tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post6437161197524369693..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Space CadetDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55126293883983775332012-11-21T10:30:03.203-05:002012-11-21T10:30:03.203-05:00Dave,
I know kind of what you feel like, I hav...Dave,<br /> I know kind of what you feel like, I have always had 0 confidence and had to watch what others do to feel as though I would know what to do. <br /> That being said though, I wish there were a couple hundred people just like you.<br />LisaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051482989794391914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-91638390758208716982012-11-18T13:18:05.976-05:002012-11-18T13:18:05.976-05:00I was just talking to my neighbour today who was s...I was just talking to my neighbour today who was saying exactly this. How little room she is supposed o take up. However people don't seem to mind using her space, deliberately going into the wider one space wheelchair cashier point. No one challenges it and she just puts up with it. So struggling on her crutches which is so painful with her arthritis and fractured hip someone kicks the back of her heel . Just not looking and so busy nd so uncaring. You know they did not even notice and she cried out between her teeth and pain and dred not turn round. An elderly lady struggling. How dare that happen! Wish I had been with her.Jayne walesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68830133180393176932012-11-17T13:00:49.722-05:002012-11-17T13:00:49.722-05:00Hi Dave,
Nobody can tell you how to think or feel...Hi Dave, <br />Nobody can tell you how to think or feel, but personally it breaks my heart that you feel that way. There are many different mobility devices, makes and models, shapes and sizes that might make the physical space issue a little less daunting but the bigger issue is how you feel "guilty". Stop it right now! You deserve as much space as you need. If someone walks into your wheelchair ... It is not your fault... If you are blocking the way for some reason, all they need to do is politely ask you if you could move a little.... like we do for anyone, mobility device or not.SCGhttp://mymobilitycare.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50332850119149603502012-11-16T21:20:25.188-05:002012-11-16T21:20:25.188-05:00Me, too, Dave. I feel like I am in the way. All th...Me, too, Dave. I feel like I am in the way. All the time. I am not a particularly big person. That's not it. I have never felt entitled to - take up any space.<br />I automatically apologise when someone runs into me. I don't understand why. They weren't looking where they were going, but I apologise.<br />If you find a way to fix this, please let me know. I would like to feel that I am entitled to take up space on this earth, sometime before I leave it.wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77150297694523949082012-11-16T17:04:12.720-05:002012-11-16T17:04:12.720-05:00You willYou willtheknappernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23959551616094869322012-11-16T02:50:26.047-05:002012-11-16T02:50:26.047-05:00I certainly can relate to some aspects of your acc...I certainly can relate to some aspects of your account. I've always been a big person. From grade 3 and on. I was super-sensitive on how much "space" I took. I was always apologizing, even when someone else bumped into me. Somehow I felt I didn't deserve the room I took up. And, being totally honest, I did (and do) take up more space than "average". Yet - after my head injury, and perhaps with a little age thrown in there - I no longer feel quite the same. I am aware of my surroundings and purposely do not "park" myself in the way - nor block an aisle or door. I sense those behind me and let the faster traffic pass. But, I do not apologize. In fact - if someone bumps into me - to be open - I tend to get annoyed at them. I'm not saying it is good to get annoyed, especially if it was an accident - but I find it interesting that I no longer feel the need to apologize. Call it growth or grumpiness - I just like to think my inside has grown to match my outside - and I deserve the space I need. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com