tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post8505613337664112055..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: What MattersDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2331596987279813092014-07-30T00:36:12.027-04:002014-07-30T00:36:12.027-04:00I had to think about this. We have the physical si...I had to think about this. We have the physical situation to contend with and social limitations to deal with. Whenever barriers are removed we all (all society) benefits (everyone enjoys using automatic doors, etc.), and we (so-called disabled) get to become 'one of the group'. It shouldn't be so hard for you to just go up for communion. It's a big discussion and we have a long way to go.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84123104298054976192014-07-29T08:50:30.127-04:002014-07-29T08:50:30.127-04:00I feel moved- love and relief- by your use of lang...I feel moved- love and relief- by your use of language which I guess is carefully constructed.<br />You write, a STAFF offers me special assistance... or any other kind of ‘kindness’ offered to me specifically because of my disability.<br />I think it’s the job of staff to offer support to those they serve. Offering support with kindness is the right way to go about it, offering support is our/their job and therefore not ‘A’ kindness but 'WITH' kindness.<br />I used to think ‘staff/workers’ and 'staff/stick that supports' were different words. But now I can see how they overlap.<br />Staff should stick around with offering support no matter what the response, if we choose to use or not use the support, if we choose to do it in two or do it alone, if we tell staff their intervention is not welcome or welcome.<br />Our job as staff<br />is to stick around and offer support.<br />Our task as those living in a world not adapted to our needs<br />is to preserve our selves, our identity, our integrity.<br />Our task as communities <br />is to work on this together 2get there.<br />Thank you Dave.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12402085774021940282014-07-28T23:37:56.379-04:002014-07-28T23:37:56.379-04:00"I figure that if I can do it, I should do it..."I figure that if I can do it, I should do it." That is exactly how I think. Sometimes I wonder if I have a bit a pride behind that. I'm not sure. I know some day I won't be able to do for myself, when I will have no choice but to rely on others. Until then I feel some sort of self-imposed "rule" to do what I can while I can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86375408645952155372014-07-28T22:46:14.542-04:002014-07-28T22:46:14.542-04:00It's actually really helpful for me to see oth...It's actually really helpful for me to see other people receiving assistance. My disabilities are invisible and I always think I should 'try harder' to be 'normal' and it ends up being bad for me in the end. Seeing that it's okay for things to be easier sometimes can be useful. (Not that my preferences should dictate when/why/who accepts or doesn't accept help...)<br /><br />LittlewolfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9220473917109853562014-07-28T20:17:03.585-04:002014-07-28T20:17:03.585-04:00Asking for help is not the same thing as being tol...Asking for help is not the same thing as being told that you require help [whether you want it].<br /><br />There's nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it. The problem comes when people think that you asking for help means that you always need help.Moosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397412122635951126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58211130687378468732014-07-28T13:21:34.482-04:002014-07-28T13:21:34.482-04:00I went from reading your blog to my Facebook page ...I went from reading your blog to my Facebook page and there was a quote that says "Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but instead a sign of humility and strength. It is about recognizing that we are here to uplift and guide each other on our journeys, a reminder that we should love and care for one another through compassion and kindness."<br /><br />It is so very hard sometimes not to do everything ourselves that sometimes we overlook the fact it is no great achievement to "do it our self". Sometimes it is very important for someone else to be able to do it for us. Sometimes it is very important that we do ask another to do something we could do. Important for them.<br /><br />Important to pray and not maneuver.Flemisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09846999334987088412noreply@blogger.com