tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post7274388811417640540..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Who Holds The Camera?Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-51590408998941242082013-10-09T15:02:44.719-04:002013-10-09T15:02:44.719-04:00"Then, I decided that I would think about thi..."Then, I decided that I would think about this on the rest of the way home and that by the time I was home I would be done with it. I was not going to carry it around with me through the evening and into the days and weeks afterwards."<br /><br />You can do that?!?<br /><br />Wow. How do you actually *choose* not to think about something? I could never do that. No matter how much I try to think about something else, the moment I relax my guard, the thought I've been avoiding comes back up.Ettinahttp://abnormaldiversity.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24381535021154609912013-10-08T12:05:51.969-04:002013-10-08T12:05:51.969-04:00Reading your post, I am reminded of the line from ...Reading your post, I am reminded of the line from the previous post "He fears in himself what he sees in us" Just about sums it up. Princeton Possenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18583086836122838522013-10-07T23:11:48.432-04:002013-10-07T23:11:48.432-04:00To the Anonymous on Oct 6 at 23:00 ... Um ... how ...To the Anonymous on Oct 6 at 23:00 ... Um ... how is arming yourself FOR SELF DEFENSE playing into the arena of the bullies? This is not making sense to me.Andrea S.http://ramblingjustice.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65834122874798319672013-10-07T11:13:39.624-04:002013-10-07T11:13:39.624-04:00thanks for the post. I am a person with dwarfism....thanks for the post. I am a person with dwarfism. I often encounter strangers with cameras pointed in my direction. I strongly identified with your reaction to the filming. Though I am sorry this happens to you, it's empowering to know that we share a similar struggle. Gary M. Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380617782801372424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18838850692702046012013-10-07T11:10:09.348-04:002013-10-07T11:10:09.348-04:00This post resonated with me. I am a person of sho...This post resonated with me. I am a person of short stature and often have my photo taken. The experience you shared -- both that of the film taken and the discourse you have with yourself after the fact -- completely mirrors what goes through my head when I think about strangers with cameras pointed in my direction. Thanks for sharing. Gary M. Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380617782801372424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-83830933298504920812013-10-07T08:12:29.399-04:002013-10-07T08:12:29.399-04:00I read a blog called "Dances With Fat" i...I read a blog called "Dances With Fat" in which there was a recent post about how dangerously disempowering it is to suggest that if someone is truly at peace with themselves, that they can't react with justifiable anger when confronted with someone/something that is intended to oppress or cause harm. I thought about this as I read the comment toward the end by Anonymous in which they question Dave for preparing himself against bullying, etc. It basically says that if Dave is really as at peace with himself and his life, he wouldn't react like he did, and to me, that kind of thinking silences the voices of people who should be heard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67925264142007702142013-10-07T07:43:27.669-04:002013-10-07T07:43:27.669-04:00I really wanted to respond to this and be supporti...I really wanted to respond to this and be supportive, but I've been at a loss for words. I really like what you said about the man existing in a mind frame that you cannot understand. I can't either. <br /><br />Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84345567894956266332013-10-06T23:00:15.266-04:002013-10-06T23:00:15.266-04:00There are 3 things that disturb me about this post...There are 3 things that disturb me about this post. One - the actions of this man. Rude, disrespectful and obviously with intention to hurt. Two - that you search on Google to see if you are attacked. Wow. Really? Thirdly - you mentioned that once you were home you were done with it. I sense that may not be true. You wrote about it. Further, in your comments,you vow to take your phones with you to take his picture. I certainly understand the reason. Yet...I can't help but think that there is more here. You said something about "anticipating bullying". If you arm yourself, physically and emotionally, are you not playing in their arena? I see you as being so much greater than that! You are loved, you are claimed and boy do you have a purpose. Is it about winning? Just a few thoughts. I too dislike being colored by crayons of fiction and fantasy - crayons from someone else's pack. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-41670877082543979982013-10-06T20:29:31.777-04:002013-10-06T20:29:31.777-04:00You do win. Good for you. It is a hateful thing th...You do win. Good for you. It is a hateful thing that he did but I can't think of any way to redeem the situation better than you did except for asking for his name and address so that you can report him to the police--but I don't think I'd be brave enough to do that. What he was doing must be a violation of privacy on some level. If not there should be a law against it. I know there is work being done in response to online bullying and posting of compromising video clips. It can't be done fast enough.