tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3339633476014576471..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Me! Damn!!Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72794873536180613882012-11-28T16:40:03.410-05:002012-11-28T16:40:03.410-05:00Ah yes...the sudden realization that we are immune...Ah yes...the sudden realization that we are immune from doing things we find so annoying in others. I hate that when that happens! No matter how far we've come in our own journey we do still run up against those rough patches in ourselves now and then. I hear you that you know better. But if that's the critria...knowing better and still making the error in thinking...you are in very crowded company!wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3970493139622475562012-11-25T17:49:36.785-05:002012-11-25T17:49:36.785-05:00OMG, you're human!OMG, you're human!<br />Rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04078192111057725026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73497010078757066992012-11-24T07:43:55.735-05:002012-11-24T07:43:55.735-05:00Congratulations, buddy, you're a human being. ...Congratulations, buddy, you're a human being. You make mistakes. You make assumptions. You're just like the rest of us.<br /><br />Once upon a time a very wise friend of mine pointed out that, to some degree, we are all biased. From time to time, we all have bigoted thoughts or make giant assumptions. Various experiences in our lives, as we live them, can color our beliefs and expectations, even if we think we "know better."<br /><br />What's important, she said, is not *that* we have the thoughts themselves, but what we do when we have them. Do we open our yaps and say stupid things? Do we mentally kick ourselves and think, "What is wrong with you, you know better!"? Do we continue with our thought or do we think through why we had the thought and try to change things so we don't have them again?<br /><br />You'll do something like this again. And again. And each time you'll think it through and realize where you went wrong. And each time you learn a little more about yourself.<br /><br />It's all part of being human.<br /><br />Moosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397412122635951126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44641757190366191722012-11-23T21:54:23.469-05:002012-11-23T21:54:23.469-05:00I love your honesty and the words you choose to sh...I love your honesty and the words you choose to share it with all of us out here. We are none of us perfect, but we are all of us learning, still. <br /><br />Thank you for the lesson.Belly (Liz McLennan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12185843639648333419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23956859960296906622012-11-23T12:53:45.054-05:002012-11-23T12:53:45.054-05:00Willingness to explore and challenge our own assum...Willingness to explore and challenge our own assumptions is the key... not the fact that you made an assumption but that you were willing to break it down and learn. I learn from you too! FunMumX3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86224715038070973892012-11-22T10:51:28.286-05:002012-11-22T10:51:28.286-05:00It sucks to be human, doesn't it? At least you...It sucks to be human, doesn't it? At least you have the courage to look at your mistakes. It's when we don't even realize we're making mistakes and we carry on in complete ignorance that makes me nervous. Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-89719651941526518922012-11-22T09:09:42.895-05:002012-11-22T09:09:42.895-05:00Colleen makes a vital point -- we're all immer...Colleen makes a vital point -- we're all immersed in the 'water' of stereotyping assumptions, and it's not drying up.<br /><br />TV and movie characters are often created by a kind of short-hand that reinforces these assumptions. Want to show that the character is quirky? Have him or her wear their hair uncommonly long or short, give them an odd addiction (say, a pipe in a cigarette-smoking office, or bending paperclips into origami). Want to show that a character is heroic? Give her or him a limp, a walker, crutches.<br /><br />This cultural-and-media habit of stereotyping has reached the place where even when the writer wants to show that the character is 'as ordinary as you or me' (that's, unfortunately, a direct quote), the presence of a hearing aid or a wheelchair is seen as giving the character either heroic properties or the obligation to receive excessive sympathy.<br /><br />By your work, you help us build some immunity to all this. But even vaccines don't work 100%. I'm so glad to see you blogging about this. And so pleased to see how quickly you notice, on the rare occasions when you fall into this trap. Maybe I can learn to recognize it more quickly when I do it, too.Maggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9493998791055899752012-11-22T08:37:21.119-05:002012-11-22T08:37:21.119-05:00Dear Dave:
We are immersed in these kind of attit...Dear Dave:<br /><br />We are immersed in these kind of attitudes and assumptions all day every day - our culture is full of them. It is only to be expected that we take them in. Here is the part that is important - you know it when you see it and you do something about it - in yourself, in others. You do not passively accept these prejudices as just the way things are. You hold yourself accountable. Perhaps reading this will help us to hold ourselves accountable.<br /><br />You cannot expect to be immersed in water all day every day and not get wet!!!<br /><br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68391127407975083342012-11-22T08:00:23.401-05:002012-11-22T08:00:23.401-05:00Thank you for being so honest and making yourself ...Thank you for being so honest and making yourself vulnerable by doing so. It is the only way to help the rest of us look at ourselves and our attitudes honestly.<br /><br />Yesterday I watched a slightly younger version of "you" on the DVD, "Who Do We Serve," (I think I got the title right) about supporting people with sexually offending behaviour. Again, my skills were firmed up, and I sat in amongst a large and strong team who discussed, were re-aligned, and refocused. I thought of how you give each day on this blog, and how much you have given to the sector of Developmental Services. What a legacy you continue to build.<br /><br />For anyone interested the DVD I mentioned is available at:<br />http://diverse-city.com/products-page/video/who-do-we-serve/ <br />Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-89920780364329135232012-11-22T01:51:21.439-05:002012-11-22T01:51:21.439-05:00Ah Dave - you may not be at your destination yet (...Ah Dave - you may not be at your destination yet (who is??) but you are certainly a lot closer than 99% of the population. Journeying mercies!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80926842195178211852012-11-22T00:58:05.864-05:002012-11-22T00:58:05.864-05:00We've all done that and it's brave of you ...We've all done that and it's brave of you to publicly admit it!!cheeseladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03202316725891368800noreply@blogger.com