tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post4580735299600923388..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Honey, Could You Sit Down for a Moment?Dave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger103125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25884236306869263812011-04-15T11:21:23.821-04:002011-04-15T11:21:23.821-04:00great site, keep it up the good work.great site, keep it up the good work.generic viagrahttp://www.vx-pharmacy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49331782473581086372010-10-27T22:19:32.713-04:002010-10-27T22:19:32.713-04:00I'm here nearly a month after your last commen...I'm here nearly a month after your last comment, and that one reason I don't comment more often. I'm terribly late to the party. <br /><br />I love, love, love your posts. They bounce around in my head and I'm so glad I found you. <br /><br />But for some reason I thought of you as a 'big blogger'. And with the big bloggers, I feel less pressure to comment because I thought you already got so many, you wouldn't need mine.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-15786345979451998552010-10-04T16:22:11.799-04:002010-10-04T16:22:11.799-04:00I subscribe to your blog via Google Reader, and it...I subscribe to your blog via Google Reader, and it's often evenings or weekends before I have an opportunity to read the posts. If you don't mind my two cents after the discussion's ended, I'll reply more often! I truly appreciate the insight you've given me into a world I know little of.<br /><br />Thank you!<br />ElizabethElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102217905206545591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24989995226203932422010-10-04T00:03:50.558-04:002010-10-04T00:03:50.558-04:00Whoa. Just read Dulcie and have to shout "AME...Whoa. Just read Dulcie and have to shout "AMEN" to this part:<br /><br />As an able-bodied person, I feel like I have nothing to contribute, nor a voice to contribute with.<br /><br />I wasn't going to mention this, myself, but it's a huge part of my silence.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34584888680013479712010-10-04T00:01:47.117-04:002010-10-04T00:01:47.117-04:00OK, why don't I comment every time? Because of...OK, why don't I comment every time? Because often I find myself pissed off at your other commenters and I type a scathing remark, only to realise either<br />a) it's inappropriate; or<br />b) it's pointless.<br /><br />Then I delete it and go have a cookie.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6781688875617953742010-10-03T06:11:57.747-04:002010-10-03T06:11:57.747-04:00I've been catching up on posts, and realised t...I've been catching up on posts, and realised that one reason I don't comment, when I might, is that sometimes you tell a story which is complete in itself. Then, I may not even read comments, because I want to hold that completeness.<br /><br />It's like the moment's silence after a particularly powerful musical performance: one doesn't want to collapse the spell, and so it stretches before someone punctures the silence by applauding. The difference, of course, is that that silence is loud and communicative. Silence on the internet is just silent.<br /><br />Also, sometimes the response is a personal one *to* something personal, and it feels intrusive to clothe it in clumsy words and thrust it at you. That might be a little messed up, but it's another silence of response, rather than of non-response.Baba Yaganoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13357114537417152702010-10-01T15:08:50.109-04:002010-10-01T15:08:50.109-04:00Dave, you've had such a profound effect on my ...Dave, you've had such a profound effect on my life and thinking. Sometimes I don't comment because I'm reading on my phone, sometimes I don't comment because I don't have anything NEARLY as profound as you've written to say, sometimes I don't comment because I'm so lost in thought and reflection on what you write...but please know I'm always reading and nearly always moved! A bright light would go out if you stopped blogging.Cynthia F.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36432944490567979472010-09-30T13:21:10.730-04:002010-09-30T13:21:10.730-04:00Mr. Hinsburger, I work at an agency called Nova Ce...Mr. Hinsburger, I work at an agency called Nova Center of the Ozarks, we have 12 ISL's and do community supports as well. I’m a QDDP or case manager if you will. I write to you because we have an avid follower of yours at our agency who reads your posts, I would say daily. Her name is Amy. The ones that I assume touch her most, she forwards to all of us. I read them every time I see one because it immediately gets me excited. I am always thrilled to hear what you have to say. This is the email I sent to Amy today after reading your blog..."Thank you for always sending these, I really enjoy reading them and I love the challenge it creates in me to do better." I then went directly to your site to see what else I could find refreshing per say...I saw this. It hurt my heart for you so I wanted you to know how here in Springfield, MO we do think about you, and wait for your wonderful thoughts. We went to a conference in March in St. Louis just to see you, and we are very excited for you to come near us again because we plan to attend. <br />-I just wanted you to know.