tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1906847062439655450..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Bull's EyeDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76685557940028613412013-07-21T08:14:00.362-04:002013-07-21T08:14:00.362-04:00Dave, you are my inspiration and mentor. I love yo...Dave, you are my inspiration and mentor. I love you Dave, big hugs.Eileennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-82464303194334808402013-07-20T18:45:59.104-04:002013-07-20T18:45:59.104-04:00The world is better because you are in it. Nothing...The world is better because you are in it. Nothing could ever change the truth of that.Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15436653419185638854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3274670629162716722013-07-20T01:41:15.373-04:002013-07-20T01:41:15.373-04:00Big love like you give every day can also have big...Big love like you give every day can also have big hurt. I am so sorry you have so much of the hurt but your love will win. It will. Love always wins. I love you. You have helped me so many times. I tell people all the time you are my online crush. Seriously. Wordshurtorhealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12039330463065872512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50572748516374406652013-07-20T01:40:52.278-04:002013-07-20T01:40:52.278-04:00Fu*k those spineless, heartless, piles of shi* who...Fu*k those spineless, heartless, piles of shi* who find joy in inflicting pain...FUC* them. I am so tired of those judgemental fools who need to find a place for the viciousness to land. We teach the people we support to deal with the daily bullying without screaming F.U. at the tip of their lungs...but maybe someday it might be a bit of a learning experience to just scream it our. F.U., F.U., Ok, that might be a bit much for Joe, best to leave him behind the day you decide to try it. I think there is an amazing thing that happens to women as we age, (and I hope happens to men too) we become more willing to just let loose on the fool who his showing his ass and call attention to it rather than just slinking away. Next time I turn back and find myself verbally assaulting one of those stupid little people....I will imagine you by my side. <br />It does feel quite liberating to drop the F bomb so many times in one paragraph. I can only imagine the fun it will be out loud!!!<br />JamieLynnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25654642604779210002013-07-20T00:36:52.050-04:002013-07-20T00:36:52.050-04:00I just happened upon your post & this TED TALK...I just happened upon your post & this TED TALK today. I hope it encourages you. God bless!<br /><br />http://youtu.be/nfVCgRVMBRc<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-91695746430165437492013-07-19T23:53:35.159-04:002013-07-19T23:53:35.159-04:00You do matter, your words reflect the trapped feel...You do matter, your words reflect the trapped feelings of so many. <3Alice and Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02073871428610707306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44615793707769227172013-07-19T22:36:32.144-04:002013-07-19T22:36:32.144-04:00I'm sending you love, Dave -- not just as a ba...I'm sending you love, Dave -- not just as a balm for the things that people have said and done, but also as a balm for the things they have NOT said and done. So much of the problem is that people don't call each other out on this crap. It's one thing for ignorant SOBs to actually say it; it's another for all the so-called civilized people to hear it and not say a word.<br /><br />I'm so, so sorry. I'm sending you lots of love for who you are. Not for what you do. *For who you are.*Rachelhttp://www.disabilityandrepresentation.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7354515417718066672013-07-19T21:29:11.926-04:002013-07-19T21:29:11.926-04:00Oh Dave, my heart hurts for you :(
You are an ins...Oh Dave, my heart hurts for you :(<br /><br />You are an inspiration to so many of us, especially those of us who are just starting out in the field and blundering our way through. You make me question and make me a better person and better support person.<br /><br />I want to share this with you, even though it is directed to women, I think it's applicable to all. I really love the quote, "There's no wrong way to have a body" http://www.hanneblank.com/blog/2011/06/23/real-women/<br /><br />I was teased and tortured so mercilessly in high school that I dropped out. I was sexually harassed and when I went to those who should protect me, I was told that I must be doing something to encourage it, or that I should be flattered because it was the popular boys. Just the other day I chose a different gas station because the one I originally pulled into had a bunch of young men all hanging out with their Fast and Furious cars. I had to drive out of my way to do so, but I got that gut clenching spasm when I pulled into the first station. Amazing how long the scars of words stay with us. I'm 42 now, high school was so long ago, but the emotions are still so recent.<br /><br />I wish I could hug you.Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-60763313218507926032013-07-19T21:00:31.112-04:002013-07-19T21:00:31.112-04:00I am so very very sorry you experienced this, Dave...I am so very very sorry you experienced this, Dave. Yes, there are foul, horrible people in this world but also still some wonderful, caring, compassionate, kind loving ones too- lots of them!!! Embrace them and pity the others who live with so much hate it poisons their souls. I love the saying "Today, I will Choose Joy" hugs from the East Coast of Canada, Theresa :)ps people are waaaay nicer on the East Coast, this seldom happens here- we're all busy splashing at the ocean or spending time with our families :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-82100888075879202952013-07-19T19:56:05.340-04:002013-07-19T19:56:05.340-04:00Dave.
