tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post7547890426353264117..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Getting Ready for TomorrowDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24919174732075075792016-09-28T22:17:36.809-04:002016-09-28T22:17:36.809-04:00Why does no one seem to have the damn balls to tal...Why does no one seem to have the damn balls to talk about EVERYTHING they've supposedly learned through their disability. Why is it considered somehow gauche to say "I learned about deep disappointment" or "I learned what it was like to have a huge part of me die off (without a burial) and still press on" or "I learned when people said things like "It could be worse" or "God never gives us more than we can handle" that they have no idea what the hell they're talking about. Finally, no one ever says "I learned that disability has a deep effect on your entire family and "I've learned what it's like to have the single biggest event in my persona life have no answer no matter how many times I asked "Why?" And on and on and on. It's not ALL about learning patience and acceptance and tolerance and connection to others. That's all true and disability did make me a person with a far softer heart but many other experiences might have done that same thing for me. If I sound angry, I'm sorry. I'm very frustrated by the lack of candid stories "out there." When I was struggling with what happened to me and how I felt rebuilding my "self" over protestation from my ego (the protective ego we all have), I searched and searched for honesty from others who've gone through it - and its basically nowhere to be found. Barf.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09707741972914107479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88656821152862397172016-09-28T10:18:57.032-04:002016-09-28T10:18:57.032-04:00I agree with your idea that life (no matter what k...I agree with your idea that life (no matter what kind of life) is one long opportunity to learn about life and the world we live in. <br />However, I do say that I have learned so much from my clients (or patients, depending on the setting) because I have! But I learn by being present in the interactions and by being introspective and curious and fascinated by the complexities and layers of living a fully present life. I do not see any person as having value only to teach me something or to be an object lesson for my benefit...each person is valuable and wonderful, just as they are. I learn more about human nature..not about 'addicts' or 'geriatrics'. I don't use those terms but I think it is the way you mean 'disabled' - that it is a class/category where all the members are the same, and have lost their individuality.....<br />Looking forward to reading your next blog post......Clairesmum<br /><br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14895560597059468442016-09-28T10:18:09.365-04:002016-09-28T10:18:09.365-04:00What is the main thing I've learned from being...What is the main thing I've learned from being disabled?<br /><br />To ignore it as much as humanly possible. To not let it take the rest of my life.<br /><br />Because other people sure can't.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.com