<br />Stacy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36311778200462125782010-09-30T11:46:39.136-04:002010-09-30T11:46:39.136-04:00Hi Dave. For now, I've only be lurking on your...Hi Dave. For now, I've only be lurking on your blog. One of the reason is that I have sporadic Internet access and feel that I'm not adding much to the discussion if I'm commenting three days later. The other reason is that, as a rule, I only comment when I have something interesting to add to the discussion. I got into this habit because I mostly read highly frequented blogs that get a large amount of comments on every entry. However, I will make sure to get rid of this habit here and leave a comment once in a while. Even if it ends up being three days later.Lounahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11031075401203936622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18084337315723357542010-09-30T08:58:20.047-04:002010-09-30T08:58:20.047-04:00Dave,
"So it may seem, by my lack of respons...Dave,<br /><br />"So it may seem, by my lack of response that I don't care about comments or feedback. I guess this post is my way of saying, 'I need feedback' and 'I need encouragement' ... I need some way of keeping the focus of writing something daily - a sense that it matters does that."<br /><br />I understand and appreciate your desire for comments--and I will try to comment more, because I do appreciate your writing.<br /><br />But when I blog I do so to develop relationships that are deeper than the traditional writer/reader relationship (and I'm saying this as a professional writer). So, when I comment to your posts and get no response, as has happened in the past, my presence/participation feels unappreciated and unnecessary.<br /><br />There are so many people who blog for marketing purposes only and such blogs always feel a bit empty--disconnected from the history & tradition of blogging. Your blog has great content, but lack of reciprocal comments can sometimes make it feel a bit disconnected.<br /><br />It is a trade-off. Blogging, whether writing posts or writing comments, takes time and time is precious. Maybe choosing one day a week to exchange comments, instead of posting, would provide a better balance and help make for a deeper connection with your readers.Stephaniehttp://embracingchaos.stephanieallencrist.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14249903145312282362010-09-29T16:03:46.109-04:002010-09-29T16:03:46.109-04:00I don't comment often because I usually just h...I don't comment often because I usually just have a hard time getting through all my internet reading. (I often catch up with a week of your posts at a time.) If I can dash off a quick comment, I will, but your posts need more than a drive by.<br /><br />One thing I've noticed in my blog reading is that posts that ask questions get lots more comments. Such as ending a post with, "What would you have done?" or "Do you agree, or did I overreact?" or "Have you ever experienced anything like this?" It really invites discussion.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16255190971670471758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25167366600542137742010-09-29T15:17:15.519-04:002010-09-29T15:17:15.519-04:00Dear Dave,
My littles are just that--little. Ther...Dear Dave,<br />My littles are just that--little. There are days when it takes me three or four tries to get through a whole post. But always, no matter the topic, you bring a wave of love to my heart. Love for you and all you do for the rest of us with your words; love for all the folks out there advocating so that my children will have better opportunities; and especially love for these incredibly wonderful, crazy boys of mine.<br /><br />I imagine that every person who follows your blog feels something similar to that. I'm glad, though, that you mentioned needing a response from us. I did take you for granted. I knew that no matter how many days went by before I got another chance to check out what you've been saying, you would follow through with something new to touch my soul.<br /><br />I don't use the internet for pure entertainment...I use it to feel connected to others who are in similar situations (or at least understand, a little, what my life is like). I use it to reach out to a world where who I am and who my children are is just a given. I use it to fuel my own reserves, when times are rough. <br /><br />I live in a very conservative, close-minded, rural area and I struggle every day to help others see the beauty to be had in any given day. I try and stay up-beat and show them that even if things can be a little harder, it doesn't mean it's worse. But, there are days that leave me drained; when my up-beat attitude gets a bit beat-up; when I just feel like yelling at (or worse, agreeing with) them<br /><br />Those are the days I come here to hear what's been on your mind; to be reassured that as difficult as it is some days, there is always the potential to make it better. I don't want to take you for granted. I'd much rather just say, "Thank you, Dave, for helping the rest of us make it through one more day...the good, the bad, and the beautiful!"Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62057754615853177382010-09-29T14:07:13.817-04:002010-09-29T14:07:13.817-04:00I do comment on (and share your posts) regularly, ...I do comment on (and share your posts) regularly, unfortunately not to you. I will try to do better.