tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post5707039912652729183..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: 3Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14069150403118632852011-04-12T09:51:20.834-04:002011-04-12T09:51:20.834-04:00This post is a very touching post, it shows people...This post is a very touching post, it shows people that nothing should stop you and you should go on with your life no matter what and be strong and continue the decisions that you want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-83963692930462472522011-04-03T14:34:29.271-04:002011-04-03T14:34:29.271-04:00While I love all your posts, this is another one t...While I love all your posts, this is another one that will remain in my head and my heart. <br /><br />I would have to agree with the 'and' word choice though. To me, 'yet' sounds like the love is there in spite of Down syndrome. When people question us having C, I have told them that we don't love her because she has Ds, or in spite of it, we just love her.<br /><br />As for the decisions, while a prenatal decision is a big one, there are so many decisions, good and bad, that get us to this exact place in our lives. And we can never tell which decision led to our good decision.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62328416168064678282011-03-30T21:21:03.556-04:002011-03-30T21:21:03.556-04:00Dave, darhlink... I love the new look of the blog,...Dave, darhlink... I love the new look of the blog, it's really dynamic. Only problem is that stripes like that are a migraine trigger. Would you mind considering something less... erm... stripey?Lene Andersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11223128667829847717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13660013324144667892011-03-30T21:06:15.551-04:002011-03-30T21:06:15.551-04:00Lovely post.
I, too, probably would have chosen t...Lovely post.<br /><br />I, too, probably would have chosen to say "And" rather than "Yet."<br /><br />I think I understand where the "no one 'is' a decision" comments may be coming from (or maybe I'm missing it?) but ... I think it depends on what perspective you're looking at it from. Every one of us is the result of a long series of decisions made by other people before we were born, as well as a long series of more serendipitous events beyond anyone's control. A pair of people may have decided to get married (with or without considering future children). Then decided to have a baby ... then made a series of decisions related to that, such as pursuing infertility treatments (if such were needed) or making decisions about whether to have a baby now versus three years from now after Milestone X is over (a degree, a two-year stint in the peace corps, whatever). Got pregnant. Decided to test or not test for Down Syndrome and various other things that might be a risk. Had the baby. Raised the baby in certain ways according to a long series of decisions related to that ...<br /><br />We are all products of decisions made both by others and (once we're born) by ourselves.Andrea S.http://wecando.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-26197337886685135992011-03-30T20:05:51.097-04:002011-03-30T20:05:51.097-04:00Thanks a lot for the comments. I will admit that I...Thanks a lot for the comments. I will admit that I spent a lot of time re reading what I wrote and decided to leave it as it was written. I understand the difference between 'and' and 'yet' and I believe I used the word that I was meaning. I think 'yet' here is more powerful. But I understand the debate. I've things to say about the 'decision' comments but will wait to see what others have to say. On a blog read round the world, there are several time zones yet to come.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7903619800099615242011-03-30T17:29:44.407-04:002011-03-30T17:29:44.407-04:00Perhaps the "decision" doesn't refer...Perhaps the "decision" doesn't refer to continuing a pregnancy - none of the people described might have been born in an era of readily available prenatal testing and diagnosis. Maybe the decisions were about families raising a child at home in his own family, being able to choose to marry, allowing yourselves to be part of each other's lives, living life ordinarily in one's community, being visible.<br /><br />I do agree with Valle, Dave - I would say "and" in place of "yet" now, although it took me a while to get there.<br /><br />Declan and I could be the mother and son in the photo - it's a great joy to have "the knowing". Different decisions at several times (none of them prenatal, as it happens) could have prevented that, and it would have been a great loss.<br /><br />JillBlog editorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13726677763448697938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13557014250266993522011-03-30T14:57:43.688-04:002011-03-30T14:57:43.688-04:00I have seen many people make good decisions, choos...I have seen many people make good decisions, choosing their best option with the information they have at the time. I have never met anyone, with or without a disability, who "is" a decision, good or otherwise.