learns about teasing and bullying, about self worth, about hurtful people and about the 'magic words' that little girls can say. These magic words knit together to form an invisible shield so that mean words are powerless to get through.
I know it works.
I use the magic words often - they are surprisingly effective for me a big guy in a wheelchair so I'm sure they can protect a little girl who is, for heaven's sake, four.