<br />I do value your work very much! I learn from you and teach others as a result of following your writings. Thanks for all you do!<br />Love, love, love you David Hingsburger! What you do matters!Kasiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17813617826032990730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86943236481052591442010-09-29T11:46:41.137-04:002010-09-29T11:46:41.137-04:00I have had the pleasure of meeting you, several ye...I have had the pleasure of meeting you, several years ago, in Saskatoon. I have read your books and I read your blog almost every day. Your words, your sheer guts, and your ability to make me think about what my son needs, and who he needs me to be, have had an incredibly profound impact on my life, and on my son's life. I speak of you often, and as my friend prepares to open a group home, your name is the one I tell her, as the person they need to come in and train the staff and empower the individuals who will call this new house their home. <br />Never doubt the impact you have had on people you know, and people you have never et. It is considerable, it is important, and it is life long.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-17171566025723906832010-09-29T08:48:28.356-04:002010-09-29T08:48:28.356-04:00I'm sorry! I'm a very regular reader but I...I'm sorry! I'm a very regular reader but I think I've only ever left one or two comments. Why? Well, I'm not disabled, I don't have any family members with a disability or indeed any friends ditto. (Though I'm now asking myself...why this last?) So I don't feel I've got much to contribute and if I do think I might have something to say, I worry that it might sound wrong, or worse still patronising. <br /><br />However I do find that reading your blog has broadened my horizon a little and made me think about a few things that otherwise I might not have. And to examine the way I'm bringing up my children and the values I'm trying to instill in them. I think these are two good reasons to continue reading your blog, don't you? You are a window into another world that. to my shame, I hadn't really noticed before. <br />I'd be sorry if you stopped writing. Please don't. I'll try and comment more, I promise!Spinningfishwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13709744732495957360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-75584590156603055302010-09-29T08:03:05.293-04:002010-09-29T08:03:05.293-04:00thanks again to all who commented, I appreciated t...thanks again to all who commented, I appreciated the ... wildly unexpected ... outpouring of support.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55518058121312198772010-09-29T03:23:23.818-04:002010-09-29T03:23:23.818-04:00RSS reader here. Never commented before, I want t...RSS reader here. Never commented before, I want to say that I have everything in common with the other commenters who have nothing directly in common with you, but respect your actions, and enjoy your reports.<br /><br />I suggest, that perhaps the next time you perceive that there's a certain emptiness, that you figure out how to operate an opinion poll post here on your blog and get a feel for how your readership sees an issue or what they thought about an experience of yours you may have related in a previous post.Donnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42284940564223850162010-09-29T01:40:51.424-04:002010-09-29T01:40:51.424-04:00Hello,
As an able-bodied person, I feel like I ha...Hello,<br /><br />As an able-bodied person, I feel like I have nothing to contribute, nor a voice to contribute with. I really want to say "Right on! Stick it to the (wo)man!" but then I feel like such an outsider. I, too, am sensitive, and I am afraid people would reply to my comment and say "What do YOU know about it? YOU have no idea." Which would be true. <br /><br />You do pull me out of my self-centered world and make me more aware of things. For example, I am less likely to shop at a store or eat at a restaurant if I notice blatant inaccessibility. I protect/preserve disabled access when I can ("Let's sit over here so a wheelchair user can have that space"). I now *always* smile at and address directly *everyone* I meet, especially in my role as a client communicator, even if it seems the person may not be able to respond in kind. I now notice and appreciate the curb cuts that allow me to bike or even walk more easily, the buttons on doors that make it easier for me to carry things in and out, the chirping at the stoplight that tells me to stop fiddling with my phone and cross the street, I fight hate speech of all kinds when I hear it, and I can answer all the "jokes" with humanity and logic: "Why is there Braille on the keypads at the drive-up ATM?" Um, because maybe the blind person who needs assistance to do their banking doesn't have to allow someone else to know such personal things as their PIN or bank balance...<br /><br />I do forward your works to people I think would benefit, and when I discuss things you bring up with friends or co-workers, I say "My friend Dave says" instead of the more accurate but creepy sounding "This guy who I stalk thru the internet says"... I hope you don't mind.<br /><br />So, I hope that, even though my life challenges are less obvious to many (including me sometimes), I can still be a cape-wearing social justice warrior with the rest of you.<br /><br />Now, the warm fuzzies:<br />I love you! You (and Joe) rock! Keep going! The world needs you! Ruby is SO BLESSED to have you in her life, AND all the people whose lives she touches will be the better for how you shape her life.Dulciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13961670591774641159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81472744781397257242010-09-29T01:40:24.373-04:002010-09-29T01:40:24.373-04:00Hello,
