tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post6579353099485805794..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: One Ride Two PerspectivesDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-15141970103613670332016-12-06T21:21:22.197-05:002016-12-06T21:21:22.197-05:00I hope that mom was able to continue the conversat...I hope that mom was able to continue the conversation and turn it back around so that her girls would understand that the elderly man who made such insensitive comments was wrong, wrong, wrong. Ugh....<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06352332380562232996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-15665646299772918842016-12-04T13:30:43.794-05:002016-12-04T13:30:43.794-05:00I am afraid I would have asked where his helper wa...I am afraid I would have asked where his helper was since he obviously needed assistance from his walker. To me they are one and the same -- an assistance that makes it easier to do everything that needs to be done. Hope the mother was able to help the children learn that.<br />And hope you had a great time at the party.Flemisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06071892012220547892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36508422144856451012016-12-04T11:29:04.164-05:002016-12-04T11:29:04.164-05:00oh dear! this ride could have ended so differentl...oh dear! this ride could have ended so differently. sometimes those lovely moments turn into teaching moments....i hope that mom and her girls were able to sort this all out. <br />Kids help their parents in all families, teaching kids the idea that we are responsible for and help each other in this world is an important part of being a parent. <br />the expectations on kids do need to be developmentally appropriate to the age/temperment of the child. the man using the walker clearly was judging on a back/white scale and all of human life are shades of gray. <br />The kids are going to run up against this attitude over and over...this time on the bus gives the mom a chance to start the discussion and teach them what she believes and how their family works.....will maybe help her girls respond to the stereotype when it happens again. <br />hope you enjoyed your work party, Dave. <br />ClairesmumUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-48780268788897500892016-12-04T10:53:40.434-05:002016-12-04T10:53:40.434-05:00A man that old grew up in a time when everyone rei...A man that old grew up in a time when everyone reinforced how much of a burden disabled people were - it's sad that nothing has softened or improved for him.<br /><br />But he isn't the only one in that boat.<br /><br />If we hadn't picked up those messages when we were young (I'm 67), would WE be trying so hard to pass as able wherever possible? And not cause undue burdens - when possible?<br /><br />I've been disabled 27 years. It cost me my planned life as a research physicist. And it's only been these last couple of years that I can even say I'm disabled, because the stigma is so huge. <br /><br />The mental part is so hard, as you keep telling us.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14943245305398851052016-12-04T08:56:02.915-05:002016-12-04T08:56:02.915-05:00I really hope it is your message that those girls ...I really hope it is your message that those girls hold on to, that wheelchairs mean freedom and that they can be a lot of fun. Part of me wants to dismiss that man's awful view point as a generational difference but I know that's not true, I've met people a quarter of his age who see people with disabilities as burdens. My partner gets so annoyed when people insist on telling me how lucky I am to have him, that he "stuck by me" when I became disabled. He's never known how to respond because he just couldn't understand why anyone would say something like that. To him it's simple, he loves me so there wasn't a choice to be made. <br /><br />That man's words were even more hurtful and my heart breaks for that mother. She was obviously taking care of her children, she was out with them with no help. Just because there are a few things the kids need to do for their mum, that doesn't mean they take care of her anymore than other children take care of their able parents. We all do things to help our loved ones, it's how families work.Girl on wheelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08796804535876857751noreply@blogger.com