<br /><br />I'm glad the people you met are alive. I'm glad they're happy. I disagree that their happiness reflects on their mothers' quality of decision-making when choosing to carry a pregnancy to term.Sonia Connollyhttp://www.traumahealed.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72280146002200865592011-03-30T12:21:30.881-04:002011-03-30T12:21:30.881-04:00Love this post DaveLove this post DaveNancy I.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16714858855491414327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-90905964216020361912011-03-30T10:53:51.034-04:002011-03-30T10:53:51.034-04:00Lovely post today. Thank you for bringing some su...Lovely post today. Thank you for bringing some sunshine into a bleary, rainy day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6612000705334314842011-03-30T10:43:26.317-04:002011-03-30T10:43:26.317-04:00Absolutely beautiful!Absolutely beautiful!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-40489601272708828132011-03-30T10:30:04.664-04:002011-03-30T10:30:04.664-04:00I love this post. We would have missed them. It...I love this post. We would have missed them. It's important to remember that each and every life is equal, each and every person has the power to change the world, the lives of those around them, just by living that life.<br /><br />Thanks for reminding us.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00452270099433507759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27578469404306380452011-03-30T09:56:01.219-04:002011-03-30T09:56:01.219-04:00Another beautiful post...the only sentence I would...Another beautiful post...the only sentence I would change (as one of those mothers) is this:<br /><br />"She looks at him, sees his difference, *yet* love pours out of her eyes."<br /><br />I'd say: "She looks at him, sees his difference, AND love pours out of her eyes."<br /><br />The difference is part of who he is, it's the part that has opened our eyes and hearts in ways we never thought possible.Vallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01523654103722482964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42605304126805526992011-03-30T09:41:02.615-04:002011-03-30T09:41:02.615-04:00tears. thanks. good decisions DO abound and we are...tears. thanks. good decisions DO abound and we are graced by them.Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375461078977866753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80206457709042953162011-03-30T08:50:14.183-04:002011-03-30T08:50:14.183-04:00This was ...hard to read. My daughter has DS. Ye...This was ...hard to read. My daughter has DS. Yes, we knew before she was born. Yes, I am adamantly pro-choice. No, I did not consider her a --decision--. Certainly not after she started kicking. But the numbers testify many many people do. I'll also admit that this just exposed the weakness & contradictions in my own political position as the VERY first thing that flashed in my head was the "other side’s" bumper sticker [The "It's a child..." one]. Also conceding the sole source of my ambivalence is an adorable, adventurous, not quite 3 year old. Much to ponder.krlrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14392064691347464660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88800511107698107532011-03-30T07:39:16.897-04:002011-03-30T07:39:16.897-04:00Thank you, Dave, for another beautiful post. Ther...Thank you, Dave, for another beautiful post. There are so many who need to read this and I will share your wisdom again today. Thank you!My Girls R Angelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07521021983945110512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72268015614830769022011-03-30T06:57:42.426-04:002011-03-30T06:57:42.426-04:00Nice one -Nice one -Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-8308215455463771782011-03-30T06:52:19.757-04:002011-03-30T06:52:19.757-04:00Asolutely love today's blog Dave. I loved how...Asolutely love today's blog Dave. I loved how you talked about your experience with the decisions. This is one I will keep with me for a long time.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06371503060589198675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84209615642843001102011-03-30T06:01:18.700-04:002011-03-30T06:01:18.700-04:00wow that's wonderful. how uplifiting. Thanks.wow that's wonderful. how uplifiting. Thanks.Joyfulgirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-28697544042958078502011-03-30T05:41:11.686-04:002011-03-30T05:41:11.686-04:00Dave this post was beautiful. I have again passed...Dave this post was beautiful. I have again passed your Blog link on to others. Some parents and some self advocates themselves. Good decisions are all around us and it takes people like you to point them out to us. Thanks again for a great start to my day.Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14294417720384602202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62626738278974399322011-03-30T05:27:29.838-04:002011-03-30T05:27:29.838-04:00Beautiful, beautiful post. Thank you.Beautiful, beautiful post. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com