tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post62615400224103565..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: A Blog About BloggingDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68949012310069292932013-05-21T17:47:31.383-04:002013-05-21T17:47:31.383-04:00I'm sad, and frustrated, and a bit angry that ...I'm sad, and frustrated, and a bit angry that people are treating you this way, Dave. I can't believe that people are running around trying to dictate what you should put in your blog! I mean, if you were occasionally putting in x-rated episodes, I'd understand why someone would be taken aback, but you talking in a polite-enough-for-company manner about your life just seems like...well, what a blog is for.<br /><br />We don't know each other well. I'm a sometimes reader and a less-times commenter, but I keep periodically coming around because I like the you I've gotten to meet via your blog. You seem to keep a hopeful way of looking at people. It reminds me a bit of my fiance, who tends to have that same positive outlook on people - a lot of reading your blog sounds like I imagine his thoughts do. It is something that I have always struggled with, but especially since I joined the disability community.<br /><br />Be well, Dave, and write what you are drawn to write. It's your space, after all. We're just guests, and guests should be polite to their hosts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-85349400182777009402013-04-03T20:49:01.949-04:002013-04-03T20:49:01.949-04:00I'm so sad you've got these "concern ...I'm so sad you've got these "concern trolls" after you, Dave. <br /><br />Personally, I enjoy your blog exactly because it's personal, and because you're a whole, interesting, complicated person. Who thinks really carefully about disability and other issues and tells stories in a way that's taught me SO much over the years. (I still have you bookmarked as "Chewing the Fat."<br /><br />Change of topic; a question that came up for me from your description of how being gay and discriminated against is the biggest shaper of your worldview. I wonder, is gay something you ARE and disability is something that HAPPENED to you? And does that make a big difference in a way that's important? Cynthia F.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-91207052345223152692013-04-03T18:36:16.929-04:002013-04-03T18:36:16.929-04:00Dave,
I've just discovered your blog in these ...Dave,<br />I've just discovered your blog in these last few days and am enjoying it enormously. Just wanted to express my appreciation for your willingness to be honest and nothing other than what you are, and for sharing that with us, your readers. <br /><br />As we said back in the 60's;<br />Peace Out... <br />Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133236228952504852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9452649136992505832013-04-03T01:22:05.162-04:002013-04-03T01:22:05.162-04:00Dave, I have never met you in real life, but I am ...Dave, I have never met you in real life, but I am so, so, so sorry to hear that people have been bullying you about what you have been writing! :(<br /><br />I have never found any of your content inappropriate. It is thoughtful and personal. You are not writing on behalf of your employer(s), it is clearly just your personal views.<br /><br />I find it interesting and thought provoking.<br /><br />How dare people tell you it is inappropriate to write about a loving, longterm relationship between two consenting adults! :(<br /><br />I feel angry and indignant on your behalf just hearing that!<br /><br />Writing about you and Joe helps model a loving, mutually supportive relationship for your readers and their children.<br /><br />It also helps gay and lesbian teenagers know that there is a place for them, there is a future for them. Your blog is a tiny spoonful against the tide of hate and prejudice that drives so many gay and lesbian teenagers to take their own lives.<br /><br />Love is what makes life worthwhile. Love helps us get through physical pain and illness, through prejudice, through bad days.<br /><br />Thank you for your blog.<br /><br />Please don't ever feel the need to censor yourself. <br /><br />If people don't like what you write, they can choose not to read it!Moomin Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54714329084197529472013-04-02T15:56:53.194-04:002013-04-02T15:56:53.194-04:00Adding my two cents that of course you should keep...Adding my two cents that of course you should keep writing what you like, and ignore anyone who says otherwise.<br />SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13410750478634735082013-04-02T09:41:44.284-04:002013-04-02T09:41:44.284-04:00Dave,
Thank goodness you don't have to run yo...Dave,<br /><br />Thank goodness you don't have to run your blog posts by a committee for approval! Who are these people who think they know more about what you should write than you do??? If they want a particular kind of blog and you aren't writing it then perhaps they should take up writing it themselves!wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-63695784073026059502013-04-02T02:16:18.658-04:002013-04-02T02:16:18.658-04:00I hope you will get back to valuing yourself, your...I hope you will get back to valuing yourself, your life and your voice. I also hope the joy of writing will win over the misery of others. