tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post6125326015203798243..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Me, Me-ness and ForgettingDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72638452565087437392015-05-10T13:33:49.283-04:002015-05-10T13:33:49.283-04:00Love your writing Dave!
Love your writing Dave!<br />Windchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06040562464001903026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-33086689927895049822015-05-10T13:32:59.983-04:002015-05-10T13:32:59.983-04:00Can I share the images here? Love to put them up i...Can I share the images here? Love to put them up in my Disability Services Office on campus. Are they both your artwork?Windchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06040562464001903026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79842433058898018982015-05-10T00:35:11.329-04:002015-05-10T00:35:11.329-04:00Well, that is the ideal. To be accepted for being ...Well, that is the ideal. To be accepted for being who we are, whatever that includes. Or disliked once one gets to know one, not because of a visible feature only.<br /><br />I answered my door to a delivery fellow and looked up, way up and for a split second I almost said to the fellow something stupid like "How's the weather up there?" I guess we can sympathize with how tiring those comments must be. I knew I didn't have to remind him of something he's well aware of, just like I know I'm disabled but, gee-whiz, why does it have to be such a stumbling block for the 'norms'?! <br /><br />Thanks, Dave. B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55436494154836412822015-05-09T13:22:38.305-04:002015-05-09T13:22:38.305-04:00Ah Dave, thank you for your clarification!
It too...Ah Dave, thank you for your clarification!<br /><br />It took me a long time and a lot of therapy to get to like myself and accept myself enough without always having to apologize to still take space on this earth...<br /><br />I always had the feeling that I have to work harder or being especially thankfull for people who adapted to my needs.<br /><br />Since I fell in love with myself more and accept that I have limitatations yes, but other people have them too, albeit maybe not so obvious, I stand up for myself more. And astonisingly I feel much better around people; more loved and less alianated.<br /><br />If I can be nice to myself I can be nice to others. And the rude people can stay where they are.<br /><br />"First love yourself.<br />Then forget it, -<br />Then: love the world." (Mary Oliver)<br /><br />:-)<br /><br />JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11309747563412834322015-05-09T12:03:41.846-04:002015-05-09T12:03:41.846-04:00You do "get it" from all sides, don'...You do "get it" from all sides, don't you?! The diet-pushers, food police, "religious" haters or "forgivers", the people for whom the emperor-with-a-disability has new clothes. <br /><br />In Safeway, one time, I observed an impatient lady who was tailgating another customer with her grocery cart. She said, "Excuse me!" three times, increasing the volume and intensity of her voice and losing a bit of patience at each repetition. Then, she took her cart and rammed it into the oblivious shopper's cart! It turned out that the woman she was trying to pass with her grocery cart was profoundly deaf and had tunnel vision. Deafness and blindness doesn't excuse her of being aware of her surroundings and being courteous to other customers; nor does it merit having people assume she's being rude. I can't help wondering if, to her, that incident was just "one of those things." Antonia Lederhos Chandlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04547400478477070311noreply@blogger.com