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-30154049303402094512013-10-06T16:16:12.195-04:002013-10-06T16:16:12.195-04:00Great post! I am reminded of the final episode of...Great post! I am reminded of the final episode of Seinfeld, in which the group is arrested under the good Samaritan law for not only not helping a man being mugged, but filming and laughing about how fat he was. John Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15629282925024337676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-16308720401301323722013-10-06T15:17:25.235-04:002013-10-06T15:17:25.235-04:00As horrible as that experience was, I do see a sma...As horrible as that experience was, I do see a small glimmer of hope in this story -- namely, that the camera-wielder's acquaintance, with whom he tried to share his sense of superiority, did <i>not</i> join in his laughter, but was, instead, visibly upset by the "joke," even from a distance.<br /><br />I hope he (and all of us) had the courage to speak up, and say <i>why</i>.CapriUnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906524679880178584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47844321082018982402013-10-06T14:55:39.439-04:002013-10-06T14:55:39.439-04:00Man, that stinks. :(Man, that stinks. :(Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50532639859952921252013-10-06T13:40:55.253-04:002013-10-06T13:40:55.253-04:00Dave,
When I read this I thought of a quote I have...Dave,<br />When I read this I thought of a quote I have in my file that is so very true.<br /><br />"When people insult you, don't take offense, don't take it personally... They are revealing how they see the world. They are revealing the negative qualities they themselves possess. <br /><br />'The Law of Mirrors' states that one can only see what's inside you, regardless of whether it is present in reality or not." ~ Doe Zantamata<br /><br />Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133236228952504852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-74401641910989012272013-10-06T11:40:07.207-04:002013-10-06T11:40:07.207-04:00hear hear Dave :)hear hear Dave :)Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42926250991370502512013-10-06T10:43:20.062-04:002013-10-06T10:43:20.062-04:00"They will be commenting on the 'fictiona..."They will be commenting on the 'fictional me' that they create in their minds, they will write stories and biographies dipping their pen into the inkpots of stereotype and bigotry."<br /><br />What an absolutely perfect way to describe what happens. WOW, Dave...poetry.<br /><br /> Belly (Liz McLennan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12185843639648333419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-57516420384141880872013-10-06T10:38:53.477-04:002013-10-06T10:38:53.477-04:00i remember when Ruby referred to you as "MY D...i remember when Ruby referred to you as "MY Dave" a while back....you are indeed loved, and claimed...<br />i'm sad that you were bullied, but i am grateful to you for sharing your experience in how you refused to give the bully more power over you. you live what you teach, and vice versa. <br />hoping for a pleasant day for you and Joe. clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76113225648372047552013-10-06T10:30:04.426-04:002013-10-06T10:30:04.426-04:00Nasty bit of work who has no one who really likes ...Nasty bit of work who has no one who really likes him so has to get his pathetic kicks out of filming one of the kindest, thoughtful people I know and admire who was just going about his time off from work, with the man he loves. He is worthless pond life! Enjoyed saying that. Sorry to the pond life for the insults.<br />Two fingers to him Dave!Jayne Waleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453464335047666502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21991668115192341422013-10-06T08:38:52.591-04:002013-10-06T08:38:52.591-04:00Maggie, Joe and I had decided to leave our phones ...Maggie, Joe and I had decided to leave our phones at home. I will never do that again. I would have taken his picture so if I came across his little film I could snap off the cloak of anonymity.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72878747623598681472013-10-06T08:37:26.196-04:002013-10-06T08:37:26.196-04:00Jan, I have had my picture taken many, many times ...Jan, I have had my picture taken many, many times by people who've read my books or seen me lecture. This was NOT one of those times. He aimed his camera, then got away from where I could speak to him, then looked at it and laughed. I am well old enough to know when I am being honoured and when I'm being reviled.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12903868328930935622013-10-06T08:17:37.417-04:002013-10-06T08:17:37.417-04:00It just sucks that there are bullies in the world....It just sucks that there are bullies in the world. As I read your words today, I had a vision of a little camera tucked into a pocket of your chair, quickly lifted and aimed at the man with the video and the laughing friend.<br /><br />Who holds the camera now?<br /><br />I so appreciate the way you see things, and how often the way you spell them out makes me see things in my own life.<br /><br />Thanks.<br />Maggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-52041512328053165742013-10-06T07:54:28.433-04:002013-10-06T07:54:28.433-04:00Umm, Dave, you do have some degree of fame. Perhap...Umm, Dave, you do have some degree of fame. Perhaps the camera holder recognized you and wanted to record that he knew you? jan goldfieldhttp://www.pondlady.comnoreply@blogger.com