tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1091608598517776244..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Requiem for Self EsteemDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-51716170189510257452008-07-24T19:54:00.000-04:002008-07-24T19:54:00.000-04:00i started to write a comment and then deleted it b...i started to write a comment and then deleted it but came back again to try and write a comment. I understand what you are saying in this post and I agree and I absolutely love my kids unconditionally. But even so, I don't think it is as black and white as that. Parenting is a hard job, and parenting a special needs child is even harder. I am very aware of the world around us judging my interactions with my daughter as her disabilities are not the visible kind. <BR/>I was a parent for 10 years before my daughter was born. Sometimes even the best and most loving parents have bad days. Teach your children to love unconditionally by example but also teach them compassion for others and please don't judge me by one snapshot you might glimpse as our lives cross paths.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55970937771297556062008-07-22T23:49:00.000-04:002008-07-22T23:49:00.000-04:00Being given unconditional love at home goes a long...Being given unconditional love at home goes a long way toward making up for the day in, day out pain of not being accepted by the world. It doesn't make the pain go away but unconditional love is like a vaccination given in childhood that prevents the soul sickness of never being good enough. Sadly, there isn't much that can replace that love later on. I know this is true from personal experience. Even though I have many people in my life that love me now I think I will always have an emotional limp so to speak. I love my daughter fiercely and completely and I pray she never feels unloved. Sometimes just looking at her when she is sleeping brings tears to my eyes. And sometimes I still wonder why they didn't love me and even though I know it wasn't my fault I still sometimes feel unlovable. Thanks for letting me share this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-32324146052709481942008-07-21T20:56:00.000-04:002008-07-21T20:56:00.000-04:00What a great/sad story.As someone with both cerebr...What a great/sad story.<BR/><BR/>As someone with both cerebral palsy and considerable heft...I've given up on the day that anybody will genuinely see fat people as people first, even as I see progress on the disability sideimfunnytoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12942406430628029505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-30683257118001578782008-07-20T13:03:00.000-04:002008-07-20T13:03:00.000-04:00I agree Dave, and have seen both looks. The former...I agree Dave, and have seen both looks. The former warms my heart, the latter makes it ache for the child.Keihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04095184831191402113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3041764010561071402008-07-20T11:39:00.000-04:002008-07-20T11:39:00.000-04:00I've seen this, too. As always, you say it so wel...I've seen this, too. As always, you say it so well.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090051661613157087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-61645066809991745952008-07-20T08:33:00.000-04:002008-07-20T08:33:00.000-04:00It's called "unconditional love" and it's too bad ...It's called "unconditional love" and it's too bad everyone doesn't have it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42045158533591544372008-07-20T06:37:00.000-04:002008-07-20T06:37:00.000-04:00You hit it right on the head Dave, isn't it all ju...You hit it right on the head Dave, isn't it all just that black and white! Ditto to rickismom's comment! I don't think I have ever missed a day of telling my kids I love them, and I always hug and kiss them goodnight! Self-esteem start at home, with us, the parents!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42286805580082663282008-07-20T03:39:00.000-04:002008-07-20T03:39:00.000-04:00There are SO many things that we have to teach our...There are SO many things that we have to teach our children. But the first is that we love them. And that is not talk by saying it (Though saying should be done, too), but by:<BR/>looks<BR/>actions<BR/>listening<BR/>being flexible once in a while<BR/>the warm touch (yes, even ...in private... to that teenage son who blushes at your quick hug)rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.com