As an able-bodied person, I feel like I ha...Hello,<br /><br />As an able-bodied person, I feel like I have nothing to contribute, nor a voice to contribute with. I really want to say "Right on! Stick it to the (wo)man!" but then I feel like such an outsider. I, too, am sensitive, and I am afraid people would reply to my comment and say "What do YOU know about it? YOU have no idea." Which would be true. <br /><br />You do pull me out of my self-centered world and make me more aware of things. For example, I am less likely to shop at a store or eat at a restaurant if I notice blatant inaccessibility. I protect/preserve disabled access when I can ("Let's sit over here so a wheelchair user can have that space"). I now *always* smile at and address directly *everyone* I meet, especially in my role as a client communicator, even if it seems the person may not be able to respond in kind. I now notice and appreciate the curb cuts that allow me to bike or even walk more easily, the buttons on doors that make it easier for me to carry things in and out, the chirping at the stoplight that tells me to stop fiddling with my phone and cross the street, I fight hate speech of all kinds when I hear it, and I can answer all the "jokes" with humanity and logic: "Why is there Braille on the keypads at the drive-up ATM?" Um, because maybe the blind person who needs assistance to do their banking doesn't have to allow someone else to know such personal things as their PIN or bank balance...<br /><br />I do forward your works to people I think would benefit, and when I discuss things you bring up with friends or co-workers, I say "My friend Dave says" instead of the more accurate but creepy sounding "This guy who I stalk thru the internet says"... I hope you don't mind.<br /><br />So, I hope that, even though my life challenges are less obvious to many (including me sometimes), I can still be a cape-wearing social justice warrior with the rest of you.<br /><br />Now, the warm fuzzies:<br />I love you! You (and Joe) rock! Keep going! The world needs you! Ruby is SO BLESSED to have you in her life, AND all the people whose lives she touches will be the better for how you shape her life.Arkaniannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24899457124043245492010-09-29T01:39:46.778-04:002010-09-29T01:39:46.778-04:00Hello,
As an able-bodied person, I feel like I ha...Hello,<br /><br />As an able-bodied person, I feel like I have nothing to contribute, nor a voice to contribute with. I really want to say "Right on! Stick it to the (wo)man!" but then I feel like such an outsider. I, too, am sensitive, and I am afraid people would reply to my comment and say "What do YOU know about it? YOU have no idea." Which would be true. <br /><br />You do pull me out of my self-centered world and make me more aware of things. For example, I am less likely to shop at a store or eat at a restaurant if I notice blatant inaccessibility. I protect/preserve disabled access when I can ("Let's sit over here so a wheelchair user can have that space"). I now *always* smile at and address directly *everyone* I meet, especially in my role as a client communicator, even if it seems the person may not be able to respond in kind. I now notice and appreciate the curb cuts that allow me to bike or even walk more easily, the buttons on doors that make it easier for me to carry things in and out, the chirping at the stoplight that tells me to stop fiddling with my phone and cross the street, I fight hate speech of all kinds when I hear it, and I can answer all the "jokes" with humanity and logic: "Why is there Braille on the keypads at the drive-up ATM?" Um, because maybe the blind person who needs assistance to do their banking doesn't have to allow someone else to know such personal things as their PIN or bank balance...<br /><br />I do forward your works to people I think would benefit, and when I discuss things you bring up with friends or co-workers, I say "My friend Dave says" instead of the more accurate but creepy sounding "This guy who I stalk thru the internet says"... I hope you don't mind.<br /><br />So, I hope that, even though my life challenges are less obvious to many (including me sometimes), I can still be a cape-wearing social justice warrior with the rest of you.<br /><br />Now, the warm fuzzies:<br />I love you! You (and Joe) rock! Keep going! The world needs you! Ruby is SO BLESSED to have you in her life, AND all the people whose lives she touches will be the better for how you shape her life.Arkaniannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77173688213259950702010-09-29T01:39:38.982-04:002010-09-29T01:39:38.982-04:00Hello,