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71560618314944907532013-04-01T21:28:23.996-04:002013-04-01T21:28:23.996-04:00.....April Fools..? Hard to believe people can be ........April Fools..? Hard to believe people can be so awful sometimes. Ok, well, maybe not that hard to believe... Anyway, I love your blog exactly as it is. :) I can't imagine reading something, but deciding ahead of time what I want it to say. Then what's the point? If I want to read specifically about a given topic, then I can find plenty of reading on that topic. But here, I absolutely enjoy reading your thoughts and your unique perspectives. No agenda or party lines, just raw humanity. :) <br /><br />I love how your identity integrates your membership in the disability community, the faith community, the gay community... I also consider myself a member of the first two, and supporter of the third. They're all important to me. And the most interesting, most complex, and often most painful stuff comes, for me, when those components overlap and conflict!<br /><br />For the record, I also enjoy reading anecdotes about Ruby and Sadie, about the arts, about Canada, about places you visit, and whatever else is rolling around in your head. ;)Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853148802460437796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68861889721275450502013-04-01T21:14:31.002-04:002013-04-01T21:14:31.002-04:00I have often thought, as I read your blog, that yo...I have often thought, as I read your blog, that you sound like an interesting person. Someone who would be interesting to have coffee (or tea!) with, and a chat.<br />It has never once occurred to me that you "should" - that you should have a certain set of beliefs, or attitudes, or behaviours. Never once.<br /><br />I cannot decide who you are, you decide that. If I tell you who I am, that is sharing. If I tell you who you are or who you should be, that's abuse. Every time.<br /><br />What I'm trying to say is, you do not need my permission or anyone else's to be who you are. Speaking personally, I am grateful for who you are. Please keep on writing your blog using your personal set of rules. Please keep on showing me your thoughts.wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86323071631935968282013-04-01T20:21:32.151-04:002013-04-01T20:21:32.151-04:00Oh, yes - Illegitimi non carborundum!
(It sounds...Oh, yes - Illegitimi non carborundum! <br />(It sounds so much nicer in latin). <br /><br />Write for the love of writing. We read because what pours out is always interesting, well written, and often unexpected and new. And, as several people pointed out, the naysayers will always write in - the rest of your fans may not always comment (sorry!) but we're here, always happy for another story or tidbit or bit of enlightenment from Dave. <br /><br />[That said, did someone ask you to write about Robert Saylor? Sorry, my peeps are pretty fired up about him. Please forgive our excessive & apparently clumsy advocacy]krlrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14392064691347464660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-39456446932130938732013-04-01T15:26:42.171-04:002013-04-01T15:26:42.171-04:00Dear Dave, I'm so grateful for your reflection...Dear Dave, I'm so grateful for your reflections that I read daily - and appreciate that we have some common views and some divergent views about life. What a rich relationship we have had - on that has had a tremendous bearing on my professional and personal life! I don't get to see you as often as I would like - AND I find that your blog makes me feel like we still connect.<br />Thank you for "taking it for the team" - and if I were to have the nerve to offer you advice, it would be:<br />Illegitimi non carborundum <br /><br />Best Regards Susan Ludwig GoharrizAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24111618723940771522013-04-01T15:23:23.122-04:002013-04-01T15:23:23.122-04:00Dave,
Your blog is your blog. Whatever you want t...Dave,<br /><br />Your blog is your blog. Whatever you want to write about is on topic because it's your blog, and the topic is "things Dave is thinking about and wants to write about."<br /><br />I am a stranger to you. I don't get to come into your living room and criticise your knick-knacks, or say that your snowglobe is out of place on the table, because it's your table and you placed your snowglobe there because that's where you wanted it! (I don't know if you have a snowglobe or a living room table, but pretend that you do.) Similarly, the words that you place on your own blog are placed there on purpose by you because you feel they belong here and no one has a right to say that's not so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84456960300480265562013-04-01T15:06:15.794-04:002013-04-01T15:06:15.794-04:00I really like your blog - and I appreciate that yo...I really like your blog - and I appreciate that you share your thoughts and experiences so openly. I don't always agree with you, but you provide me with much food for thought. Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211537058262061608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-28196662617357379082013-04-01T13:27:58.234-04:002013-04-01T13:27:58.234-04:00Hope you continue to write with joy and honesty. ...Hope you continue to write with joy and honesty. I certainly cannot relate directly to all aspects of your life but there is a common human experience. There is also laughter, tears, hopes, fears, challenges and lessons is a well written essay.<br />Thank you. A daily reader.Flemisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71229644253126523282013-04-01T13:10:52.124-04:002013-04-01T13:10:52.124-04:00I wrote about being a Christian once in seven year...I wrote about being a Christian once in seven years of blogging and lost twenty percent of my followers that same day. I stopped posting regular photos of knitting and my comments dropped into the basement and have never recovered. <br /><br />This is all to say that people show up to blogs armed with a set of expectations and, like any other consumers, they want satisfaction from the product they're "buying" with their time and attention. I guess this is why the niche blogs, particularly the ones with lots of shiny, pro-quality photos, seem to do the best over the long term. The visual format is easy to "digest", so to speak, and viewers always get what they came for in terms of content.<br /><br />Stay strong! It seems to me that the truer a person's writing is, the fewer readers it gets.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79952009679931440152013-04-01T12:25:06.211-04:002013-04-01T12:25:06.211-04:00Dave,
