Thursday, August 10, 2017

Dad

Photo Description: I am sitting beside my father in his hospital bed. He is holding my hand and we both are smiling.
My father died yesterday morning.

I went to visit him when he fell really ill a bit ago. During our visit we had a chance to talk and there was something, quite private, that I wanted to say to him. I don't think that we know what to thank our parents for until we are well into adulthood, I wanted to do that, and I did. That felt like an accomplishment, but it also started a series of conversations, over the phone with him. Conversations that I will now miss dreadfully.

Over the next few days I plan on writing a bit about who my dad was, or at least who he was to me, as his youngest child. But right now, I concentrating on learning how to live in a world without having a 'dad'. He lived so long that I almost believed that he's always be there.

22 comments:

Lesley Ahee said...

What a blessing to have those conversations with your Dad. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Janonwheels said...

Your Father will always be with you in your heart. My sympathies to you you and all the family x

leslie sobel said...

I am sorry for you loss and glad you were able to have those conversations before he passed.

northlighthero said...

Many Blessings to you both for good conversations and being able to share important thoughts and feelings. Love and hugs for your loss; may your grieving be gentle, deep, and complete.

Unknown said...

Your life is utterly changed by the death of one of your parents, no matter what your age. The changes may not be visible, but they are there. The conversation that you had with your dad at that visit sounds like a gift you each gave to one another.
Thinking of you and your family.
Clairesmum

Ron Arnold said...

My heartfelt condolences to you and yours Dave. I'm sorry to hear of your father's passing, but I'm very glad for you that you had the time with him you did. =)

Sandra Fleming said...

My most sincere condolences. Very pleased you have had "The Talk" you needed and some very good memories from the last few years. Also glad you have this forum to share them and hope doing so will help you adjust.
You never know how important some small thing is until you have to go on without it.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Joe and your family at this time.

Shannon said...

My sympathies to you. My dad died in 2012 and I miss him every day.

Alicia Butcher Ehrhardt said...

Please accept my condolences. My dad and I communicated mostly by phone, and I still think I could dial the number and he'd answer, "Hullo, hullo," as he always did.

CAMMIE mathers said...

I am sending you my heartfelt condolences and both you and Joe are in my thoughts.It is wonderful you had such good communication with your Dad this last little while and I know this will help to keep your soul at peace. Keep your wonderful memories close to your heart and you will find a smile each day.....

L said...

I'm really sorry for your loss. :(

Kake said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, but very glad you got to have those conversations.

Liz said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.

Blog editor said...

Wonderful memories to sustain you in your loss.
Jill

Tarawynn said...

I'm so sorry for your loss! My heartfelt condolences to you and Joe and the rest of
your family.

Rachel S said...

I am so sorry, Dave. I lost my dad years ago, and I miss him every day. Virtual hugs (if wanted) to you and yours.

wheeliecrone said...

My condolences to you, Dave.
Any person who has a good Dad in his/her life, for however long, has been given a great gift. That gift is different with each Dad, as each Dad is different. And it is the same, as each Dad is the same. I am glad that you were given that gift. When your grief has lessened, the gift will remain.

Amanda Forest Vivian said...

I'm so sorry to hear this Dave :(

SammE said...

I'm sending a hug and caring your way. I am sorry to hear of your dad's passing. My grandparents lived into their nineties, and it seemed to me they would always be there. I understand that feeling. Take care of yourself and Joe, and know there are people out here in blogland caring about you. samm

Belinda Burston said...

Sending a hug and thinking of you as you process the grief of losing your dad.

Mary Nau said...

Bittersweet.
I'm sorry, Dave.

Mel Baggs said...

Keeping all of you in my thoughts. My father died a few years ago. I am finding that I still am getting to know him better, still am developing my relationship with him, a process that was changed for the better in the reprioritizing that can come with impending death for some people. I hope -- I don't know what exactly to tell you I hope, it's your father. But I hope that you and he continue to grow together even now. I don't want to presume to know your relationship. But I didn't know such continued acquaintance and growth was possible after death, so I'm saying that it can be. However things turn out, I'm sorry for your loss.