tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post6568333906747157240..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Lolly PopDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80587395139807149132015-08-17T21:56:03.797-04:002015-08-17T21:56:03.797-04:00the blog is very touching. a simple gift to a care...the blog is very touching. a simple gift to a caregiver can mean the world to a young child.it is very hard to accept a gift ,but the look on a child's face when you open it is priceless.......I recently had a boy leaving my care and went to the dollar store and picked out a gift for me. it was very cute it was a dinosaur egg that he liked but meant so much to him that he was able to give it to me.....kirsten smithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27030152276909838792015-08-17T21:36:15.011-04:002015-08-17T21:36:15.011-04:00This blog was really touching, How a young chid do...This blog was really touching, How a young chid does a big thing to them for some one who makes a difference in their lives. the first time the gift that u don't except the gift can heart a chids feelings . This also is really touching because not to long a go a child had left my care. he went to the dollar store and got to pick his gift for his teacher, myself and another teacher. he chose things that he was interested in , but the joy on his face when I opened it was priceless his parents came up to me and said "thank you he talks so much about you and the great things you teach'.Kirsten Smithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-91896959287042182842010-06-10T14:59:43.423-04:002010-06-10T14:59:43.423-04:00I worked, for many years, for an agency which had ...I worked, for many years, for an agency which had a "don't accept gifts" from the service recipient policy. I too made Dave's mistake of insisting that I couldn't accept - for about the first year. <br />Then I realized that if I got out ahead of the gift giving impulse of the people I was paid to assist, they wouldn't be put in the embarassing/demeaning/awkward position of having to feel bad when I rejected their gesture. <br />So, as the professional relationship was developing I would take opportunities to talk about boundaries, about how to say thank you to different types of people. I would ask if they brought presents to their doctors, the people the the benefits office, etc. They knew that was a no answer, and this gave me an oppotunity to talk about the fact that while I knew quite a a bit about them, and we had a close working relationship it was professional, and so purchased gifts were not allowed. <br />Over the years I received many wonderful home made cards, works of art, craft projects, letters, wildflowers, and the occassional purchased items of such negligible worth that I just let it go. <br />In return I offered cards, notes, e-mails, something picked up from nature, a walk by the lake, a bike ride just for fun, and genuine acknowldegement of efforts, progress, etc. And occassionally I spent a slightly less negligible amount of money on a trip out for coffee, maybe a special birthday lunch, a game of pool, a special chocolate from the local shop, a cookie after a hard day. <br />We were, after all, in relationship, professional yes, but emotionless no. <br />This practice served me well. There was only 1 time in almost 20 years that I had to set an absolutely no gift ever going either way policy for a single individual who just coulnd't stop the impulse any other way. It was work, and in the end we decided that sharing smiles was the way to go!<br /><br />As for Ruby....what a wonderful experience for all involved!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70526969662885518152010-06-02T13:24:05.185-04:002010-06-02T13:24:05.185-04:00Dave,
You have such great stories to share and I ...Dave, <br />You have such great stories to share and I have so many lessons to learn. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I enjoy reading them.<br />JordanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-4575641661029354122010-06-02T13:00:25.298-04:002010-06-02T13:00:25.298-04:00I think so many people forget that accepting a gif...I think so many people forget that accepting a gift teaches the lessons of graciousness and reinforces the lessons of generosity. Thanks for sharing Dave.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76674624653188757352010-06-01T22:55:12.022-04:002010-06-01T22:55:12.022-04:00Being a gracious receiver is as important as givin...Being a gracious receiver is as important as giving. There cannot be a "rule" for this, except humanity. To deny the joy in someone's eyes--the delight at being a giver, is inhumane. I so agree with this counter culture post, even while knowing the cautions that accompany loosing the tight restrictions and artificial relationships we sometimes force upon ourselves and others.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-35962447488131216742010-06-01T13:56:58.442-04:002010-06-01T13:56:58.442-04:00And I am richer for having read this post. Thanks,...And I am richer for having read this post. Thanks, Dave.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16171428636839043425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21996182016149342722010-06-01T10:57:45.981-04:002010-06-01T10:57:45.981-04:00Lovely. An important lesson for children that I th...Lovely. An important lesson for children that I think a lot of parents miss these days.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16255190971670471758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-41955616904453956792010-06-01T08:59:45.024-04:002010-06-01T08:59:45.024-04:00awwwwawwwwFridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-32283930953008902742010-06-01T08:26:39.357-04:002010-06-01T08:26:39.357-04:00Ruby sounds like a sensational kid.Ruby sounds like a sensational kid.ivanovahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13694244417925801824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88625562880875068742010-06-01T03:04:42.958-04:002010-06-01T03:04:42.958-04:00ooops I deleted my comment by mistake. grrr
How ...ooops I deleted my comment by mistake. grrr<br /><br />How do we teach reciprocity if we do not accept it when it's given to us? we (the agencies we work for who have this policy in place) really need to think about this.Kelly Bannisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13701807934093202401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-75725753221532730222010-06-01T02:57:59.965-04:002010-06-01T02:57:59.965-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Kelly Bannisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13701807934093202401noreply@blogger.com