tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post8811954401453822190..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: I AM NOT LIKE YOU!Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34498911684029532842014-09-07T06:59:46.995-04:002014-09-07T06:59:46.995-04:00Thank you so much for this word picture:my heart s...Thank you so much for this word picture:my heart slaps hands over my mouth.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687247995782738654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25676033284902795282014-09-07T05:21:05.885-04:002014-09-07T05:21:05.885-04:00Bless you for developing that heart. Poor, cruel ...Bless you for developing that heart. Poor, cruel soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-8389676932524677122014-09-07T00:47:42.053-04:002014-09-07T00:47:42.053-04:00It's typically human, eh, - sad but human. A c...It's typically human, eh, - sad but human. A caregiver said something about normal people to me the other day. Then she paused and said "oh, that was terrible...". I've heard it so many times before and knew she meant no offence so I said, yeah, I use that word too but sometimes I'm not being very complimentary. <br /><br />It is sad to see/hear someone who has their own distinct challenges putting down someone else to feel better about themselves.<br /><br />Thanks, Dave. B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56046665299746251702014-09-06T21:09:35.075-04:002014-09-06T21:09:35.075-04:00It's everywhere. It's as if the disabled a...It's everywhere. It's as if the disabled are having a competition on their own to see who is more disabled. I want to say, DING DING! YOU WIN! You are better than me. Now please get out of my way. audaciousladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15499838752679784052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-4026925335120488362014-09-06T14:27:20.002-04:002014-09-06T14:27:20.002-04:00Thank you for your generosity Thank you for your generosity Louisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-40045489614163785212014-09-06T12:23:06.967-04:002014-09-06T12:23:06.967-04:00What strikes me most when disabled people pull thi...What strikes me most when disabled people pull this hierarchical crap is that they forget, or don't notice, or are afraid to notice that, as you pointed out, plenty of visibly nondisabled people use the accessible options for perfectly valid reasons (lots of packages in hand, several children in tow, etc). It's an excellent argument for universal design.<br /><br />I'm sorry that woman was creul to you, though. Lashing out at others is one of the les cool things about human nature. Robinhttp://www.robinstoynest.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73136043339779580932014-09-06T12:16:47.427-04:002014-09-06T12:16:47.427-04:00I DESPISE the Disability Olympics. "My disabi...I DESPISE the Disability Olympics. "My disability is worse/better than yours!' "Well, at least I'm not as bad off as YOU!" and the all-popular event, "I'm more *normal* than you are!"<br /><br />Sometimes I think this is what is really behind the whole "disability inspiration porn" crap - the percentage of disabled people who are very loud about the fact that they do things JUST LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE DO. As if there's something not normal about a disability, as if they can pretend their disability doesn't exist, as if the world will magically 'heal' a disability if you just act 'normal.'<br /><br />I hate people.<br /><br /><br />Moosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397412122635951126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9244843078230804452014-09-06T11:54:31.527-04:002014-09-06T11:54:31.527-04:00I am reminded of the time the Saint to the lepers,...I am reminded of the time the Saint to the lepers, Damien, was able to say, one morning as he preached, "We lepers..." when he began - up until that moment he had served the lepers on Molokai faithfully and lovingly, but as a non-disabled servant because of his love for them.<br /><br />You have educated me so much since I began to read your blog - now I laugh at myself, and all the lessons I have learned in the past 25 years of being disabled. <br /><br />Many of them, especially at the time, I have NOT wanted to learn.<br /><br />Most of your posts are gentle, educational, and loving - with an occasional slap 'upside the head,' but I don't kid myself: disability doesn't make me a better or more loving person. Only what I do and think and say does that.<br /><br />I will be learning the rest of my life. I continue to hope it will translate into as much action as possible.<br /><br />AliciaABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-87672636667878499362014-09-06T10:56:58.576-04:002014-09-06T10:56:58.576-04:00I too love - my heart slaps hands over my mouth- W...I too love - my heart slaps hands over my mouth- What a wonderful phrase. I expect to quote that many times into the future. Charlotte<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-5833496271979925532014-09-06T10:06:44.461-04:002014-09-06T10:06:44.461-04:00Dear Dave,
I have not commented here for a while ...Dear Dave,<br /><br />I have not commented here for a while even though a read here everyday.<br /><br />Right now I am experiencing a lot of trouble with my body and am in more pain than usual. And I am stressed and sad.<br /><br />And feeling like this: every move causing pain and effort makes me insecure with myself and my surroundings.<br /><br />I think thats what would me think in categories like "at least I still can do this or that like a normal person".<br /><br />Acceptance of ones limitations is a very hard learned lesson.<br /><br />I love that you have such a attentionable heart.<br /><br />JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7565935950676026192014-09-06T09:12:24.602-04:002014-09-06T09:12:24.602-04:00And here I will quite cheerfully use anything that...And here I will quite cheerfully use anything that will make my life easier and therefore allow me to enjoy it more fully!Flemisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-17374079166291492822014-09-06T08:19:34.017-04:002014-09-06T08:19:34.017-04:00Dear Dave:
I love that - my heart slaps hands ove...Dear Dave:<br /><br />I love that - my heart slaps hands over my mouth. There are times when my heart needs to get those hands securely slapped over my mouth. I'm sad to say it doesn't always make it. <br /><br />Your post reminded me of one of my most distressing experiences with my daughter Cari. We had been getting some support from War Amps. They had been great at getting me in touch with other parents of children with Cornelia de Lange Syndrome. And they invited our whole family to a conference of other families of children with amputations in Ottawa. So, the opening remarks were by Cliff Chadderton, who had been a leader at War Amps for a long time and everyone seemed to like and respect him. Here was his message: our kids may be missing limbs but at least they are not missing their brains. I don't think he used the r word but he might as well have. There I sat holding my precious daughter, who did have a developmental disability, with tears rolling down my face. It was one of the most devastating moments for me -encountering prejudice where I had reason to expect support. We never accepted their help again.<br /><br />I think that hierarchy is so much a part of our society we aren't even aware of it until we run into it's more blatant expressions.<br /><br />Thanks for this post<br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-31674944813693683922014-09-06T06:50:37.244-04:002014-09-06T06:50:37.244-04:00I have seen that hierarchy in members of the disab...I have seen that hierarchy in members of the disabled community and have felt amazed by it for years. The most stunning example was when a woman said, "I may be blind, but I'm not r*&^*&^d." It was heartbreaking to me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com