tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post9006328649711610476..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Turning Down An Unwanted GiftDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79205283009128015592016-01-08T20:10:54.530-05:002016-01-08T20:10:54.530-05:00My therapist gave me a good line for times like th...My therapist gave me a good line for times like that. You stare at the person really hard and say in a very shocked voice, 'why in the world would you ever think that was an appropriate thing to say?'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56602523457300373652016-01-03T14:26:54.923-05:002016-01-03T14:26:54.923-05:00Anon, thanks I've removed it.Anon, thanks I've removed it. Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-10669631698097878702016-01-03T14:26:36.275-05:002016-01-03T14:26:36.275-05:00Anon, thanks I've removed it.Anon, thanks I've removed it. Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-75990870773012939582016-01-03T13:14:13.555-05:002016-01-03T13:14:13.555-05:00Dave, did you intend to let a particularly bizarre...Dave, did you intend to let a particularly bizarre comment go through on this post?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-78495409969470972662016-01-01T07:41:38.240-05:002016-01-01T07:41:38.240-05:00Good Lord, the man was probably expressing concern...Good Lord, the man was probably expressing concern that you hadn't secured a package, and you had left yourself open as an easy target for a thief.<br /><br />You have a knack for taking the friendly concern of a stranger and turning it into an insult.<br /><br />If someone's knapsack is gaping open in a bank line, the same observation is made a hundred times a day.<br /><br />You can take the kindness of a stranger and turn it into complete bullshit.... to use your wording.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81332916497192300962015-12-31T22:37:09.464-05:002015-12-31T22:37:09.464-05:00Arent you driving around in large, metal, motorise...Arent you driving around in large, metal, motorised vehicles that can crush idiots like him if you choose? Did he not notice that? I'd have no issues with ramming my powerchair into anyone who tried to steal from me while I was in it, or with screaming blue murder to alert everyone to the low life stealing from the cripple and running into the subway..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16595277303954088344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11637751882826199272015-12-31T20:15:12.234-05:002015-12-31T20:15:12.234-05:00I was having a conversation with my new roomie who...I was having a conversation with my new roomie who I genuinely like, in sharing my apartment with people like them is not always a given but she is full of awesome. We were talking last week. I don't remember how it came up but in the course of conversation it came up how I always feel like an easy target and she said, with a great deal of conviction you know I am sure that's true but I also think woman who live alone are targets too. I never thought about that really. It's true I think. The coolest thing about this young woman in my book and I mention it here because I know you and your readers will get this Dave, is that when she first moved in, I wasn't sure it would work because she didn't seem to get the person first language that I strive to use in my work and in my peer group until I know someone well enough to know how the feel. I had mentioned it to family and friends briefly and we kind of chuckled that maybe if I just used it she might get it at least around me. I am not the language police so in a roommate situation I don't feel I need to correct another adults behavior but as time went on and we talked more and learned about each other I realized that she is one of the most accepting people I have ever met. There's just so much more to it then always getting the words right and I learned a lesson. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-10139792348886590752015-12-31T17:42:06.129-05:002015-12-31T17:42:06.129-05:00The only good answer I can think of is on the orde...The only good answer I can think of is on the order of "If you did that, you'd really be a prize @$$h*ole, and even saying it is borderline IMHO." So I'm ready to join the Dave Stare Movement too! Thanks for sharing your perspective...you always cut right to the heart of real. Happy New Year!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36625000458477801492015-12-31T12:36:24.748-05:002015-12-31T12:36:24.748-05:00Excellent!! I'm so glad that you didn't &#...Excellent!! I'm so glad that you didn't 'catch' his anxiety, or his cruelty, and turn them inward onto yourself...or even have to struggle to 'throw away' his unwelcome 'gifts.' clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-16234176896998440122015-12-31T10:56:50.486-05:002015-12-31T10:56:50.486-05:00I propose the 'Dave stare' as the future r...I propose the 'Dave stare' as the future response to ALL inappropriate comments from strangers (unless for some reason you choose to answer).<br /><br />It is to represent, "I can't believe this person just said that."<br /><br />Maybe we can start a movement.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-66570864874741156432015-12-31T09:53:00.597-05:002015-12-31T09:53:00.597-05:00People really need to think things out before they...People really need to think things out before they say things. Having a hard time understanding people lately<br /><br />-KRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7846985738160896612015-12-31T09:19:30.665-05:002015-12-31T09:19:30.665-05:00Onya Dave :)Onya Dave :)Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.com