tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post4899626700168189918..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Weaving Through PeopleDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-20805710286439700402015-09-18T09:52:48.399-04:002015-09-18T09:52:48.399-04:00Yep. It's been a discussion point with my staf...Yep. It's been a discussion point with my staff as well, about when it is or is not appropriate to intervene on my behalf (rule of thumb: unless it's an emergency or I've specifically asked them to, then probably it's not).<br /><br />Quite often I will choose to just stay still for a few moments, until either the crowdedness clears, or I've got enough "oomph" to pull off the tricksy navigation, the <i>excuse me, excuse me, thank you, excuse me, thanks but it's easier if you just stay still and I can work around you, it's when people move unexpectedly that toes get squished, hahaha, thanks, thank you so much, excuse me, thank you...</i><br /><br />But once in a while, someone decides that *they* feel irritated on my behalf that the gangways aren't clear and people aren't magically letting me through. So they create a *scene*, with me unwillingly at the centre of it and having to do the fiddly manoeuvres and <i>excuse me etc</i> whether I'm ready or not, and to make matters worse, the standing-up people try to engage in conversation with the well-meaning intervenor, about me but over my head, because the intervenor has basically broadcast the perception that I can't speak up for myself. It's stressful and humiliating.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639094548415759560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11076254388671625402015-09-18T08:08:01.777-04:002015-09-18T08:08:01.777-04:00Why not get a whistle? One good tweet and everybo...Why not get a whistle? One good tweet and everybody knows you're coming through. Simple, effective, low cost, low energy output, and we get you where you're going far more easily.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-35689533053425344022015-09-17T23:21:06.837-04:002015-09-17T23:21:06.837-04:00In addition to physical mobility limitations, I ha...In addition to physical mobility limitations, I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and have had it far longer than the other (26 years this November 5th).<br /><br />I rarely leave the house - it is too exhausting to do what you describe. My basic functionality is improved if I have NO stress and can get a half hour nap each three-hour period - you can see how that would be near impossible.<br /><br />Sometimes I must - or start to feel completely shut in. Then, it costs me.<br /><br />You can - so you decide if you want to spend the energy - but it takes far more than other people would willingly spend.<br /><br />Hope you continue to be able to - and that maybe people will get a bit better at helping automatically.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2005974651790274652015-09-17T23:03:46.292-04:002015-09-17T23:03:46.292-04:00Yup, agree with you and the commenters. I need to ...Yup, agree with you and the commenters. I need to be alone to recoup.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-17377350817760533142015-09-17T22:29:30.600-04:002015-09-17T22:29:30.600-04:00Absolutely! And I avoid that sort of situation lik...Absolutely! And I avoid that sort of situation like the plague. In spite of everything, all my planning and strategising, I still wind up having to ask for assistance in getting through various sorts of crowds, from time to time. Exhausting!wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58674715116199073672015-09-17T14:51:33.965-04:002015-09-17T14:51:33.965-04:00Yup, I get tired. I'm autistic and also have o...Yup, I get tired. I'm autistic and also have other invisible disabilities, and I can't drive. I also can't take public transit on my own to many places. I have to ask for help, and it's really exhausting emotionally to feel like I'm always creating a problem for other people by needing help. I actually don't get care that might help me because I would have to ask for help to access that care, and that in itself ends up being so stressful that it's bad for my health.<br /><br />--LittlewolfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-48163244737114720672015-09-17T10:21:45.919-04:002015-09-17T10:21:45.919-04:00i know i use up energy getting myself mentally pre...i know i use up energy getting myself mentally prepared for situations that i anticipate might be a threat in some way...but it doesn't happen to me these days very often. asking for space in a crowd is like rolling the dice over and over. with folks focused on cell phones instead of their surroundings, it's less likely people will anticipate your request and move aside without being asked. your explanation of how this situation uses up energy is a great description. <br />your posts could be scripts for training materials on the importance of accessibility and the variations that exist...<br />hope the lunch was tasty, after all the work it took to get it!clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54319872627559555182015-09-17T10:08:37.651-04:002015-09-17T10:08:37.651-04:00Dear Dave: I don't use a wheelchair neverthele...Dear Dave: I don't use a wheelchair nevertheless what you describe would exhaust me because I'm an introvert and that much social interaction would take a lot of energy for an introvert. I haven't really considered that navigating an inaccessible world takes that particular kind of energy before. Even when people are nice, the environment is demanding. ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-70153155262636349492015-09-17T09:57:20.893-04:002015-09-17T09:57:20.893-04:00I do.
Even when it's pleasant, it takes ene...I do. <br /><br />Even when it's pleasant, it takes energy, it takes work.<br /><br />Even pleasant work can make you tired. And that's <i>even</i> when you begin the work with utter trust you'll enjoy it.<br /><br />But when you're weaving through a crowd, at each encounter, there's a bit of doubt: Will <i>this</i> encounter go smoothly? And <i>this</i> one? And the <i>next</i>?<br /><br />So not only are you working on navigation and communication, you're also working on keeping your defenses up, just in case.CapriUnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906524679880178584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36514553088053709622015-09-17T07:38:47.783-04:002015-09-17T07:38:47.783-04:00yepyepGleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.com