|Image description: Joe and I kissing, I'm sitting in my power chair, Joe is leaned over with his arm around my shoulders.|
I want to be clear, we weren't afraid of being discovered because we lived with shame, we didn't. We were in love, there was no room for shame. We feared the very real consequences of violence, homelessness and unemployment. We had no protections, from anyone. But we lived with it. Managed it. We knew that we'd been scarred by those first could of decades, but we made it through. We still laugh a lot, we've always laughed a lot. And, I wouldn't have predicted it then, but our love was strong enough to stretch out over 47 years.
Last weekend we were on Church Street at a pre-pride festival and there was booth there wherein one of Toronto's preeminent photographers were taking pictures of couples who love one another expressing that love. Joe and I had done a selfie of us kissing in support of the campaign called 'two men kissing' in response to the slaughter in Orlando which, apparently, had been set off because the shooter had seen 'two men kissing.' We were very cautious with that picture, we don't do public displays of affection.
However, even so, we discussed having a professional shot of us showing affection, showing love, we signed the release forms and went in to get set up. There was a lovely young guy, 43ish, chatting with us, and I told him that I was anxious and a bit afraid. 'The ways of distance' aren't easy to let go of ... Joe and I then both spoke about those years of hiding in plain sight and what touch meant then ... danger, violence, hurt. He, the young fellow, said that it was similar for him when he was young and that there is still a wariness about touch.
The photographer came in, chatted for a few seconds and then we had to kiss, and kiss and kiss again. We had trouble not laughing, we had trouble calming the nerves. but we did it.
Because we have something to celebrate. We have loved in darkness and now we love in light.
Take it from us.
Light is better.
May love always be welcome, may hearts always be free, may kisses never mean death.
Congratulations on 47 years of love. And thank you for your continued willingness to share your stories. Your openness provides education and awareness of the acceptance level that should be in the world.
And as you teach, Dave, doing damns the darkness! You and Joe have been 'doing' love for 47 years and that is a wonderful gift to each other...wishing you both many more years of loving together. Clairesmum
One day, I hope I have someone who loves me the way Joe loves you. I only spoke with Joe for a few minutes on the one occasion and the love you share was real, evident and palpable. You are fortunate to be so blessed. Wishing you both many more years of love in the light.
Love is love is love is love. Love this.
So good to have a relationship with your sitter and to have a professional pic of you and Joe and how much you love each other.
I hope so too Namaste! And 'many years of love in the light".
Belated happy anniversary! You have paved the way for a generation of people who still have painful "comings out," but who don't have to endure the sanctioned violence and ignorance that you had to live through. There is still much to do and change still but society has come so far and that is worthy of celebration.
Happy anniversary and may the world keep changing so that no one has to hide their love out of fear of hate! Love is love is love indeed!
Congratulations! You've been together as long as I've been alive! Wow.
And yes, living in the light is much better. I'm glad you can.
Congratulations! I am happy for you & pray that the rest of us may someday find the type of true love that you and Joe have had for all of these years!
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