tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3371685168795379905..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: the shame filled apologyDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84977519790217486352013-10-13T00:53:03.453-04:002013-10-13T00:53:03.453-04:00Wow! Powerful stuff Dave. Thank you for being so...Wow! Powerful stuff Dave. Thank you for being so honest. Such healthy self-awareness. Would we all be so humble.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70329103469239819712013-10-12T18:58:09.619-04:002013-10-12T18:58:09.619-04:00Jim Currie 13 08 commented 'Perhaps the fact t...Jim Currie 13 08 commented 'Perhaps the fact that you did this may make you a little more accepting of the actions of others.’<br />I don’t get this, Dave didn’t accept his own action when it was ‘accidental or thoughtless’ so I think this is entirely consistent with Dave’s comments on actions that may have been 'accidental or thoughtless’- it’s not excusable to hurt others even if it is 'accidental or thoughtless', but those words I think don’t capture what happens when people collude with ablism and other forms of oppression. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58319267759423305412013-10-12T15:50:49.052-04:002013-10-12T15:50:49.052-04:00None of us are perfect. We all say and do things w...None of us are perfect. We all say and do things we know are wrong. You realized your mistake and apologized. You can move forward from here. Hugs to you, Dave. <br />RosemaryRosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00170986298013174197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68520001950320207912013-10-12T13:18:16.017-04:002013-10-12T13:18:16.017-04:00Dave
I am racking my brains to figure out what kin...Dave<br />I am racking my brains to figure out what kind of remark you could have made that seemed like a joke at the time, but in hindsight turned out to be disphobic.<br /><br />Perhaps the fact that you did this may make you a little more accepting of the actions of others. It seems to be that you often see something as a deliberate slight when perhaps it may have been accidental or thoughtless.Jim Curriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12541450530416871786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-43731566242179938702013-10-12T12:31:54.966-04:002013-10-12T12:31:54.966-04:00Forgve yourself. I like pattib's comment. I ...Forgve yourself. I like pattib's comment. I always admire your ability to examine yourself, your honesty in doing so, and your constant striving to understand and better yourself. You set the bar high for the rest of us. I'm glad you do.Bernienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34684333917370813522013-10-12T11:14:33.619-04:002013-10-12T11:14:33.619-04:00That you apologized and the apology was heartfelt,...That you apologized and the apology was heartfelt, matters. WE are none of us perfect, Dave and if you must know, it's a relief to know that you - someone I admire and respect a great deal - struggles too. <br /><br />I often rehash conversations in my mind and wince at some of the things I said - so, you are not alone here. <br /><br />Belly (Liz McLennan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12185843639648333419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-5113409671075418872013-10-12T10:04:26.545-04:002013-10-12T10:04:26.545-04:00My older brother once told me something that has s...My older brother once told me something that has stuck, when I told him of a similar mistake I had made. He said, "It's the recovery that matters." Excellent recovery, Dave.pattibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08381148432878794362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76028930367605828342013-10-12T09:01:41.918-04:002013-10-12T09:01:41.918-04:00Your honesty with yourself, and your willingness t...Your honesty with yourself, and your willingness to share such self examination in this space, amazes me. You remind me to try to be as honest with myself. Having compassion for self...that's as hard for me as being honest with myself. clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68493420749003936562013-10-12T08:41:31.093-04:002013-10-12T08:41:31.093-04:00I don't think you're alone in this Dave bu...I don't think you're alone in this Dave but isn't it sad the number of people who DON'T even realise that their use of language really hurts people.<br /> I know we're all trying to make people aware of the hurt caused by the R word but there's another word being used over here which causes me anger, distress and real pain every time I hear it and it's the M word. I find it really difficult to put this in writing but I need people to know what it is... Mong. Writing that has really set me off, I now write with tears and with feelings of high anxiety. Why does it do that to us????Eileennoreply@blogger.com