tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post2205076718039920157..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: One More Question: Waiting for the Call, part 3Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-85984006061895087002009-03-11T06:29:00.000-04:002009-03-11T06:29:00.000-04:00OMG...Thank You so much for writting this. I have...OMG...Thank You so much for writting this. I have been feeling, or made to feel that I am just over reacting at work..I agree 100% that any abuse or complaints of abuse should be reported and investigated by the police.burntouthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16696659806875679512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64613186698558159952009-03-10T11:36:00.000-04:002009-03-10T11:36:00.000-04:00WhooooHoooooooooo!!!!Sending you thoughts of big b...WhooooHoooooooooo!!!!<BR/><BR/>Sending you thoughts of big bouquets of flowers Dave - and some for the woman for standing up for herself too!<BR/><BR/>: ) EAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-48806939164216800142009-03-10T06:56:00.000-04:002009-03-10T06:56:00.000-04:00FridaWritesYes, there are laws that are supposed t...FridaWrites<BR/><BR/>Yes, there are laws that are supposed to protect elderly people in the US from abuse: You can report adult abuse cases to Adult Protective Services in the same way that you can report child abuse cases to Child Protective Services. <BR/><BR/>BUT, about a decade ago, when I needed to report a suspect situation to adult protective services, I found that adult cases only need to be investigated within 10 days of being reported--not within 24 hours as for child abuse cases. And if the adult is a deaf person who needs a sign language interpreter, then the agency I spoke to at least at that time simply did not have interpreters. This delayed their attempts to interview the client until well after the 10 days had expired, I think at least twice over. (This was already nearly a decade after the Americans with Disabilities Act had created the LEGAL REQUIREMENT for public service agencis and other entities to be accessible to people with disabilities, including the provision of sign language interpreters, so they were badly in violation of law and I told them so ... I never had the chance to follow up, I was an intern then and left the agency not very long afterwards when my internship period came to an end, so I don't know what happened next :-( )Andrea Shettle, MSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16984732076766787818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2217504144887532412009-03-10T00:16:00.000-04:002009-03-10T00:16:00.000-04:00It is so good to know how this story played out.It is so good to know how this story played out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9878422531628142372009-03-09T20:31:00.000-04:002009-03-09T20:31:00.000-04:00Good work Dave.Good work Dave.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09116126837219626468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14931289754017339542009-03-09T20:28:00.000-04:002009-03-09T20:28:00.000-04:00score one for the good guysscore one for the good guysAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49869281618843387952009-03-09T19:29:00.000-04:002009-03-09T19:29:00.000-04:00Bravo Dave! And Kate, I think you did a wonderful...Bravo Dave! And Kate, I think you did a wonderful thing by thanking that bagger. Maybe she was just distracted and didn't remember who you were at the moment.<BR/><BR/>Most people find it very easy to complain when they don't like something, I wish they would find it just as easy to compliment others the way you did. Thank you for doing that.<BR/><BR/>LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34673975058810856292009-03-09T16:08:00.000-04:002009-03-09T16:08:00.000-04:00Well done Dave and well done the lady. Two brave p...Well done Dave and well done the lady. Two brave people who inspire us all.<BR/>I hope the perpatrator of this abuse never works with vulnerable people again.<BR/>I wish you both strength for any future involvement.<BR/><BR/>LesleyUniqueisfabhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18206512330340045696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-46296615861281199322009-03-09T16:04:00.000-04:002009-03-09T16:04:00.000-04:00Another very powerful story. Thanks for sharing. A...Another very powerful story. Thanks for sharing. All of your posts are so moving.<BR/><BR/>This may sound small in comparison with what you have done and written about, but I was thinking about you at the grocery store yesterday.<BR/><BR/>I saw a woman who was elderly and very kind to me the last time I had been there. I was a bit flustered, stressed out, overwhelmed, by my shopping experience. <BR/><BR/>I asked her to pack the bags lightly since I can't carry anything heavy.<BR/><BR/>She said Of course, smiled at me, her eyes showed compassion instead of the strange bewilderment most people's eyes show. <BR/><BR/>When the checkout was complete, she and the other person working that line made sure all the bags were in my cart in the way I wanted them. They helped me find an item I needed to get out seperately.<BR/><BR/>When I got home and lifted the bags, it was the first time in months I hadn't hurt my back from lifting grocery bags. No one in my life had ever packed my bags more perfectly, with more care and thought. She grouped each food together; seperate the heavy ones; result was all of my food in six perfectly light bags. <BR/><BR/>It might have been a small thing, but it brought a smile to my face.