tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3649344467142788604..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: The Wait is Over; A New One BeginsDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-91928912475183611662009-03-27T20:08:00.000-04:002009-03-27T20:08:00.000-04:00Thank you for stepping up. I was a caretaker for ...Thank you for stepping up. I was a caretaker for my grandmother for the last 10 years or so, until she passed last year. The attitude of the paid aides who helped others in her (senior living) building were atrocious. Yes, sometimes I wanted to just give up and not have the fifth argument of the day about butter, but you do it. And they were PAID. It breaks my brain how you could even sleep at night being that cruel.<BR/>And thanks for reminding me I'd like to find somewhere to volunteer with the elderly. I live in LA and can't stand seeing someone who can barely walk have to carry groceries in 100F heat.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18242175792249326802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-308335791521125022009-03-07T01:51:00.000-05:002009-03-07T01:51:00.000-05:00Thank you so much for passing on this wonderful up...Thank you so much for passing on this wonderful update. I didn't realize, until I read this post, that somewhere in my being I had been holding my breath for that dear lady. When I read that she was now safe, and going to get the help that she needed, I was finally able to take a good, deep breath. How sad that what you saw was really just the tip of the iceberg - her abuse was far beyond what anyone should have to endure. I hope her daughter realizes how fortunate her mother was to have you cross paths with her. If you hadn't seen her, hadn't reached out...I don't even want to think about it. And I hope this experience serves as a wake-up call for the daughter. I lost my Mom several years ago. What I wouldn't give to be able to take care of her again. God bless you, Dave.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16171428636839043425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-29674114000730294292009-03-06T02:40:00.000-05:002009-03-06T02:40:00.000-05:00You are a real hero! Your presence of mind and wil...You are a real hero! Your presence of mind and willingness to help are amazing. Thanks for reaching out to the lady and making this world a better place for the lady to live.Sumithrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03544919199876352450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88260350753485467682009-03-05T21:41:00.000-05:002009-03-05T21:41:00.000-05:00So wonderful that she was able to phone the police...So wonderful that she was able to phone the police because of your support.<BR/>Now I think it's up to each of us to act when we see something similar!theknapperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06179049498112163140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55320361449831145022009-03-05T11:32:00.000-05:002009-03-05T11:32:00.000-05:00Dave, thank you for giving the note to the lady. Y...Dave, thank you for giving the note to the lady. You were brave, she was even braver. I am so proud of both of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65346477242713506372009-03-04T18:05:00.000-05:002009-03-04T18:05:00.000-05:00I have been praying for not just her but others in...I have been praying for not just her but others in situations of abuse. My abusers made sure to never lay a hand on me, so I felt certain no one would believe me.<BR/><BR/>Yesterday I did say out loud to a mutual friend the truth, and I was not ridiculed. She had suspected all along. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for being strong enough to stand up for someone else. I applaud you. I am also adding this blog to my own blogroll. <BR/><BR/>Yours,<BR/><BR/>Kateryna FuryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84288382654260048412009-03-04T17:59:00.000-05:002009-03-04T17:59:00.000-05:00You made her visible--gave her new eyes to see her...You made her visible--gave her new eyes to see her situation as what it was. I have seen others who live in bad situations and never name them "bad." They sort of say "this is just the way things are now..." Thank you for witnessing and for reaching in to her world. You saved her--and her case may well save others...Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14802459265546733391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34548054012462333422009-03-04T09:56:00.000-05:002009-03-04T09:56:00.000-05:00Dave,I had been waiting for the rest of the story,...Dave,<BR/><BR/>I had been waiting for the rest of the story, as I'm sure others were. I was pretty sure she would call -although I was horrified to hear the extent of the abuse when she did. <BR/><BR/>I wonder if this lady knows just how many people are in her corner?<BR/><BR/>...and how glad am I that you, not Joe picked up the phone?! ;)One Sick Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744571221745247997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64383303124198307142009-03-04T08:40:00.000-05:002009-03-04T08:40:00.000-05:00You know Dave I really believe that God uses you a...You know Dave I really believe that God uses you as an angel in so many circumstances. He really has His hand in your life. Thanks for being so wonderful and caring and for doing His work.All 4 My Galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04388794548592051699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73056554254250059012009-03-04T07:58:00.000-05:002009-03-04T07:58:00.000-05:00I am so glad she had you to call! If I succeed in...I am so glad she had you to call! If I succeed in getting a vehicle full time in the next few months, inspired by this story, I need to think about becoming a helper for someone aged. I LIKE older people and enjoy time spent with them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58918095360727324612009-03-04T07:13:00.000-05:002009-03-04T07:13:00.000-05:00I am lost for words. I am so grateful that your pa...I am lost for words. I am so grateful that your paths crossed. It's hard for me to fathom a daughter that "doesn't like to be bothered with things like this," but I know that God sent you at the right moment, to make this difference. I wonder how widespread this abuse is. It worries me and breaks my heart.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53629153867429418322009-03-04T06:14:00.000-05:002009-03-04T06:14:00.000-05:00AWESOME.AWESOME.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58891463086837125292009-03-04T03:40:00.000-05:002009-03-04T03:40:00.000-05:00A full bearhug to you Dave!A full bearhug to you Dave!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14745439822959360162009-03-04T01:13:00.000-05:002009-03-04T01:13:00.000-05:00Thank you DaveThank you for caring about that lady...Thank you Dave<BR/>Thank you for caring about that lady<BR/>Thank you for caring to tell us about it<BR/>You have empowered her<BR/>You have empowered every person following her story<BR/>You have empowered me<BR/>Bravo!