tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post4701317928971068094..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Gratitude AnonymousDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21319692941153277632013-10-26T18:12:47.104-04:002013-10-26T18:12:47.104-04:00My favourite, when people obviously want my attent...My favourite, when people obviously want my attention, is to ask them "Is there something I can help you with?"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77727092643272442062013-10-26T08:29:43.997-04:002013-10-26T08:29:43.997-04:00What liebjabberings said :)What liebjabberings said :)Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9708866485964369202013-10-25T07:02:59.804-04:002013-10-25T07:02:59.804-04:00Fiercely poetic indeed. I hope that having the po...Fiercely poetic indeed. I hope that having the power to use language so skillfully helps transform these experiences into ....what....I don't know exactly...but language is how we create our worlds....clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-60352572197756492832013-10-25T03:35:09.359-04:002013-10-25T03:35:09.359-04:00I know you're not fond of "how I would ha...I know you're not fond of "how I would have handled it" remarks, but I'd like to suggest the alternative phrase "excuse me".<br /><br />I don't know if this will cross the pond, but here, "excuse me" is an irreproachably polite phrase, even when yelled at the top of your lungs, that can mean any of the following and a few more:<br />1. I am trying to attract your attention.<br />2. I am trying to end our interaction and get rid of your attention.<br />3. Thank you for your consideration.<br />4. Please get out of my way.<br />5. Say that one more time.<br />6. I can't believe you just said/did that and I *dare* you to repeat it.<br />7. I am sincerely sorry.<br />8. I am insincerely sorry.<br /><br />It's a very useful phrase in ambiguous situations!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639094548415759560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-85468838195959670742013-10-25T00:01:16.415-04:002013-10-25T00:01:16.415-04:00Yup, heaven help me from needy normals. Yup, heaven help me from needy normals. B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76358341667974976252013-10-24T20:32:33.950-04:002013-10-24T20:32:33.950-04:00Another Dave and door tale. Honestly Dave, you sh...Another Dave and door tale. Honestly Dave, you should write a book.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54436640595465301632013-10-24T15:10:54.069-04:002013-10-24T15:10:54.069-04:00The difficulty with calling people on their behavi...The difficulty with calling people on their behaviour in a situation like this is who knows how they might retaliate? It's not like you can jump up and defend yourself. <br /><br />I'm left wondering if people who do this have so much stress and so little validation in their lives, so little positive feedback, that they are left begging it from strangers? <br /><br />I wonder what would happen if when someone does this again we give them some compassionate validation? "Thank you for noticing that I might need some help. I don't, but it was a kind gesture on your part." <br /><br />This is only my take, maybe because women are not usually socialized to feel they have to be in power, and accepting help implies weakness. <br /><br />Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133236228952504852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-89586967801784663272013-10-24T13:05:34.829-04:002013-10-24T13:05:34.829-04:00Yes. It's an addiction.
I was thinking this...Yes. It's an addiction. <br />I was thinking this the other day in relation to a few more things that we encounter...Psychojenichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02936930614210195529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-78013745293859556192013-10-24T12:42:43.772-04:002013-10-24T12:42:43.772-04:00Ugh. People like that are just soooo annoying. Ugh. People like that are just soooo annoying. wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-46849027417847369622013-10-24T09:19:23.081-04:002013-10-24T09:19:23.081-04:00When this happens again, I wonder if you wouldn...When this happens again, I wonder if you wouldn't feel better afterward if you just confronted her, nicely of course, "Did you just move INTO my way so you could move OUT of my way? Why did you do that?" while shaking your head as if you simply couldn't believe it.<br /><br />In other words, call her on it.<br /><br />YOU shouldn't be the one with the great undigested lump of something in your stomach - she should.<br /><br />AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-37654539880725732982013-10-24T08:49:07.401-04:002013-10-24T08:49:07.401-04:00Belly is right - your words are often poetry. I am...Belly is right - your words are often poetry. I am always amazed by these stories. I really never knew anyone acted like that BD (before Dave). She deserved an evil stare down ... :-) Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14319978987340430352013-10-24T08:01:29.442-04:002013-10-24T08:01:29.442-04:00I myself do not have this issue, I do have a son w...I myself do not have this issue, I do have a son with Down syndrome and often am expected to be grateful for all the "great advice" I get about how to raise him. Because everyone knows someone who has a child with Down syndrome and "their friend told them" etc etc. Yes, my tongue hurts from biting it. xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01780073704306384645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58137819242807963562013-10-24T07:44:49.007-04:002013-10-24T07:44:49.007-04:00Gah! Dave, sometimes your words are poetry. Fierce...Gah! Dave, sometimes your words are poetry. Fierce, stunning poetry.<br /><br />As for this exchange - well, double gah - I wonder if I too, have been this woman, waiting for someone to notice me being awesome?<br /><br />I fear that the answer is yes.<br /><br />I'm sorry.Belly (Liz McLennan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12185843639648333419noreply@blogger.com