tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post325153500470739388..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Can'tDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56271640384854192152017-06-14T19:25:18.675-04:002017-06-14T19:25:18.675-04:00I have experienced this, too. With the use of smar...I have experienced this, too. With the use of smartphone apps, I've gotten to the point of reasonably consistently doing things I thought I couldn't do.Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391427859178500937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24279899882814977602017-06-12T13:07:24.961-04:002017-06-12T13:07:24.961-04:00So incredibly sad that often 'can't' i...So incredibly sad that often 'can't' isn't due to the person, but to the person's parents or caretakers (I won't say 'staff' when they have that attitude).<br /><br />I know of disabled people whose parents made them far more disabled than necessary by doing everything for them - and then died and left them with no skills. It is tragic, because they also left them with the attitude that the world should cater to them, as the parents did - and the world doesn't care.<br /><br />Sometimes can't is just physical - and a different way (a new apartment!) must be found. But when the barriers aren't necessary, just convenient for someone else, that is incredibly sad.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23123939241739626932017-06-12T11:25:51.206-04:002017-06-12T11:25:51.206-04:00Can't does imply that something has been attem...Can't does imply that something has been attempted, and that the person failed. Can't = not capable. And it sounds as it is is intrinsic in the person who lacks the capacity to complete a task.<br />More often, 'can't" is due to external forces - the bigotry of low expectations, excessive concern over safety instead of valuing autonomy, lack of opportunity to attempt the task, and the ways that the person who 'can't' has always been told that he/she 'can't' so often that it seems a universal truth. <br /><br />Stifling a person's sense of self efficacy by taking away chances to try and fail is an abuse - psychological abuse - and the phrase "it's for your/his/her own good" as justification for rules is a red flag. In parenting and in care settings. <br /><br />I'm glad the new apartment is a space for "I can"!!<br />clairesmum<br /><br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.com