tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post8383228735347300851..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: HelpDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-41796310089691148782018-07-29T18:17:21.180-04:002018-07-29T18:17:21.180-04:00And here's where my experience veers from Dave...And here's where my experience veers from Dave's in one significant way - I am 42 and have been the same height I am since I was 9, what with my genetic condition and a very necessary surgery that halted my growth at that time. And before THAT I spent way too much time with orthopedists to think I was physically like my peers anyway though I don't remember it being an issue. I have never experienced NOT being different even if how I think about said differences has changed drastically over the years.<br /><br />And it's still really f****** hard to accept necessary help sometimes. Especially as I've started on occasion needing more than I would have earlier in adulthood which is my only baseline for change regarding help. It makes such a difference in how help is offered and/or given - if it's in a spirit of "my fellow human needs some extra help" it's not hard. If it's "poor little thing, of course I should help her out!" it's horrid.<br /><br />If I ask for help, you can be assured that I REALLY need it, because I know my body and my limits.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886730530004965803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71687648119989023182018-07-29T06:10:10.054-04:002018-07-29T06:10:10.054-04:00Like you I had a background of working with people...Like you I had a background of working with people with disabilities before I became disabled. This helped me as I had a fairly positive view of disability and I knew that I would be ok. But I still grieved what I had lost, and that was so much more than being able to walk unaided. Not being able to do something you used to be able to do does not feel good, and having to ask someone else to do that thing for you? It makes me feel weak and useless. Even though I know that there are 100s of things I can still do, some of which my partner can’t do at all, I still feel like crap having to ask him to do something that is easy (if you can walk or stand). I deal with it better now than I did 6 years ago, but it still bothers me some of the time. You are further into your disability journey than me, so I am relieved to hear that it will continue to get easier and soon it won’t be an issue,Girl on wheelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08796804535876857751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81549582306091708162018-07-28T16:32:53.416-04:002018-07-28T16:32:53.416-04:00My iphone makes it hard to comment, so I'm tak...My iphone makes it hard to comment, so I'm taking advantage of being on my desktop computer at home to tell you how much I value all your posts. Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687247995782738654noreply@blogger.com