tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3503482092824274750..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Mani PettyDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-59358842884949203462014-04-14T20:05:35.381-04:002014-04-14T20:05:35.381-04:00They were simply idiots, no one feels like a winne...They were simply idiots, no one feels like a winner when they have to point out something like that to people who should know otherwise. It feels like a waste of oxygen :(.<br />Glad you gave it back to them.<br />LisaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051482989794391914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-43302744230156056462014-04-14T16:07:16.824-04:002014-04-14T16:07:16.824-04:00Are you identifying yourself as petty? Do you rea...Are you identifying yourself as petty? Do you really think you were?<br /><br />If you were, I'm sure you'll learn from the occasion, because that's what you do. Not pleasant to see in oneself, but in the circumstances, entirely forgivable.<br /><br />Or perhaps you weren't petty at all, just asserting yourself as non-victim, and identifying the dynamics out loud, with a little bit of mixed motive. You're allowed those: no-one'd do much of anything if motives always had to be perfectly pure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53674314677844805852014-04-14T02:24:03.051-04:002014-04-14T02:24:03.051-04:00The young men may have been suspicious. Your comm...The young men may have been suspicious. Your comments most likely made them angry. Once you answered their question - perhaps you should have left it there. You were, at that point, on equal ground. You won nothing by going on - except to prove you can be as cruel as them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36793874223937801722014-04-13T20:43:01.333-04:002014-04-13T20:43:01.333-04:00Cut yourself some slack, Dave!
If all of your acti...Cut yourself some slack, Dave!<br />If all of your actions and reactions were perfectly loving and appropriate, you would be ready for your wings and halo - and we would all miss you! A lot!wheeliecronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10570378001102933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77954684189715693642014-04-13T12:29:32.559-04:002014-04-13T12:29:32.559-04:00I'm hoping you educated them - and that, as us...I'm hoping you educated them - and that, as usual with young humans, they couldn't react quickly enough to do more than stammer out an apology. Of course, this is crediting them with basically good intentions in life. It is a good place to start, but only IF you can feel physically safe doing so - which you may not always feel.<br /><br />If they learned something, if they were ashamed of their behavior - instinctive as it was - it might take them time to acquire a new behavior, and learn how to speak.<br /><br />But you gave them a wonderful example, they started it not you, and I think you won - because you said something.<br /><br />You may not be feeling good because most of us don't like to have to educate/upbraid other adults, but, short of getting a bank guard, I can't see what else you could have done.<br /><br />Except not say anything, which would also leave you not feeling good.<br /><br />Your instincts are honed by this kind of interactions happening to you all the time; I'd trust them most of the time.<br /><br />Alicia<br /><br />PS You're educating ME.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-87344809788243792132014-04-13T12:13:51.594-04:002014-04-13T12:13:51.594-04:00They needed to see the world beyond themselves...I...They needed to see the world beyond themselves...I can see how this innnocent interaction could have turned dangerous because of their fears and misinterpretations.....hope they got it and it stays in their minds before they react again.theknappernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-74420454502679685342014-04-13T10:25:05.420-04:002014-04-13T10:25:05.420-04:00I think that you didn't feel like a winner bec...I think that you didn't feel like a winner because that battle was one that should not have been necessary. BUT -- and this is based on past experience, experience that we've all had, and that you've mentioned here in the blog -- had you somehow just let it slide, and not spoken back at them, had you reacted with some kind of apology or deference or silence, you would have felt as if you had lost something important. Correction: you would have felt as if you had abandoned something important -- yourself.<br />Jeannettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05909196786266434960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71544833768111866032014-04-13T08:55:30.211-04:002014-04-13T08:55:30.211-04:00Ah . . . caught in the "why" question tr...Ah . . . caught in the "why" question trap!!!! I don't ask/answer any "why" questions - and it has saved me a lot of grief. When asked a "why" question, my answer is (verbally or non-verbally) as follows: "You are mistaking me for someone who is accountable to you." I would invite you to try it on sometime (but not with someone with whom you are actually accountable)! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com