At one point in the service the minister asks us to answer the question: What advice would you give to couples? He asks this because, as he says, after us being together for 46 years there's no real point to a sermon full of advice. Here's what happened.
Joe said that he isn't good at off the cuff kind of remarked but he (point to me is) so I'll let him do this. I joke, 'That's what you do to last.'
Then I said something like: If you want to have a relationship that lasts you need to understand that no matter how much you love the person now, that person will change over time. I feel like I've had serial monogamy with the same person. Joe isn't, now who is was at 16, nor am I, we're both grateful for that. Because if Joe was still that 16 year old, I'd be bored out of my mind. I loved the 16 year old but I REALLY love the 62 year old. So if you want it to last you need to enjoy watching your partner grow and your partner needs to enjoy watching you grow.
Or something such.
We are off for a couple of days!