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1733420436588567422009-03-03T23:27:00.000-05:002009-03-03T23:27:00.000-05:00WOW.That is amazing, amazingly wonderful.I never t...WOW.<BR/><BR/>That is amazing, amazingly wonderful.<BR/><BR/>I never thought she would call. And she did, and you probably saved her life. That is just amazing.<BR/><BR/>Good for you, and what a wonderful feeling to know you made a difference in someone's life.<BR/><BR/>Sorry it had to happen, but so happy you were able to help.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931944728963114472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-83393235870673405442009-03-03T22:38:00.000-05:002009-03-03T22:38:00.000-05:00Oh my. Sir, I tip my hat to you. THANK YOU for doi...Oh my. Sir, I tip my hat to you. THANK YOU for doing this. That poor woman. I hope she gets all the help she needs now, proper, caring help.<BR/><BR/>thank you. just, thanks.Mirielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04352472246277937157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-10495403056751829682009-03-03T19:49:00.000-05:002009-03-03T19:49:00.000-05:00The world needs more people like you Dave, you hav...The world needs more people like you Dave, you have courage where others do not, you inspire us all, you open our eyes.<BR/>i'm glad this lady called you, i'm glad that you gave her you phone number, cos you have most likely saved this lady's life.<BR/>God bless you DaveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-20600608662009932542009-03-03T19:22:00.000-05:002009-03-03T19:22:00.000-05:00Thank you.Both for reaching out to that woman in a...Thank you.<BR/><BR/>Both for reaching out to that woman in a way that didn't cause her aide to be more abusive, and for telling us this story.<BR/><BR/>Please keep us updated as the story continues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76371356146231119812009-03-03T19:19:00.000-05:002009-03-03T19:19:00.000-05:00A wonderful post--showing us the power of change t...A wonderful post--showing us the power of change that we can accomplish if we only have the courage to speak up, and the will to care!rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817042750959998664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34928391691270614442009-03-03T19:02:00.000-05:002009-03-03T19:02:00.000-05:00Mr. Hingsburger: A friend posted links to your two...Mr. Hingsburger: <BR/><BR/>A friend posted links to your two blog entries today that went out to her network of friends on Facebook; I'm so glad she did, or I would have never seen this.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations--you, sir, are a hero, plain and simple! Some may not see it that way, but I cannot imagine any word in the English language that would better describe you following your heroic actions. It's so easy these days to do nothing, to think that what you saw was an isolated incident, or to think that things like this are none of your business. All of those statements are untrue, but by taking action, you ensured that one of these incidents has a happy ending.<BR/><BR/>I am also handicapped--I walk with a cane, with a chair likely somewhere in my future. That does not stop me from being fiesty, nor does it stop me from speaking up when I see something that I know is wrong. Yeah, this can get you into trouble--been there, for sure--but it can also lead to some very positive results where you know the fact that you spoke out helped create those results. <BR/><BR/>By refusing to be invisible--which is how that aide tried to treat you--you just might have saved that woman's life. If this goes to trial, I'll bet any amount of money that the aide won't even recognize you when you get up to testify. Heck, she might even say in court that "that man must be making this up because I've never seen him before in my life--he couldn't have witnessed me doing anything!" What people like her fail to realize is that just because THEY fail to see the elderly, the poor, the handicapped, or, frankly, anyone who is 'different' in any way from themselves, it sure doesn't mean that we don't see their unconscionable behavior. While most people here in Detroit go out of their way to offer their help and/or to treat me wonderfully, I do see "the aide" at least once every time I am out in a busy public place. It is just stunning how boorish some people behave, and such behavior has become so widespread these days that any time I am going to be out in public in any kind of group setting, I kind of take a deep breath and give myself a mental pep talk before I reach the group. That way, I have my own defenses in place should the boorish behavior be aimed at me, and I'm prepared to speak up should it instead be aimed at another "invisible tribesperson" who looks like they might need help. Some nights, it seems as if I need to only worry about the criminal, or borderline criminal, acts or I might as well turn around and go home.<BR/><BR/>Rambling, I know, but your story moved me, sir. I hope that your actions inspire others to take action in the future should they be faced with a similar example of injustice or stupidity. Again, kudos to you, Mr. Hingsburger, and please be sure to post a new entry if/when more happens in this saga. I am so happy that woman no longer has to be under that aide's thumb and no longer has to spend each day wondering when she'll be hurt, and how badly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1174042367479417762009-03-03T18:58:00.000-05:002009-03-03T18:58:00.000-05:00OMG DAVE!! You are a wonderful man. I am sooooo ...OMG DAVE!! You are a wonderful man. I am sooooo glad that you offered her your number. What a life line it turned out to be. and now the tears. Oh Thank you. I wish there were more people in this world with Half the heart that you seem to have. The big man in the wheelchair whose heart is equally big.Ssejorshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04062078013214898000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64103607499223923652009-03-03T18:34:00.000-05:002009-03-03T18:34:00.000-05:00Thanks for standing up for the old lady. It seems ...Thanks for standing up for the old lady. It seems that you have empowered her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53045954813520229642009-03-03T18:10:00.000-05:002009-03-03T18:10:00.000-05:00The world needs more wild wheelchair men. :)Thank ...The world needs more wild wheelchair men. :)<BR/><BR/>Thank you for reaching out to her.<BR/><BR/>In these seemingly small ways, we can all make a big difference.Jenn McWhorterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05552776640131147824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-45656938540547518312009-03-03T17:59:00.000-05:002009-03-03T17:59:00.000-05:00God bless you. God bless her.God bless you. God bless her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81107887121401751812009-03-03T17:21:00.000-05:002009-03-03T17:21:00.000-05:00Oh Dave, I am so glad you gave her your number. S...Oh Dave, I am so glad you gave her your number. She might have suffered in silence for a much longer time had you not. Thank you for being there for her.<BR/><BR/>LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com