tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post7250755534139546811..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: ErgometerDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58597641168752695332017-12-11T15:44:55.696-05:002017-12-11T15:44:55.696-05:00It's easy to be on the defense when you hear a...It's easy to be on the defense when you hear a negative comment most of the time. Glad it worked out nicely. I'm sure there are some psychological differences people have between acquired and lifelong disabilities. I wonder if people who have always been disabled are less likely to wish there were a cure for their disability - or not. Some people see disability as just part of who they are and would not change it. I know there are some people with acquired disabilities who would not change what happened to them even if they could. I'm not one of them. It's not even so much walking as the other things that go along with spinal injuries, like terrible nerve pain, and bowel and bladder dysfunction. If that even those could be fixed, rather than just managed, I'd take it in a minute. Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12064897477140634544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24444954650122064522017-12-10T11:28:47.567-05:002017-12-10T11:28:47.567-05:00I wanted to add that I overindulged a bit yesterda...I wanted to add that I overindulged a bit yesterday (oops) and what I think I was trying to get at, in a more coherent way, is that it must be very different, psychologically, dealing with the bullshit (I had that right at least!) all of a sudden when somebody becomes disabled than if one has always been. There's so much people don't and won't know about actual disability because they already have their minds made up. It's not any easier to deal with, but it must be really hard to have it thrown in your face out of nowhere. I have been all too familiar with it forever.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886730530004965803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64591632993827187402017-12-09T22:43:02.435-05:002017-12-09T22:43:02.435-05:00I can imagine the mental distance between the wor...I can imagine the mental distance between the word "weight" and the words he after said after a moment but - wow. I can imagine somebody saying something about my height which goes over my head in the same way until - wait! That wasn't an insult at all! Damn straight I pull off this everyday life thing as well as most people.<br /><br />I would love to see if there were any studies or anything like that involving people who were disabled from the start vs people who became disabled later in life , and the experiences those folks experience. Something tells me that there's a level of bullshit (depending on one's culture) that us lifelong people end up dealing with as long as well as others who become disabled and suddenly have ALL THE BULLSHIT that in an ideal world bring new perspectives - including such perspectives from people (kinda) like me. Unfortunarily, I'm not in a position to carry out such a thing.<br /><br />If there are such things I'm not aware of please tell me where go to - I am no great scholar but have enough undergrad psychology to know that there's a hell of a lot out there that I don't.<br /><br /> <br />Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886730530004965803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14618403980093093312017-12-09T12:11:07.961-05:002017-12-09T12:11:07.961-05:00Glad you found a chance for a pleasant interaction...Glad you found a chance for a pleasant interaction with your new gym buddy!clairesmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12235828110880302069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71964520962623080482017-12-09T11:58:13.746-05:002017-12-09T11:58:13.746-05:00I think you might be justified in saying, "So...I think you might be justified in saying, "Sorry, but you are the first person to say something complimentary about me and weight in a very long time - much appreciated."<br /><br />That you classified him automatically with the other ten thousand is hardly surprising. It's called a stereotype.<br /><br />Lovely save, BTW.<br /><br />I don't know why you expect perfection from yourself. It would be nice, but it's way too high a standard. My guess is this nice gentleman is perfectly aware how horrible the world can be. But he did speak to a stranger with closed eyes.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.com