tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post8784561573683730654..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: WaitingDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88575298137402788312009-02-21T16:01:00.000-05:002009-02-21T16:01:00.000-05:00I push a stroller in the grocery store and people ...I push a stroller in the grocery store and people treat me the same way. What is it? Do people who are in a hurry feel they can be rude to the general public because they are late. I had one man in Tim's COMPLAIN and GRUMBLE to me that I was in his way. Sour, mean old man. Had he said "excuse me" I would most certainly have moved but instead he rudely and abruptly Grunted that I was in his way and then forced himself past the stroller. So I just said "I would have moved if you had asked, so next time ask first" And this is what I mean by saying whats on my mind. When I was younger I don't think i would have even said that. I would have just ignored his rudeness and carried on with my day. Now i think I'm losing my patience.Ssejorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04062078013214898000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64335349409888309722009-02-20T10:09:00.000-05:002009-02-20T10:09:00.000-05:00What a terrible situation, especially when you rea...What a terrible situation, especially when you realize in certain ways she is *lucky*. There are others being treated similarly who have no way to communicate what they are going through. I think about one of the kids I work with being cared for by someone like that - many of them are nonverbal or minimally verbal.Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230821659466586897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-5833905146735589532009-02-18T08:04:00.000-05:002009-02-18T08:04:00.000-05:00Your post brought me to the edge of tears. How hor...Your post brought me to the edge of tears. How horrible for this precious lady, and so many others like her, to have her golden years tainted in such a disgusting manner. Having watched several of my loved ones go through the stages of getting older, and eventually passing on, I am always reminded of my mother's words when I was very young and impatient: "That will be me someday, and that will be you someday." This was when I couldn't imagine her getting any older that 40, and when I assumed that my own old age was so very, very, far away. Bless my mom for personalizing this issue in a way that I 'got it'. And bless all my elders for being patient with ME, before I learned to be patient with THEM. This nasty companion is not only making life miserable for someone else, but she is cheating herself as well. Every well-lined face is an encyclopedia of a fascinating history, if we will only take the time to turn the pages. Shame on her for being so mean-spirited and cruel, and bless you for reaching out. I don't know that I would have had the nerve to step in at all, being afraid of reprisals meant for me being hurled at that dear lady. You manged to strike a perfect balance between offering help, but not making the situation worse. I really hope she calls you. She has no idea (yet) what a wonderful person you are and how much help you could possibly bring her way.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16171428636839043425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55684786465810962032009-02-17T23:46:00.000-05:002009-02-17T23:46:00.000-05:00I'm with Tricia - I hope the meanie is, indeed, hi...I'm with Tricia - I hope the meanie is, indeed, hired, and not in the family.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88257527306562315912009-02-17T22:11:00.000-05:002009-02-17T22:11:00.000-05:00It always makes me remember how naive I am, how I ...It always makes me remember how naive I am, how I expect that most people are basically good, when I read some of your posts. Especially about people who are "helping". It's just devastating.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-78247266779420527542009-02-17T18:12:00.000-05:002009-02-17T18:12:00.000-05:00I am simply sick at reading this, and the comments...I am simply sick at reading this, and the comments, which make me realize that it is common. Simply sickrickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34398261736007756882009-02-17T18:08:00.000-05:002009-02-17T18:08:00.000-05:00Way to go Dave!!!Curious. In the states there are...Way to go Dave!!!<BR/><BR/>Curious. In the states there are cameras at the grocery check-outs, and Adult Protective Services anonymous reporting possibilities.<BR/>Might you have the same in Canada?<BR/><BR/>The situation makes me so angry there is nothing more to say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-69819892536337714002009-02-17T16:44:00.000-05:002009-02-17T16:44:00.000-05:00I hope the dear lady calls you. She was a smart co...I hope the dear lady calls you. She was a smart cookie to not give the note to the paid helper.