I am aching for you, for these terrible tru...Dave.<br /><br />I am aching for you, for these terrible truths and your courage in posting it here.<br /><br />Gently, gently, I am holding your heart in mine, willing yours to mend.<br /><br />I am so, so sorry.Belly (Liz McLennan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12185843639648333419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86291638716270033432013-07-19T19:46:29.735-04:002013-07-19T19:46:29.735-04:00Most days I kinda wish that we were friends in rea...Most days I kinda wish that we were friends in real life, so that I could share in your adventures, stories, laughs, and just soak in all that is Dave. But today I kinda wish we were friends in real life, so I could offer a real life hug.<br /><br />You don't deserve this.<br /><br />Nobody deserves this.<br /><br />You <i>especially</i> don't deserve this.<br /><br />If it's ok with you, I'm going to save this post on my phone, where it's easy to access the next time the person I'm with is the one throwing trash. I'd like them to immediately have to read your words.Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06868874343026873104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-46784055140610598862013-07-19T17:40:48.536-04:002013-07-19T17:40:48.536-04:00i am so sorry that you that you experience such ha...i am so sorry that you that you experience such hatred, violence and outrageous disrespect. the bruises (and more) come through loud and clear. <br /><br />i agree with The Shorter Bloggess:<br />"I think this should be required reading for everyone on the planet."<br /><br />i too, have been deeply affected by your writing and your work in the world. i don't comment often, but often talk to you in my head... i have been inspired by your stories and challenge myself to bring the courage and humanity, education and basic human kindness into my world, as you do into yours. <br /><br />know you are so appreciated by so many. take care.<br /><br />tekealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06624164330376848455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14599853172754441682013-07-19T14:58:39.225-04:002013-07-19T14:58:39.225-04:00I just want to sit with your words....and vow aga...I just want to sit with your words....and vow again to speak up when I hear violence.theknappernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65270564084639353262013-07-19T14:35:19.823-04:002013-07-19T14:35:19.823-04:00Dave,
If I could I would throw my arms around you...Dave,<br /><br />If I could I would throw my arms around you and wash your pain away with my tears. <br /><br />The garbage (real or verbal) thrown at you is spewed from mouths/minds capable of little else. They talk about *each other* in the same terms. <br /><br />If you were like *them* we wouldn't be here, sharing your journey. But here we are, because we like your company and you have something to teach us. <br /><br />“For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.” ― Carl Sagan<br /><br />So, I say, in gratitude for what you have taught me:<br /><br />I love you in Big ways<br />I love you in Small ways<br />I love you this minute<br />And I’ll love you Always.<br /><br /><br /><br /> Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133236228952504852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-22993259346719518642013-07-19T13:58:45.903-04:002013-07-19T13:58:45.903-04:00Dave, this totally totally sucks. I 100% believe y...Dave, this totally totally sucks. I 100% believe you. I am devastated at the horribleness of what people do - and CANADIAN people, moreover, who always seemed so much more kind as a society than my fellow Americans. <br /><br />And if it's just the tiniest consolation, your blog has changed the way I think and act in the world, how I teach my children, what I expect from others, what I am looking out for and refuse to be a bystander or indifferent observer to anymore. <br /><br />I know there must be many others like me, who have listened to your stories - wonderfully, powerfully told - and changed. It's not enough, I know. But it's something. Something YOU have done. (And Joe too, in his best supporting actor silent movie role on this blog.)Cynthia F.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-8238558287599994102013-07-19T12:21:37.774-04:002013-07-19T12:21:37.774-04:00Dave,