As an able-bodied person, I feel like I ha...Hello,<br /><br />As an able-bodied person, I feel like I have nothing to contribute, nor a voice to contribute with. I really want to say "Right on! Stick it to the (wo)man!" but then I feel like such an outsider. I, too, am sensitive, and I am afraid people would reply to my comment and say "What do YOU know about it? YOU have no idea." Which would be true. <br /><br />You do pull me out of my self-centered world and make me more aware of things. For example, I am less likely to shop at a store or eat at a restaurant if I notice blatant inaccessibility. I protect/preserve disabled access when I can ("Let's sit over here so a wheelchair user can have that space"). I now *always* smile at and address directly *everyone* I meet, especially in my role as a client communicator, even if it seems the person may not be able to respond in kind. I now notice and appreciate the curb cuts that allow me to bike or even walk more easily, the buttons on doors that make it easier for me to carry things in and out, the chirping at the stoplight that tells me to stop fiddling with my phone and cross the street, I fight hate speech of all kinds when I hear it, and I can answer all the "jokes" with humanity and logic: "Why is there Braille on the keypads at the drive-up ATM?" Um, because maybe the blind person who needs assistance to do their banking doesn't have to allow someone else to know such personal things as their PIN or bank balance...<br /><br />I do forward your works to people I think would benefit, and when I discuss things you bring up with friends or co-workers, I say "My friend Dave says" instead of the more accurate but creepy sounding "This guy who I stalk thru the internet says"... I hope you don't mind.<br /><br />So, I hope that, even though my life challenges are less obvious to many (including me sometimes), I can still be a cape-wearing social justice warrior with the rest of you.<br /><br />Now, the warm fuzzies:<br />I love you! You (and Joe) rock! Keep going! The world needs you! Ruby is SO BLESSED to have you in her life, AND all the people whose lives she touches will be the better for how you shape her life.Arkaniannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-74799728471436658712010-09-29T00:00:46.034-04:002010-09-29T00:00:46.034-04:00I read and comment when something particularly tou...I read and comment when something particularly touches me. Usually it has seemed to me that you get so many comments that if I come along and I'm like #20 or something it's almost like what's the point of posting, because it seems unlikely you will be heard. Also sometimes I read things a day late and same thing. I know it's time consuming, but I think if you engaged with readers a bit more, they'd be more likely to post. Try to acknowledge people by name when you can so they don't think they're commenting in a vacuum. <br /><br />I do not think you need recognition so much as a sense of community - you want to know other people are out there, are connected to you, are *getting something* out of what you write. I do too for my blog. It's not an unnatural urge, and I applaud you for having the courage to ask. <br /><br />Lately Ive been forgetting to check my blogs as much as I used to but I always enjoy your blog when I read it.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931944728963114472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88854990692584578362010-09-28T23:25:38.423-04:002010-09-28T23:25:38.423-04:00The wheeliecrone says -
Dave, I am an advocate fo...The wheeliecrone says -<br /><br />Dave, I am an advocate for people with physical disability. I have physical and sensory disabilities, so I use a wheelchair and hearing aids. Some days, it seems that there just isn't anybody who "gets it" about disability. It is way past discouraging - making nice to some idiot of a politician who is gratuitously disrespectful of me and my constituents, just so I can look him/her in the eye and say something that needs to be said. And then hoping that the idiot has heard even a syllable of what I said. And often finding out later that they didn't listen, or that they misrepresented what I told them.<br /><br />Reading your Blog is one of the things I do for therapy. It helps me so much to know that there are people in other countries (I am in Australia) who go through the same sort of nonsense every day that I go through, how they approach the nonsense and how they keep themselves whole.<br /><br />Thank you, Dave.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71384365369797639572010-09-28T23:00:34.038-04:002010-09-28T23:00:34.038-04:00Dave, I've been meaning to tell you about a yo...Dave, I've been meaning to tell you about a young man I met. Someone had gotten mad at him for using the R word, but didn't explain what she was so upset about. <br /><br />The young man had some pretty severe issues of his own had had gotten in trouble several times over the weekend.<br /><br />I sat down with him and explained WHY that R word was a problem and referred him to your site. It may not change his other problems, but maybe he will think a little more.<br /> <br />Thank you for being here for us.<br /><br />SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9270876408899954112010-09-28T22:44:38.303-04:002010-09-28T22:44:38.303-04:00Nothing to say but thank you. I look for your wise...Nothing to say but thank you. I look for your wise words every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com