<BR/><BR/>Three weeks later, Saturday, I was in the store again. When I saw this lady, I had to go up to her and say something. I usually don't, but I thought "I need to go and tell her what a good job she did. I bet she doesn't get appreciated much in this job, and it's my responsibility to to tell her she did a good job."<BR/><BR/>So I went up to her and said "Hi" first and then "You were so kind to me last time, you did such a good job with my bags, I just wanted you to know that" and then left, embarassed. She thanked me, but I couldn't tell what the look in her face meant. She seemed a bit perplexed, puzzled. I worried that I had sounded condescending. I worried that it was condescending to thank a bagger for bagging well; I mean, it's not usually a job one thinks of as high skilled; but she really did do a good job. <BR/>Was I right or wrong to go and thank her for it?<BR/><BR/>I'd like to think I did a good thing, but like I said, after, I wasn't sure. I wasn't sure if it was taken in the spirit in which I had intended. Hopefully, it was, and I tried to do my part.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931944728963114472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13180579468323783622009-03-09T12:26:00.000-04:002009-03-09T12:26:00.000-04:00In the US, there are adult protective services and...In the US, there are adult protective services and it is very specifically a crime to abuse disabled or elderly people, just as with children (not that it's legal to abuse others, only that there are some additional protections). But I doubt most people know about this. And calling the police is still a good option.FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-33355148986077734352009-03-09T09:33:00.000-04:002009-03-09T09:33:00.000-04:00Can I just say that I'm really proud of you? You j...Can I just say that I'm really proud of you? You just keep on educating, planting those seeds of thought whenever you get the chance, don't you? Even to the police investigating this case that - if it were not for you - wouldn't even BE a case. That dear lady was so fortunate to have crossed paths with you, and so are we. Thanks, again, for keeping us in the loop!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16171428636839043425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25667003336529468552009-03-09T09:01:00.000-04:002009-03-09T09:01:00.000-04:00I have to post this anonymously. I work in an elde...I have to post this anonymously. I work in an elder services agency that has a program to investigate/intervene in reports of elder abuse/neglect/selfneglect in our area. The woman who supervises the program does NOT truly believe that people can and DO intentionally hurt others!<BR/>The bias to 'blame the victim' and question motives as a way to maintain personal and social denial of the reality of abuse is SO pervasive, and is the key factor in maintaining the silence about abuse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21998850901923183912009-03-09T08:16:00.000-04:002009-03-09T08:16:00.000-04:00Every addition to this story is riveting. Your cou...Every addition to this story is riveting. <BR/><BR/>Your courage in this instant has indeed brought an end to a case of abuse. Hopefully, it will make that agency more accountable for their employees and set in motion ways to combat abuse, inform employees and clients of the law.foodie4accesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18330907602345940970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72386328294347837182009-03-09T07:41:00.000-04:002009-03-09T07:41:00.000-04:00I've been reading/telling this story to my kids as...I've been reading/telling this story to my kids as a real life example of someone having the smarts and the integrity to stand up for someone in danger. You're a terrific role model! My teens have a strong sense of justice and were aghast when I read them your first entry on this subject. We hear so many horrible things and what was happening to that lady was horrible, no mistake. It's really heartening to see the difference you've made.painting with firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01578014572547587329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24183617687623469912009-03-09T07:22:00.000-04:002009-03-09T07:22:00.000-04:00You amaze me.You amaze me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67937574007310191112009-03-09T06:49:00.000-04:002009-03-09T06:49:00.000-04:00Thank you- we need more people like you. Two of m...Thank you- we need more people like you. Two of my kids are going to be in community living when they're adults, and abuse, no matter where or when it happens, needs to be reported as a crime. <BR/><BR/>I hope that you are giving yourself a little bit of extra credit for this, because you deserve it. I know that it's what any decent person should have done, but you actually did it.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02809636995447795326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-5831289425926390752009-03-09T04:58:00.000-04:002009-03-09T04:58:00.000-04:00I am very moved by this. Thannks for making a diff...I am very moved by this. Thannks for making a difference in her life... and in ours.rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.com