tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3250826402266566800..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Pardons and ApologiesDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62344246307283508912017-02-10T14:45:21.688-05:002017-02-10T14:45:21.688-05:00I agree....don't apologise if you have no inte...I agree....don't apologise if you have no intention of making very real change, and don't expect people to accept a flippant apology with no remedy attached. I never told my kids they had to "say sorry". What I did tell them was, " I want you to think about what you did, I want you to figure out what you can do to fix it and then do that, and when you're ready and when you mean it, an apology would be nice." Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06352332380562232996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-20589533289399059712017-02-10T13:26:35.315-05:002017-02-10T13:26:35.315-05:00Two thoughts: 1) I think that people who think the...Two thoughts: 1) I think that people who think they know what's best for me are laughable - until their opinion becomes law. Then they're not so funny anymore. 2) I've always told my children that "sorry" is not something you say, it's something you do. It's a change in behavior. <br /><br />I don't mind laws (a.k.a. opinions with a gun) that are designed to increase opportunity but those laws seem most rare . . . . Ron Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05852385982605070675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-52813326796559029112017-02-10T13:16:38.841-05:002017-02-10T13:16:38.841-05:00Agree; any apology without a plan for change in th...Agree; any apology without a plan for change in the future is not only cosmetic, but it is an attempt to avoid any substantive improvements.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65700819050194873792017-02-10T10:56:52.962-05:002017-02-10T10:56:52.962-05:00I agreeI agreeGleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-8942450503120186232017-02-10T10:55:37.451-05:002017-02-10T10:55:37.451-05:00Haven't thought about CS Lewis in a long time....Haven't thought about CS Lewis in a long time..I think the quote is quite apt, though the phrasing is clearly from a different era.<br />Apology is one part of healing - the recognition by perpetrator(s) of injustice and injury (or their successor representatives) that they did take actions that caused harm and that they recognize 2 elements - their role in causing the damage AND their responsibility to work hard to help make 'whole' whatever it is that they 'damaged." <br />An apology covers the first part AND the second essential component is making amends - not just words, but actions to repair the damage done, making changes to ensure the damage does not continue or reoccur in future, and you often make some personal sacrifice to show that you are suffering as you work to repair the damage and you accept this suffering as a demonstration of solidarity with the person(s) who have been harmed. <br />I believe the concept is referred to as 'restorative justice' in some circles, tho I'm not sure. Words alone without changes in future actions are just meaningless sounds that add to the cacophony of meanness in the world. <br />clairesmum Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.com