you made me cry because I felt your pain th...Dave,<br /><br />you made me cry because I felt your pain through your post.<br /><br />Please always remember two things:<br /><br />"One sees clearly only with the heart. Anything essential is invisible to the eyes.”<br /><br />"For me some days you have wings and trough you being you you are beautiful."<br /><br />JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-20033008843992325502013-07-19T11:58:56.311-04:002013-07-19T11:58:56.311-04:00Uncle Dave. It's terrible what you have to go ...Uncle Dave. It's terrible what you have to go through every day, and I'm so sorry this happened to you.<br /><br />I like the way you talked about how people (we commenters) tell you how you should have acted, and give you advice that would never work. It's true, we as a community of readers are guilty of that.<br /><br />We have the luxury, reading your posts, of taking these events one at a time, as isolated anecdotes, or object lessons, in the midst of our day. You have the painful reality to live with - the accumulation of all the negativity and violence that rains down on you. It just stacks up and stacks up. <br /><br />XOXOShanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67327593175992359872013-07-19T10:41:11.715-04:002013-07-19T10:41:11.715-04:00Sending love to counteract what I can of the perva...Sending love to counteract what I can of the pervasive hate of the world.<br /><br />Humans are horrible to each other - and for everyone who dares to speak hate or act hate, there are a million more who think it.<br /><br />All we can do is to keep trying to overcome the natural tendency to put other people down to prop ourselves up, over and over.<br /><br />Please keep educating ME - and anyone else who is trying to learn.<br /><br />I have been fatter (a lot) and I have been far more disabled (a walker is even slower than a wheelchair for some things), so I know a little bit of what you face every day, but I still find myself on the aggressor side, even if only in my mind. And I am ashamed of myself when I do it, use it to keep trying to become a better human.<br /><br />It is the work of a lifetime - but it is necessary. You have made me a bit bolder in protecting others, and a lot more aware of my own faults. And I'm supposed to be one of the good guys?<br /><br />That does NOT excuse the others you run into daily. Their souls must be so black.<br /><br />{{{Dave}}}<br />AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79852164353647338792013-07-19T10:18:31.082-04:002013-07-19T10:18:31.082-04:00Dave,
I just wish I knew what to say that could he...Dave,<br />I just wish I knew what to say that could help. As if mere words could even help in the first place. My thoughts are with you, I wish there weren't so many people who find it so easy to be cruel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-38485132486842138862013-07-19T09:08:02.723-04:002013-07-19T09:08:02.723-04:00Dave, I read every day, though I rarely comment. ...Dave, I read every day, though I rarely comment. I know you are a kind, generous person who cares deeply about others. I feel your hurt and wish there was something I could do. I hope this comment will help in some way, perhaps just knowing that there are people who care and support you.<br />Also, have you considered filing a report with the police? When people cross into the realm of attempting or carrying out physical violence, that is a crime. Even if you don't report this incident, please talk to an officer to find out what your local laws are and things you can do in the future. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7810759516605161642013-07-19T09:07:10.117-04:002013-07-19T09:07:10.117-04:00Thank you for posting this. -AnnieThank you for posting this. -AnnieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-57399363231578076542013-07-19T08:53:13.190-04:002013-07-19T08:53:13.190-04:00Dave, you have been my hero since I first discover...Dave, you have been my hero since I first discovered you. It hurts to know there are so many ignorant individuals in the world and I hate that they have the power to cause you this kind of pain and distress. The world needs more Dave Hingsburgers and none of the trash throwers. You are incredibly beautiful to me.Bernienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70337343334409096822013-07-19T08:27:04.330-04:002013-07-19T08:27:04.330-04:00I've been in a simular place. I'm sorry, ... I've been in a simular place. I'm sorry, Dave. Hugs.Karrynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-22928036144230777092013-07-19T08:16:54.795-04:002013-07-19T08:16:54.795-04:00Dave remember the number of people's lives you...Dave remember the number of people's lives you have changed for the better. You have touched so many of us. So now in your hour of need I send love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-17607920940274926832013-07-19T08:12:12.876-04:002013-07-19T08:12:12.876-04:00Wow people are such jerks! I read you every day b...Wow people are such jerks! I read you every day because I so admire you, your words and the work you do. Easy for me to say don't let the jerks in the world get you down but I'm not the one experiencing that horrible behavior. All I can do is send my admiration and tell you how inspiring I find your work and the intentionality with which you bring kindness into the world.painting with firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01578014572547587329noreply@blogger.com