tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post4529773751629766873..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Swing SetDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64461954853970200152011-08-29T08:08:43.076-04:002011-08-29T08:08:43.076-04:00Moments like that are priceless. Kudos to Ruby and...Moments like that are priceless. Kudos to Ruby and kudos to you for your outlook on things.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-57004868849322181912011-08-28T19:54:07.702-04:002011-08-28T19:54:07.702-04:00Myrrien, Last December when we were in the mall, R...Myrrien, Last December when we were in the mall, Ruby wanted to stay with me rather than go off with parents or Joe. I had never minded her alone like that before, it was Christmas and the mall was crazy. I spoke with her seriously about not being able to run after her and that if she stayed with me she had to remember that she had to be very grown up and be responsible in ways that she didn't have to be with her mom and dad. She nodded gravely and said she understood. She was just fine, very careful to stay in sight and in reach, in fact, she crawled up on me for much of the time. This time, when she was in Toronto, she wanted to stay out on the sidewalk with me rather than go in the store with Joe. I had the talk with her again, and she said that she would be very careful and be very responsible. And she was. It is a real push towards independance as you, eloquently, put it. I understand the sadness. That's why I wrote the blog, I wanted to remind myself, and maybe others that, along with the sadness, there is an up side to the experience - I get to see growth and development happen right before my eyes. Her love of me, means that she grows 'purposely' so that I never have to worry about her when she's with me. I love her love of me, I love that she grows for me, I love that our relationship means so much to her. There are many ways that your children will say, 'I love you mom' ... maybe sitting in a normal chair at dinner is one of them.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65240874383959834082011-08-28T18:30:56.949-04:002011-08-28T18:30:56.949-04:00Thank Dave, over the last few months I've been...Thank Dave, over the last few months I've been quite unwell and confined to bed at points and I have felt quite guilty for not being able to look after my children the way I always do but your post made me think about it in a different way. My toddler can now put himself to bed when his big brother goes rather than being carried through when he is asleep, he uses a normal chair at dinner time because I couldn't lift him into his highchair and is able to get and put away his shoes. He would have learned all this anyway but because I have been unable to do these things I have inadvertently pushed his independence.<br /><br />I can maybe put some of the guilt away about being so unwell but somehow I still feel just a little bit sad.Myrriennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73407168178575708662011-08-28T01:57:25.270-04:002011-08-28T01:57:25.270-04:00Great story - it must have been thrilling for her ...Great story - it must have been thrilling for her to learn how to swing, and to know she'll be able to do it any time she wants (when she's near a swing set) from now on.CLnoreply@blogger.com