tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post5586201814397803438..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: "I" versus "He"Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49684135756299010032017-02-03T13:30:02.684-05:002017-02-03T13:30:02.684-05:00This is so important, with anyone who is being ass...This is so important, with anyone who is being assisted in any way. I am disabled and use a power assisted manual chair-which I love. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, which my son has inherited. His isn't apparent to strangers yet. He's six years old, and I encourage him to make his own decisions. When eating out, for example, he reads his menu and politely asks the server for his order. They're often a little surprised, as they instinctively ask me things such as "And what would he like to drink?". Interestingly, people sometimes act in the opposite way, somehow assuming that my first grader is taking care of Me! When we go out with my partner and his mother, who walks with a limp, people treat him as if he's in charge of all of us. <br /><br />Also, I want to know more about those gloves! I get mine from my brother, who works at a bike shop in Toronto. <br /><br />-CaitCaitrĂona Hawthornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06364459810151389871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53399934149388664592017-01-14T20:59:15.729-05:002017-01-14T20:59:15.729-05:00I hate that. As a parent of a young adult son who ...I hate that. As a parent of a young adult son who has a disability, and as someone who works as a Deafblind Intervenor and has worked for over 25 years (God, suddenly I feel so old!!!!!) with people, both kids and adults, with disabilities, it drives me nuts when care providers and/ or parents speak FOR those they are supporting. I've had waiters in restaurants ask me what the person with me would like...to which I typically respond, "How would *I* know???" I will help the person to answer if they need my help, but I will not be spoken to in their place, nor will I answer on their behalf without their input. It's not my place, as an Intervenor, as a support person, as a parent, to take away from the power of the person I am with. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06352332380562232996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-35664803273079021072017-01-14T09:50:43.651-05:002017-01-14T09:50:43.651-05:00I think it is very sad that the people in the line...I think it is very sad that the people in the line only reacted to that comment about his mother. Instead of looking at the ass in the suit and thinking he is a jerk, and offering support.and encouragemen to the individual asserting himself,,and putting the ass in the suit in his place. I think the biggest saddest joke is the people standing in line allowing this to happen . If I was there I would have fully supported this man.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-26642984352939913232017-01-13T23:40:27.077-05:002017-01-13T23:40:27.077-05:00Yes!Yes!Mary Nauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12344133616387412555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77157122056865086432017-01-13T07:53:57.463-05:002017-01-13T07:53:57.463-05:00Nothing gets this old cranky dwarf even crankier t...Nothing gets this old cranky dwarf even crankier than someone who speaks on my behalf when I'm right there! People like that get a verbal warning not to do it again, and if they transgress, they get a light whap on the butt with the naughty cane. (I'm joking about whapping part, but it's amusing to fantasize).Frank_Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15707525224938640688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44467237046277027952017-01-12T19:57:59.401-05:002017-01-12T19:57:59.401-05:00If she'd known her job, he would have had an e...If she'd known her job, he would have had an easier time of it - but you showed him how to do it, and he caught on quickly if he needed that example.<br /><br />How sad. They should be having fun with her enabling him under his command - and him being more confident and effective.<br /><br />The model of caretakers being replacement parents of those who are like children is wrong - but still vigorous. It isn't really easier, but appears so on a short time scale. Are there written policies against it? ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-52143933123849158352017-01-12T10:00:52.873-05:002017-01-12T10:00:52.873-05:00sounds as if your presence was a source of strengt...sounds as if your presence was a source of strength for him....you were clearly trying to talk to him and he responded to that, it seems. I hope you and he get a chance to race down and up those ramps someday<br />clairesmumUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382503094929375543noreply@blogger.com