Rachel Douglas said it--"Your heart is...Dave, <br />Rachel Douglas said it--"Your heart is beautiful. Keep writing from within it."<br /><br />Those who want to read a one dimensional blog with a political agenda have come to the wrong place, but could find that elsewhere and be happy. I think that those of us who love what you write as a whole and colourful person, would scatter in disappointment if we didn't find "you" here.<br /><br />And I caught the artfully hidden pie hint. :) It's time for replenishment's--pie is such a comfort at times like this!Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-89075739172306511282013-04-01T12:08:20.874-04:002013-04-01T12:08:20.874-04:00I'm sorry that anxiety has stiffened your fing...I'm sorry that anxiety has stiffened your fingers even once. The great joy I find in your blog comes from its fluency (as well as the elegant interaction between personal and political). Best wishes and I'll be reading, no matter what you're writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-33983840021897148662013-04-01T11:25:25.696-04:002013-04-01T11:25:25.696-04:00Ugh so sorry this has happened to you. I read ever...Ugh so sorry this has happened to you. I read every post and love your daily observations. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-4951148838047196262013-04-01T10:37:52.472-04:002013-04-01T10:37:52.472-04:00Your heart is beautiful. Keep writing from within ...Your heart is beautiful. Keep writing from within it. Wordshurtorhealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12039330463065872512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-89934504874560918022013-04-01T09:57:14.395-04:002013-04-01T09:57:14.395-04:00Just a note to say that I appreciate everything yo...Just a note to say that I appreciate everything you write in your blog. I rarely comment, but I support your decision to post about the things you post about. And from the perspective of a gay, disabled, progressive Christian, it's a breath of fresh air to read a blog by a gay disabled person who isn't vehemently anti-religion! Thanks for everything you write, it's a huge gift to your readers.<br /><br />KellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-87154083691962619052013-04-01T09:45:39.060-04:002013-04-01T09:45:39.060-04:00I love your blog. I love the personal voice, and t...I love your blog. I love the personal voice, and the fact that, although it focuses on disability, it is not just about disability, it is about a personal perspective on a variety of issues (and contains great story telling). I would not have chosen to read a Christian blog, because I'm not religious, and still I find some of what you write about your faith enlightening. In this sense, the fact that you don't always write about what I expect you'll write about makes the blog engaging. And if sometimes an article doesn't interest me, what's the problem? Your not my personal entertainer or informer!<br />The people who dislike your blog will write letters, those who love it too often stay silent. Don't let the letter-writers gain power over you by inspiring fear! And if you don't feel like writing another polite answer, just link them to this blog article.Lounahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11031075401203936622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44767122815414490302013-04-01T08:46:44.520-04:002013-04-01T08:46:44.520-04:00Hah! Says the gal who posts anonymously (but never...Hah! Says the gal who posts anonymously (but never rudely, I hope). I guess it's time to figure out how to choose a "real" identity.<br /><br />SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58905971260838036772013-04-01T08:44:02.191-04:002013-04-01T08:44:02.191-04:00Perhaps it's time to name the bullies, and cal...Perhaps it's time to name the bullies, and call them out? <br /><br />I would post a fair warning to all who presume to write you with the intent of censoring your content:<br /><br />"If you write to me, I reserve the right to publish your letter, with your name, on this blog for my readers to see and comment upon. Your opinion WILL have your name attached to it. Proceed accordingly."<br /><br />Internet bullies rely on anonymity to spew their threats/opinions like so much garbage. Shine a light on their shenanigans! Like a letter to the editor of a newspaper--if you want your opinion to be heard, you'd better be willing to attach your name to your thoughts, and let the world know them as yours.<br /><br />Sue Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11621752651156639712013-04-01T08:33:21.910-04:002013-04-01T08:33:21.910-04:00Don't stop being Dave. You are the reason we ...Don't stop being Dave. You are the reason we read your words. And keep reading them.Jan Goldfieldhttp://www.pondlady.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2760895059533360412013-04-01T08:19:24.423-04:002013-04-01T08:19:24.423-04:00I love your blog, I think it's brilliant. And ...I love your blog, I think it's brilliant. And since it's your blog you should be able to write about whatever you want. There are the few posts that I don't care to read, generally the religious ones, but they mean something to you and that's what matters. If I said hey, don't write about Christian stuff because I'm not Christian, that's the same thing as going into someone's house and telling them they shouldn't have decorated their place in such a way because I wouldn't have done it.<br />It's your blog. It's your home. You can decorate it how you choose. :)Sasha Smithyhttp://asha-smithy.tumblr.com/noreply@blogger.com