tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post5901608889472304776..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Lessons LearnedDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24800072359698833902008-09-05T22:54:00.000-04:002008-09-05T22:54:00.000-04:00"It is my goal to get information but it's also my..."It is my goal to get information but it's also my goal that they learn that they can set their fears aside."<BR/><BR/>oh, how I wish more people in that position would take a moment to remember their fears in those moments. How much more welcoming the world will be. Thank you for being unafraid of self-reflection, of making the personal professional. It all comes down to the common humanity of it all...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-10536836776971038642008-09-05T04:10:00.000-04:002008-09-05T04:10:00.000-04:00first contact has a way of also becoming every con...first contact has a way of also becoming every contact thereafter.<BR/><BR/>that should be engraved on the hearts of everyone in human services.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-60195957791995542602008-09-04T01:50:00.000-04:002008-09-04T01:50:00.000-04:00Oh man that makes me feel sick, a psycho sadistic ...Oh man that makes me feel sick, a psycho sadistic 'dentist' preying on children.<BR/><BR/>Man, it sucks that that happened to you.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12189001770320957752008-09-03T23:17:00.000-04:002008-09-03T23:17:00.000-04:00You just described my childhood except for one thi...You just described my childhood except for one thing, there was no dental care. I was an adult and paid for my first dental visit myself. As a child I was so envious of my classmates who had braces that I made fake ones for myself with paperclips. I knew that I was not worthy of braces or dentists. I would gladly have suffered the pain of dentistry. <BR/>I guess we all have our scars, our pain, and our fear of pain. I became a nurse thirty years ago to care for people, I think because no one cared for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3501480716294455322008-09-03T19:29:00.000-04:002008-09-03T19:29:00.000-04:00...lo and behold...there are more and more holisti......lo and behold...there are more and more holistic and gentle dentists out there! There is no excuse for the horror you experienced early on but teeth are SO important.<BR/><BR/>I am thinking of all the people I support who lived in institutions at one time or another and the level of dentistry they received was similar to your early experience...by virtue of an intellectual disability I cannot even count the thousands of teeth that were unneccessarily pulled, filled etc....TOO MANY people with intellectual disabilities still need pre-medication before dentists visits up to and including getting knocked-out! All because some people in our terrible history thought that teeth were apparently insignificant and unimportant in the scheme of a person's overall care and treatment.<BR/><BR/>Our teeth and overall good dental care is so important to us all. I hope that time will assuage your fear of the dentist. Sorry you have that phobia and terror.John R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855575688523179265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21107193998210972012008-09-03T17:04:00.000-04:002008-09-03T17:04:00.000-04:00I gave you a blog award--not sure if the icon is y...I gave you a blog award--not sure if the icon is your style, but do love your blog. Pass it on!Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14802459265546733391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54022509668710729222008-09-03T16:30:00.000-04:002008-09-03T16:30:00.000-04:00And now you have your voice & it is LOUD &...And now you have your voice & it is LOUD & STRONG & PASSIONATE & WISE.theknapperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06179049498112163140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-29582985766094252652008-09-03T13:22:00.000-04:002008-09-03T13:22:00.000-04:00I remember the fears of my childhood; sometimes th...I remember the fears of my childhood; sometimes they pop up on me unexpectedly. <BR/><BR/>As for dentists, I've been lucky in my adulthood. It's been difficult at times due to moves to new places, and when I first moved here I saw one that evoked all the old fears and created new anxieties. I quickly found someone else who later retired. I now drive an hour 15 minutes to my beloved dentist, who is so awesome that my husband actually looks forward to going to see him~ and my hubby was one who broke into a sweat when even thinking of having to go to a dentist.Keihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04095184831191402113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1344519344051275222008-09-03T09:57:00.000-04:002008-09-03T09:57:00.000-04:00I think I know where he went... my home town! Had...I think I know where he went... my home town! Had to be the same guy... he didn't believe children really felt pain, so novicaine was used sparingly. We had appt after appt to "repair" the same tooth over and over. The guy evenutally brought up on charges for using the novicaine for himself...and probably other pain meds as well.<BR/><BR/>I hate dentists to this day. Don't trust them one bit. I go every 6 months...but sweat and shake during the cleaning. Root canals send me over the edge.<BR/><BR/>I with ya on this one!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715751555766636635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-87812856089154005202008-09-03T09:32:00.000-04:002008-09-03T09:32:00.000-04:00Oh Dave, my heart breaks for you and all children ...Oh Dave, my heart breaks for you and all children who were and are exposed to violence and threats, of any kind. <BR/><BR/>When I was growing up, we had a dentist that was never finished with you. My sister and I would be going back for so many appointments, the experience lasted year round. He would fill a tooth and stretch it out for at least 3 appontments. My parents didn't realize that this wasn't normal, until a family friend told them it was not right.<BR/> <BR/>Now, I make myself go to the dentist every six months, because I know that if I skip, I won't go for years. I also do everything known to humankind to keep my gums healthy, hoping to ward off major problems with my gums and teeth. I hate having someone work in my mouth, I just know that I will choke. <BR/><BR/>I am glad that you got through your appointment yesterday.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49088016319745890532008-09-03T08:38:00.000-04:002008-09-03T08:38:00.000-04:00wow Dave that is dreadful. Thank goodness I read ...wow Dave that is dreadful. Thank goodness I read this just after coming home from the dentist for emergency treatment and not before! Like you I don't like dentists but I've got horrendous teeth so make myself go every six months. My current dentist is wonderfully gentle unlike the previous one who was nicknamed "the butcher." Getting your teeth pulled though - ouch!<BR/><BR/>MyrAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-19572628585426105322008-09-03T07:24:00.000-04:002008-09-03T07:24:00.000-04:00I hear you Dave. I have been there, exactly there....I hear you Dave. I have been there, exactly there. The only thing that pulled me through it was hypnotherapy. Scrambled up the associations and memories, and now, although not comfortable, i can do the denitst. I'm off on Friday to get two wisdom teeth pulled (one broken one done some weeks ago and now the rest must come otu). I will think of you when in the chair - i don't think i could face having this done without having had the hypnotherapy. I have to seriously recommned you look into this. <BR/>Do you remember the guys' name? Was he ever caught?Heike Fabighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06856001856348587649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23284879360524449982008-09-03T05:17:00.000-04:002008-09-03T05:17:00.000-04:00That is so chilling. I'm so sorry for you, your br...That is so chilling. I'm so sorry for you, your brother and all the children who had that done to them. Well done to that one voice and the parent who listened whoever they were. And well done to you for going to your appointment-how could you not be frightened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-43305025434789656592008-09-03T05:01:00.000-04:002008-09-03T05:01:00.000-04:00WOW. The power of one voice. Never thought of that...WOW. The power of one voice. Never thought of that.<BR/><BR/>I Have arelative who is also petrified of dentists... litterally ran away in the middle (from fear, not pain.)Hadn't been back in years. Now he thank- G-d is getting his rotten teeth taken care of. (His fiancee threatened: no dentist, no wedding.)<BR/><BR/>At least you GO, in spite of the fear.<BR/><BR/>I go to the dentist because ONCE I had a terrible keeps-you-up-all-night (even with narcotic pain-killer) toothache. Fear of a repeat is enough to propell me twice-yearly to the dentist.rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.com