tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post5000854335849053255..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: OK, Joe, I Think I Get It ... SorryDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-38332743955420845222015-10-11T18:17:51.806-04:002015-10-11T18:17:51.806-04:00Well done, Dave! Some people never get it.Well done, Dave! Some people never get it.wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1210662760884290482015-10-11T02:22:00.952-04:002015-10-11T02:22:00.952-04:00Welcome to marriage!! Give and take. Hold the to...Welcome to marriage!! Give and take. Hold the tongue or speak your piece. Sometimes when "we" need to be so organized just to do simple tasks, I think we might assume that we do almost everything the right way. Yet, it is only right for us. I am so guilty of what you speak, so guilty. Thanks for the reminder. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-32642487666704797992015-10-10T13:36:01.914-04:002015-10-10T13:36:01.914-04:00Self-awareness is a terrible thing.
Necessary, bu...Self-awareness is a terrible thing.<br /><br />Necessary, but terrible.<br /><br />And Joe could have said SOMETHING, you know - so don't take the entire blame.<br /><br />You're both trying to contribute AND keep the peace. Often those are contradictory aims.<br /><br />But if neither person is self-aware, these things can fester.<br /><br />I don't know Joe, except through your, possibly slightly biased, eyes. But YOU shine through your words, and you are definitely self-aware.<br /><br />Gift AND curse. As I said, terrible.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-59245722015470941402015-10-10T11:58:22.373-04:002015-10-10T11:58:22.373-04:00Oh, gosh, yes, I am this disabled person sometimes...Oh, gosh, yes, I am this disabled person sometimes. <br /><br />I want to be involved. I want to be heard. I want to be useful, and have control over my life and my circumstances. <br /><br />... I don't want to be controlling or critical or undermining the people around me. I don't want to abuse the power I do have, that it is so easy to forget I have when I'm in pain, or exhausted, or feeling helpless because of a thing I couldn't do. <br /><br />Sometimes we screw up. Then we need to use the power we have to make amends, and, now that we know better, do better. <br /><br />It's not my place to comment on whether or not you've made a good apology, because it wasn't for me. <br /><br />You wrote a good thing, though.Marna Nightingalehttp://commodorified.dreamwidth.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14379698160225482862015-10-10T11:30:47.597-04:002015-10-10T11:30:47.597-04:00Thank you for writing this.
My partner is disable...Thank you for writing this. <br />My partner is disabled and this happens to us a lot. <br />She asked me for help making cookies today and started telling me for each cookie I put on the tray whether it was too big or too small.<br />I get that she asked me to be her hands to mix and shape the cookies. I said yes so maybe I should have my hands do the work and her brain and eyes do the quality control.<br />I didn't feel ok about the feedback so I got the scales out to measure each cookie like they do on the expert baking shows.<br />My partner stopped giving me feedback on each cookie and said that as I'm the baker in the family I should get on with it.<br />I didn't feel ok about that either.<br />Sometimes it feels like disability has stolen away the possibility of me being myself.<br />Othertimes it feels like disability has brought us so close together and taught us so much about togetherness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com