tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post4570295807641367848..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Here, NowDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54075337122190772132017-03-29T14:46:54.451-04:002017-03-29T14:46:54.451-04:00I have a young friend with Down Syndrome who does ...I have a young friend with Down Syndrome who does things for herself rarely...partially because she processes very slowly and partially because most of her life, everything has either been done for her or is done because she is told by someone else what to do and when to do it. When she is at my house, I wait. I wait for her to complete tasks, to decide what she wants to do next and to ask for what she wants. It is, often, an excruciatingly slow process. She is filled with uncertainty (am I making the right choice? am I *allowed* to do this?) and often it takes a very long time for "the next step". It would be so much easier and faster-- for ME-- if I just went ahead and made the decisions or completed the tasks she is working on...but it would do nothing for HER. Sometimes, only one thing gets done by her in the time that I could have done ten things. But I wait. A lot. I encourage her. I support her. I do things with her. But I do not do for her. I have too much respect for her as a person to do that.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06352332380562232996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2528249074943695972017-03-29T11:41:48.934-04:002017-03-29T11:41:48.934-04:00"Coming from the land of low expectations mea..."Coming from the land of low expectations meant that he'd be trapped by helpers for his whole life" - <br /><br />This thought . . . <br /><br />I've shared this blog entry with a number of folks/ Ron Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05852385982605070675noreply@blogger.com