tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3578444883711957514..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Poco Hor! The Lecture come and goneDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53114895225543170372010-05-13T09:48:47.763-04:002010-05-13T09:48:47.763-04:00Dave, your lectures have people with disabilities ...Dave, your lectures have people with disabilities as the subject of your stories, but that's not what your talks are about. <br /><br />They're about power, relationships, dreams, prejudice, victimization... and so much more. Your talks are about life.<br /><br />When I listen to you, or when I read your books I not only improve myself professionally, but personally too. Because you teach me about what's, according to Plato, the most important subject: how we ought to live.D. I. Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09206704001864145754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14651454061126176982010-05-10T10:39:42.281-04:002010-05-10T10:39:42.281-04:00re: Andrea S.
Yes, yes, YES!
Suere: Andrea S.<br /><br />Yes, yes, YES!<br /><br />SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23415972966774009402010-05-09T00:32:05.873-04:002010-05-09T00:32:05.873-04:00Oh,man! I'm afraid I missed the best lecture ...Oh,man! I'm afraid I missed the best lecture yet! But at least I got to pray you through it! :)Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12527926041729913404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-26769392442239990242010-05-08T11:58:39.665-04:002010-05-08T11:58:39.665-04:00I wasn't at the lecture. But just from having...I wasn't at the lecture. But just from having read your blog during the past few years, here are some common themes you talk about a lot that don't only apply to people with disabilities:<br /><br />Compassion.<br /><br />Humanity.<br /><br />Decency.<br /><br />Dignity.<br /><br />Respect.<br /><br />Be aware of power imbalances. Be aware of the power you might have over others (even if you never asked to have that power) and take care that others don't get hurt by it, even just by accident.<br /><br />Words can wound. Use them with care.<br /><br />Words from a person in authority, or a person with power, or a person who is respected, or a person who love you can wound even more than other words. Use particular care with these.<br /><br />People have a right to autonomy.<br /><br />Beware that your desire to protect does not override another person's desire--and right--to choose. <br /><br />Sometimes taking away the option of taking risks can hurt a person more than letting them go.<br /><br />Beware that your desire to help does not override another person's desire or need to do things him or herself.<br /><br />Some drives and desires, such as the need for companionship, or to be listened to, or to be cared about, or to have choices in life, are pretty much universal. Don't assume that person X (any person) doesn't share these needs just because Y (any rationale). Sometimes the WAY that a person receives these things may need to be different. But just because you haven't figured out what that way is doesn't mean they don't share the need or desire.<br /><br />Love matters.<br /><br />Care matters.<br /><br />Sometimes just a look or a touch can speak volumes.<br /><br />Sometimes just sitting with someone, or letting them sit with you, can be enough.<br /><br />Respect.<br /><br />Dignity.<br /><br />Decency.<br /><br />Humanity.<br /><br />Compassion.Andrea S.http://wecando.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21052861394657661962010-05-08T10:45:27.376-04:002010-05-08T10:45:27.376-04:00Honestly Dave, all your stories can be applied to ...Honestly Dave, all your stories can be applied to all people. You remind us to be mindful of how we treat people, to not enter into a situation with preconceived notions about what the person is like. YOU remind us to be decent human beings who treat each other with the respect we all deserve.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18692227948533356762010-05-08T10:26:54.622-04:002010-05-08T10:26:54.622-04:00I was there too. I had never heard of you before a...I was there too. I had never heard of you before and this is my first visit to your blog. Never in my life have I experienced a lecture like the one you gave. You are a gifted storyteller. But it was more like hearing Churchill or King Jr. at the height of their powers. Amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-59530540418055207542010-05-08T10:19:29.863-04:002010-05-08T10:19:29.863-04:00Your blog isn't just about disability either, ...Your blog isn't just about disability either, Dave. <br /><br />Anonymous, thank you for finding the words to express what I've been thinking for a long time.<br /><br />SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-85668213715988677062010-05-08T10:14:58.191-04:002010-05-08T10:14:58.191-04:00I attended & you were incredible. Your knowled...I attended & you were incredible. Your knowledge & insight as well a the advice you offer is so valuble. I think Your lecture wasnt just about people with disabilities. For me it was about humanity. The good and the bad we all can face. Yesterday I was reminded that I may not know everything about anything, but I know what hurts, words actions and sometimes the lack of.<br /><br />Thank you David.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50573271396099938582010-05-08T09:54:55.954-04:002010-05-08T09:54:55.954-04:00On an unrelated note (that references a previous e...On an unrelated note (that references a previous entry), Dave--I was traveling with my nearly 13 year old daughter and a 13 year old friend yesterday. We were staying at a hotel that offered a free breakfast buffet. The girls' sleepwear was pj pants and tank tops with thin straps. My daughter put a sweatshirt on over her tank top. We were getting ready to go, and I said to my daughter's pal, "It's pretty chilly in the lobby, you might want to put on a warmer shirt." She grabbed a tshirt. So the teen skimpy clothing thing may well be universal, as many people suggested in response to your blog!Kris S.noreply@blogger.com