tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3590369851056903455..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: PermissionDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42503118683802242022016-12-11T15:13:42.804-05:002016-12-11T15:13:42.804-05:00That drove me nuts when I was regularly hanging ou...That drove me nuts when I was regularly hanging out with my friend with CP. People would hand me her change and/or purchases all the time. I got into the habit of stepping out of reach when she was buying things.Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230821659466586897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-31591615973023074502016-11-30T22:23:47.524-05:002016-11-30T22:23:47.524-05:00I really appreciate your writing now, Dave, becaus...I really appreciate your writing now, Dave, because I've reached the point where I'm in discussions with my doctor about getting a wheelchair for longer walks (basically anything over 100 yards). I've spent so much time and effort trying to avoid it, but now it feels like it will be liberating. I've almost become a shut-in -- by choice -- because it hurts too much to go anywhere. I want to start living again! <br /><br />But because of your writing, I'm also very aware of the issues faced regularly (or perhaps I should say constantly) by someone in a wheelchair. And I think that I feel more empowered to deal with them because of your being so good about sharing the good and bad moments with us. Even though I live in the US, where the ADA theoretically mandates that everywhere public should be accessible, thanks to your blog I've been looking at places we go, and seeing how many of them aren't really as accessible as they should be -- bathrooms where wheelchairs can't turn around, doors to heavy to push open, insufficient room in restaurants. If I'm going to use a wheelchair, I'm going to be a noisy wheelchair user who expects equal access and equal treatment! And thanks to you, I have a good idea where to start. <br /><br />Thank you so much for being you and showing what it's really like, inside and out, to deal with disability on a daily basis! Emily and Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14421526181503946143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-90606913625123030752016-11-30T12:35:18.891-05:002016-11-30T12:35:18.891-05:00I really appreciate all that you share and consist...I really appreciate all that you share and consistently feel enriched with more choices and cognizance of how to be/do the same for others.<br />Thank you!szerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15990477311329634091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64891167597177287902016-11-30T11:46:57.820-05:002016-11-30T11:46:57.820-05:00What would have been even better: You are having t...What would have been even better: You are having the conversation with her. You buy the tickets. She hands you the tickets, but right before you take them, you say, "Would you please give them to my husband?" She smiles, says, "Sure," and gives them to Joe.<br /><br />The difference: this is the way she would have treated any able person she was having the conversation with.<br /><br />The other is a tiny mark of difference.<br /><br />Until everyone treats every other person as completely able, we're not there quite yet.<br /><br />It shouldn't be remarkable, and it is only because of what you're used to. Which is the point you always make.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-46145777910338585852016-11-30T10:16:23.748-05:002016-11-30T10:16:23.748-05:00I hope we all meet more people like that. Thank yo...I hope we all meet more people like that. Thank you for sharing some good news.Jesse the Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00717815010777465709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-82117175778816894732016-11-30T09:50:54.952-05:002016-11-30T09:50:54.952-05:00You write so well, Dave. I can 'see' this ...You write so well, Dave. I can 'see' this in my mind's eye...it gives me the impression that this woman is, like you, very observant of humans and their interactions and of the power/control/autonomy currents in all of us. <br />And I hope those turned out to be lucky lottery tickets!<br />clairesmumUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-5500971095230276472016-11-30T06:29:27.229-05:002016-11-30T06:29:27.229-05:00Funny thing. I learned this exact thing from you m...Funny thing. I learned this exact thing from you many years ago. A seminar in Kingston when you talked about choices. How one smile choice no matter how the person got it out to make a nod, a gesture, a blink. Was a choice. I remember you saying..... from the persons perspective not that ugly purple shirt again! The smallest choice can make a persons day. <br />That is how I work each day. The world won't end over a purple shirt but it may make for a better day for everyone. <br />I'm glad you were given the opportunity to see the insight you have shared with others!! 💖💖Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15010761948544697815noreply@blogger.com