<BR/>When my mom was in assisted living because of end-stage Parkinson's, we found she was treated better than most because our family was there constantly. One worker was overheard saying to be careful, as "her family was fussy". My goodness, what they would call fussy is what we would call treating people with respect and caring hearts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-39595509156170260382009-02-17T14:49:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:49:00.000-05:00Dave,I witnessed a situation once with a young man...Dave,<BR/>I witnessed a situation once with a young man with a disbility, who was being terribly verbally abused by a 'father or uncle', I couldn't tell what the relationship was. I was in a waiting room filled with people, and the man's words - though he spoke in a whisper - I was sitting across the room and could hear the hatred. It killed me, but all I could think was that if I said anything, this young man was leaving with this abuser - and not me. So out of fear for his safety I didn't say anything. <BR/><BR/>I followed him to the back when he was called in for his appointment, pretending I was looking for someone, but uncle/dad was right behind me - so no chance to talk to him alone.<BR/><BR/>I don't know if in my case I could have done the same thing, but it is something I will do, if I think I can help.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for writing about this. My thoughts are that in public people tend to refrain so can you just imagine what these people act like in private. I really hope she calls!linahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00675640977094855867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-15078459845725278492009-02-17T13:15:00.000-05:002009-02-17T13:15:00.000-05:00How rude... to actually bump you on purpose.I hope...How rude... to actually bump you on purpose.<BR/><BR/>I hope that if she were to ring that maybe one day another more satisfying blog can be posted.<BR/><BR/>Fingers crossed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73991699003239798342009-02-17T12:47:00.000-05:002009-02-17T12:47:00.000-05:00you did the right thing. I would have exploded at ...you did the right thing. I would have exploded at the aide, not realizing the potential consequences for the other poor lady afterwards. You handled it just right.<BR/><BR/>I really hope she calls. It is not OK to be treated like that.One Sick Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744571221745247997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55899166408845039672009-02-17T12:44:00.000-05:002009-02-17T12:44:00.000-05:00Thank you, Dave! I'd probably not have been silen...Thank you, Dave! I'd probably not have been silent at her running the cart into me, but I also have fragile bones. I strongly resent it when people try to play bumper-carts with my body.<BR/><BR/>I have seen more hired caregivers at various doctor's offices lately and it makes me mad how patronizing they can be, though I've not seen someone be abusive like this. Don't these people realize they're likely to be in the same place someday?FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56000575125735064872009-02-17T10:47:00.000-05:002009-02-17T10:47:00.000-05:00oh, well done. exactly the right way to handle it....oh, well done. exactly the right way to handle it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3357443002871856012009-02-17T08:55:00.000-05:002009-02-17T08:55:00.000-05:00I'm hoping the person is a hired aide that can be ...I'm hoping the person is a hired aide that can be fired. What I wondered is if it might be a daughter or a daughter-in-law? Much worse scenario. Poor old dear - she should be treated with love and respect. :(Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11399022634436650094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84968123197661566892009-02-17T08:34:00.000-05:002009-02-17T08:34:00.000-05:00As kind as so many of Mum's Helping Hands ladies a...As kind as so many of Mum's Helping Hands ladies are, I am fully aware that it is my brother's presence in the flat upstairs that gives me a sense of her safety and the preservation of her dignity. He watches what time they arrive and when they leave, some only stay for a few minutes when they are paid for half an hour. Without an outside pair of eyes, the elderly are so very vulnerable and even rush her weekly shower, which is such a treat for her, when 6 days a week she gives herself a sponge bath.I'm grateful for your note, Dave, but I feel so sad that human beings can be so callous and especially when they are being paid to serve.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79148009370103694502009-02-17T07:23:00.000-05:002009-02-17T07:23:00.000-05:00Good for you! The cart woman sounds truly mean-sp...Good for you! The cart woman sounds truly mean-spirited - I hate to think of her "caring" for anyone.painting with firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01578014572547587329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36164265717083811672009-02-17T06:57:00.000-05:002009-02-17T06:57:00.000-05:00I came across this quote right after reading your ...I came across this quote right after reading your blog:<BR/>"Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and the wrong. Sometime in your life you will have been all of these.” <BR/> Dr. Robert H. Goddard quote<BR/><BR/>I hope she calls you soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73089587779771434802009-02-17T06:40:00.000-05:002009-02-17T06:40:00.000-05:00Simply unbelievable! I sincerely hope that the el...Simply unbelievable! I sincerely hope that the elderly woman never has to take you up on the offer to call.Carleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759364225378314114noreply@blogger.com