tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post2426789999094098021..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: The Other LunchDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-39721961725218856622010-11-26T00:38:02.175-05:002010-11-26T00:38:02.175-05:00OMG, I truly can't believe anyone could be as ...OMG, I truly can't believe anyone could be as callous and cold-hearted as that older couple. Thank you for seeing the beauty of the moment.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21645382305572943022010-11-25T10:00:09.979-05:002010-11-25T10:00:09.979-05:00Reminds me of all the people who claim that autism...Reminds me of all the people who claim that autism is worse than cancer.Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230821659466586897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-43479180991342841592010-11-25T08:41:30.621-05:002010-11-25T08:41:30.621-05:00I can imagine that the mother has felt those stare...I can imagine that the mother has felt those stares, maybe even heard those words. I know I have - and it feels good to ignore those who do not understand and just be happy knowing what "they" don't know. For her, that scars on a face don't make that face less beautiful. For me, that IQ scores tell so little about a boy. <br /><br />How much better to live you life with the joy she exhibited than the misery they did.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65335661087677587982010-11-25T07:13:38.588-05:002010-11-25T07:13:38.588-05:00I grew up in a less than perfect home, with far le...I grew up in a less than perfect home, with far less than perfect parents who didn't always treat us with kindness and show us that we were loved. I had a lot of resentment for them, but came to realize as I became a parent that my parents did not set out to damage me and they really did do the best that they could with what they had to give. That's my hope with these folks. I want to believe that they are not the hideous, horrible people that their statement implies. Maybe their life experiences are such that they have become broken and empty enough to believe the words that came out of their mouths. How could anyone who is a grandparent utter those words? So pity.....yes. <br /><br />Spinningfishwife and Colleen, my warmest wishes go out to you both.Sherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12213266574971461657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27289171781542620242010-11-24T18:21:40.957-05:002010-11-24T18:21:40.957-05:00Dave, your words didn't trigger any hurt so pl...Dave, your words didn't trigger any hurt so please don't think that. The loss is always with me and today more than usual, of course. Reading your post only made me feel angry at such judgemental people. And happy for the boy's mother. He sounds a lovely child. <br /><br />This is a blog post where I talked about my boy, four years ago.<br /> You'll see why I see your story from the mother's point of view. :)<br />http://spinningfishwife.blogspot.com/2006/11/24th-november-2001.htmlSpinningfishwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13709744732495957360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70230560291735922972010-11-24T16:14:42.440-05:002010-11-24T16:14:42.440-05:00Dear Dave:
I appreciate this post. The prejudices...Dear Dave:<br /><br />I appreciate this post. The prejudices of that older couple are horrifying. But the joy of the mother in her child is uplifting.<br /><br />I, like spinningfishwife, have suffered the death of my child and I will always mourn her. I would give anything for one more joyful moment with her. Your post was not painful for me - it is like home for me - you do know that my child's life was joy. Many people never saw past her disability to that joy.<br /><br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-48821510626484864542010-11-24T12:57:19.080-05:002010-11-24T12:57:19.080-05:00Again, Dave's phrase "obvious to the obli...Again, Dave's phrase "obvious to the oblivious" comes to mind.Princeton Possenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80176643776011549672010-11-24T11:55:24.610-05:002010-11-24T11:55:24.610-05:00Oh, holy cow. Unbelievable, some people. So sad ...Oh, holy cow. Unbelievable, some people. So sad that they will never see the beautiful side to life and love. Their loss.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58208542526658911262010-11-24T10:25:08.429-05:002010-11-24T10:25:08.429-05:00spinningfishwife, I hesitated before pushing the &...spinningfishwife, I hesitated before pushing the 'publish' button on this one. I was afraid of just this situation - that my blog might just trigger someone's past loss and hurt. Then I thought that if it did, this mother's love for her boy outshines (for me) the nasty words of others. I'm sure that my other readers join me in expressing a wish that your memories, today, be of the boy you love and that those memories bring you much more comfort than pain.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50929242265123398222010-11-24T10:15:04.564-05:002010-11-24T10:15:04.564-05:00That't beyond words. Today is the nineth anni...That't beyond words. Today is the nineth anniversary of my son's death (cancer, aged 7) and no, I'm not over it and I don't expect I ever will be. Nor would I ever want to forget him. If he'd lived he'd have been damaged physically by the treatments but ..well, no contest, really. Thinking a child would be better dead than carry a scar?!!<br />On the positive side I bet that boy grows up to be quite a man, given his mother.Spinningfishwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13709744732495957360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54241777080349802692010-11-24T09:21:48.273-05:002010-11-24T09:21:48.273-05:00Thank you!
I think you might enjoy this post:
...Thank you! <br /><br /> <br />I think you might enjoy this post:<br />http://profp.tumblr.com/post/1093339023/heard-but-not-seen<br /><br />Peace -profphttp://profp.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-31860896707472812182010-11-24T09:14:13.798-05:002010-11-24T09:14:13.798-05:00You know I bet that mother is just relieved her ch...You know I bet that mother is just relieved her child survived. Makes me sick.Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965647190492385781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9123746314633982332010-11-24T08:23:15.853-05:002010-11-24T08:23:15.853-05:00You and Belinda are better people then me. Pity is...You and Belinda are better people then me. Pity is a kind response to that woman's world view. In order for me to be sympathetic to her I have to make up a history in my mind like maybe she did lose a child and this is her coping mechanism and it just hurts too much for her to look any further.Even in typing that though I can hardly believe that would be the case- I don't know any parent of a child that has died that wouldn't give anything for just another carefree moment with that child like that beautiful mom has been blessed with.Colehttp://www.thetaooftulips.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55571101816294903112010-11-24T07:30:41.917-05:002010-11-24T07:30:41.917-05:00A shriveled soul, and as tekeal said, "Throug...A shriveled soul, and as tekeal said, "Through the eyes of the beholder." I think that pity for the woman was the only possible response. Strange, because I'm not much into pity--except in these circumstances.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-835785414229487922010-11-24T06:45:57.104-05:002010-11-24T06:45:57.104-05:00Even though I've seen it so often, it never ce...Even though I've seen it so often, it never ceases to amaze me how disability prejudice (including the myth of "disability as unrelenting tragedy") can be so entrenched a person can fail to see the joy that is so obviously right in front of them. How can their view of humanity be so uni-dimensional?Andrea S.http://wecando.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70406952401217273802010-11-24T05:54:05.014-05:002010-11-24T05:54:05.014-05:00OMG the older couple would have rather a child be ...OMG the older couple would have rather a child be BURNED to death?!?!!! OMG OMG how narrow minded and prejudiced.rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7338129913427143682010-11-24T05:43:15.823-05:002010-11-24T05:43:15.823-05:00People are shallow and their looking is shallow. ...People are shallow and their looking is shallow. Their judgements however are deep. Such a shame.Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77683842100792762392010-11-24T03:03:40.481-05:002010-11-24T03:03:40.481-05:00through the eyes of the beholder...through the eyes of the beholder...tekealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06624164330376848455noreply@blogger.com