tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post5467466974633475645..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: The Striped CarpetDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77034593446266382012016-03-17T07:56:30.789-04:002016-03-17T07:56:30.789-04:00Something happened today that made me think of you...Something happened today that made me think of your blogging about ableism.<br /><br />Today I had a woman at a cafe sneak up behind me in my blindspot (powerchair created blindspot) and grab my left shoulder.<br /><br />When I told her it wasn't okay to touch me without asking, and that it was never okay to touch people without asking,<br /><br />she said "It's okay, I work with children"<br /><br />"Well, <i>I am not a child</i>" I said.<br /><br />At which point she told me how rude I was, and stormed off to complain about me at length to the waitress, and then stormed out of the cafe.<br />Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285070926705237161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-66522309218446946262016-03-15T23:48:53.363-04:002016-03-15T23:48:53.363-04:00This caught my attention: 'the death of innoce...This caught my attention: 'the death of innocence'<br /><br />What it really is is the 'death of ignorance' - and ignorance has consequences. Sex is a normal part of adult life, and you are doing an educational job for people who are not children to be protected their whole life - from themselves.<br /><br />If it bothers her, she should find a different job. Her problems should not be passed on to any people she has to work with, whether or not they are disabled. It is not her choice - it is theirs.<br /><br />It's like that woman who took it upon herself not to issue marriage certificates because of her personal beliefs - which is the same thing as imposing HER religion on other people - and we all know how well that works. As well as the fact that it is illegal.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-51354957127958974092016-03-15T00:27:26.361-04:002016-03-15T00:27:26.361-04:00Right now I'm picturing a setup in which you h...Right now I'm picturing a setup in which you have a very long rolled up red carpet, with one end permanently fixed to the floor of your car right next to the door, so that when you open the door you can literally roll out the red carpet. I'm not sure how practical that setup would be, but it would certainly make a point.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10103317184005027614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7785510232208987212016-03-14T20:21:14.762-04:002016-03-14T20:21:14.762-04:00Joe is good value. Every time.
And your answer to...Joe is good value. Every time.<br /><br />And your answer to Ms MeanandSpiteful was spot on. That's Australian for exactly and precisely the right thing.wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62912106245484287412016-03-14T16:25:19.613-04:002016-03-14T16:25:19.613-04:00You and Joe are my heroes. I love both your respon...You and Joe are my heroes. I love both your responses.<br />Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687247995782738654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1731907846598480732016-03-14T13:03:33.593-04:002016-03-14T13:03:33.593-04:00I just want to say that your's and Joe's r...I just want to say that your's and Joe's reactions to this bully were awesome. Your response was the kind that I wish I could come up with on the spot, but only think of later. I trust that you've tried many solutions to the stepping onto wet ground problem, and if this carpet is the best solution for you - why would anyone give a good damn about you using it?<br /><br />I don't know your professional relationship with this bully, but I wonder if this bully has crossed the line into needing a complaint to her manager/HR dept? That's starting to sound like harassment. <br /><br />And, cheap full length red carpet floor runners are available online... Just saying :-)ecodrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318230476395137108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49398637147569940942016-03-14T10:22:36.255-04:002016-03-14T10:22:36.255-04:00Bright red, really, really bright red. That's ...Bright red, really, really bright red. That's my vote!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16384543589807036435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27719187040431153442016-03-14T09:53:08.554-04:002016-03-14T09:53:08.554-04:00As someone else who can not wear shoes, I've a...As someone else who can not wear shoes, I've also used the carpet solution for getting from car seat to wheelchair seat. <br /><br />I also vote for Joe's solution. ... And even though you said: "No Advice," may I suggest (?) Get the thing monogrammed -- in gold -- with a great big "D.H." -- Or maybe "D.P." (for Disability Pride). <br /><br />...And the next time you see this woman, you can tell her: "I took your suggestion -- You're right -- Red is so much better!" And grin like the Cheshire Cat.<br />---<br /><br />I also agree with you about Shame. I define shame as the feeling that something you've done, or something you are, is Wrong. When we've <i>done</i> something hurtful to someone else, being <i>ashamed of ourselves</i> is healthy, because it can stop us from doing it again. But being ashamed of what you <i>are</i> is never healthy.<br /><br />And "Shame" turns into a verb when we refuse to believe that what we are or what we've done is Wrong, so other people (such as this woman) do everything in their power to try and change our minds.<br /><br />*raises an imaginary glass, in a toast* May you always be a stubborn old cuss, Dave, and full of pride in spite of 'em!CapriUnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906524679880178584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-83589316813430881112016-03-14T09:51:56.309-04:002016-03-14T09:51:56.309-04:00Yes, you should get a red carpet, then make an ela...Yes, you should get a red carpet, then make an elaborate and pointedly big deal out of laying it down every time this woman is anywhere near ... even if you're not actually getting out of the car at the time.<br /><br />Andrea S.<br /><a href="http://andreashettle.tumblr.com" rel="nofollow">http://andreashettle.tumblr.com</a>Andrea Shettle, MSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16984732076766787818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79577825235432305462016-03-14T08:57:36.268-04:002016-03-14T08:57:36.268-04:00There is a special corner of hell reserved for rud...There is a special corner of hell reserved for rude and judgemental people like this lady.Frank_Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15707525224938640688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2022772782218480302016-03-14T08:35:57.849-04:002016-03-14T08:35:57.849-04:00I agree with Joe - and what a rude woman!I agree with Joe - and what a rude woman!painting with firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01578014572547587329noreply@blogger.com