tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post2982982947947950964..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Strangers: An unanticipated postDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-8125512641460869482016-07-22T23:18:50.702-04:002016-07-22T23:18:50.702-04:00And here I thought my reaction to seeing groups of...And here I thought my reaction to seeing groups of young teenagers - middle school, or junior high aged - was just me.<br /><br />Thanks, Dave. It's not. The kids then were jerks. But some these days aren't, and that gives me a whole lot of hope.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886730530004965803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88803209556747505782016-07-22T18:25:02.405-04:002016-07-22T18:25:02.405-04:00DAVE: Feel free not to post this comment, or to mo...DAVE: Feel free not to post this comment, or to modify it.<br /><br />One last comment: I have had negative comments made to me online that were sharp and unexpected.<br /><br />I couldn't figure out why, until I realized the person making them was most probably (through a combination of details I won't bother you with) on the autistic spectrum. I have personal experience with such people, and once I adjusted my strategy with that thought in mind, communication became clearer.<br /><br />You can't always take offense at either what's said or the tone in which it is said - some people need to be cut more slack.<br /><br />Tone is the biggest one for me: a person I love automatically responds in a tone which an NT interprets as scorn or anger or irritation IF things come up too fast. The tone hurt. It still does. I try to remember that, and most of the time I do. I have explained, and the explanation has been understood - but it's almost a startle response, and still happens sometimes. I don't usually get an apology.<br /><br />If this person were NOT autistic, I would be enabling very bad behavior by always setting my response aside. In fact, for years I thought that's what was going on - because no one else every talked to me like that. There were tears and feelings of low self-esteem on my part.<br /><br />As I said, it still hurts when it happens - MY automatic responses are NT - but I no longer feel victimized by being the one who has to ignore it. It is a fact of my life. I'm a grown woman and can handle it.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-61196377645381813132016-07-22T10:43:01.232-04:002016-07-22T10:43:01.232-04:00I know what you mean about groups of teens....I...I know what you mean about groups of teens....I'm so glad this group had some brave individuals/leaders in it....ClairesmumUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-78989632983865237092016-07-22T10:31:21.808-04:002016-07-22T10:31:21.808-04:00Notice that it was all it took: ONE person - not e...Notice that it was all it took: ONE person - not even necessarily an authority figure - speaking up.<br /><br />And teaching the majority of the others - the undecideds - that there was a better path than following the mean ones.<br /><br />It's a start - some people are learning how to speak up.<br /><br />Lack of supervision of groups lets the little leaders become little tyrants.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6607252704218312702016-07-22T09:21:16.660-04:002016-07-22T09:21:16.660-04:00Too many people approach goodness, without the gut...Too many people approach goodness, without the guts it takes to actually BE good. Thinking good thoughts is NOT enough!<br /><br />If you see or hear something wrong, and unjust, then SAY SOMETHING. Stand up, and speak up!Frank_Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15707525224938640688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81894482242105404782016-07-22T07:01:37.842-04:002016-07-22T07:01:37.842-04:00This is wonderful. Sorry the ill experiences were ...This is wonderful. Sorry the ill experiences were initiated, so glad that at least they were effectively silenced.ssassefrashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05421140757560175454noreply@blogger.com