tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post341497663750518821..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Nuit BlancheDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36036809440190182852013-11-19T00:53:20.696-05:002013-11-19T00:53:20.696-05:00Very thought provoking, thanks. Best to stay away ...Very thought provoking, thanks. Best to stay away from those professionals. When I did push a bit to see why they promote low expectation I got back an honestly blank stare, complete lack of understanding. Sometimes I can have a bit of fun at their expense. Usually it's just plain sad and I wonder at the damage they have done to many people who are new to the disabled world.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-83323177176457781262013-11-18T14:01:09.597-05:002013-11-18T14:01:09.597-05:00As a polio survivor in the 50s it was a strange mi...As a polio survivor in the 50s it was a strange mix. You were told to push yourself to the max, never give in an inch to your pain or exhaustion, fight tooth and nail. <br /><br />At the same time you were told you couldn't do x, or y, or z, and you were not allowed to go back to school until you were free of braces and crutches. I don't remember ever seeing anyone in a wheelchair outside a hospital until I was in my 30s! <br /><br />My medical training was cut short because I couldn't run the nine floors of stairs in the hospital where I was training multiple times a day. Or I could but then my legs buckled at gurneyside in the ER and I sprawled and scattered surgical instruments all over the room. Counseling session within 24 hours. I was not a suitable candidate for a career in medicine. <br /><br />We live in a schizophrenic world where disabled athletes are lionized but those who must use wheels or a cane are looked on with horror. I think this goes back to peoples' fears. They see an amputee who can run faster than an able-bodied person and console themselves that if something happened to *them* they'd be able to compensate just like that guy. The person in the wheelchair is a reminder that not all people *can* compensate, and that scares the bleep out of them. <br /><br />Maybe your disability blurred the lines too much for those organizers, Dave. Scares them to think that working with the disabled isn't vaccination against becoming disabled yourself. It's a strange place inside our heads. LOL Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133236228952504852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64450141935430828032013-11-18T12:32:13.037-05:002013-11-18T12:32:13.037-05:00Oh Dave,
with me its completly the other way arou...Oh Dave,<br /><br />with me its completly the other way around. I was born with my heart condition. But everybody expected me to do, learn, work as much as possible.<br /><br />I eneded up exhausted and upset with myself.<br /><br />I know how you feel and what you experienced but for me it was the other extrem...<br /><br />Julia<br /><br />PS Maybe I can manage to visit one of your lectures in England next spring. <br />That would be lovely...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-29817258875406673732013-11-18T11:32:38.563-05:002013-11-18T11:32:38.563-05:00Years ago while tutoring a nine-year-old with her ...Years ago while tutoring a nine-year-old with her reading, I arrived at her classroom while she and two or three others were working on a story in their reading book about Jackie Robinson and his difficulties with being the first black player in the major leagues. These girls simply could not get their heads around the idea that blacks hadn't always played major league baseball. In their world, most of the players are black or Hispanic, after all. <br /><br />Ruby and Sadie already know that you can go anyplace and do anything in their world. When will the rest of us catch up to them?Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08228455440420959430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-30985968469517085522013-11-18T10:40:54.720-05:002013-11-18T10:40:54.720-05:00I learned this lesson when I was 17... I think my ...I learned this lesson when I was 17... I think my parents shielded me from it before that. But senior year of high school, I was at my IEP meeting. (Now that I know more about these things, I don't understand why I was on an IEP instead of a 504, but whatever.) It was the first time I'd ever attended my own IEP meeting. When it came time to talk about "transition," my post-high school plans, I explained that I wanted to attend a particular university out-of-state, that I'd already received a half-tuition scholarship there, and had secured my dorm room. I had several college credits already from advanced classes I'd taken. From my IEP team, I asked for help figuring out home health care--where that would come from, who would pay for it, who would provide it, and how I could make arrangements from out of state. I'd never done it before, and my friends certainly weren't having to worry about all that while making their college plans, so I was overwhelmed and seeking help. The IEP team, all the specialists that were supposed to support me, ignored my plans, and insisted that I meet with the school's career counselor and check out brochures for local community colleges. I finally agreed, just so the unhelpful meeting would end, but I never followed through with that meeting. My parents and I figured it out, with no help from the professionals, and I went to the university I'd planned on, and have lived independently ever since!Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06868874343026873104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65280031865113738442013-11-18T10:13:49.872-05:002013-11-18T10:13:49.872-05:00Dear Dave:
As you have so eloquently said, "...Dear Dave:<br /><br />As you have so eloquently said, "doing damns the darkness".<br /><br />Glee - love that "the soft bigotry of low expectations" - oh my, how common that is!<br /><br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80429513822285489042013-11-18T08:22:43.709-05:002013-11-18T08:22:43.709-05:00Our Disability Discrimination Commissioner here in...Our Disability Discrimination Commissioner here in Australia, Graeme Innes said: "The soft bigotry of low expectations". Perfectly put. Insidious.<br /><br />That's what it is. And it is Ableism.<br /><br />Am with you every bit of the way Dave.Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-71294527781689278602013-11-18T07:26:39.895-05:002013-11-18T07:26:39.895-05:00Tamara, they didn't know me, they were the pro...Tamara, they didn't know me, they were the professionals who where there to help me adapt to disability. People who worked at the hospital and clinic. None of my friends or co-workers expected my life to be less.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14926867216559331282013-11-18T06:57:23.752-05:002013-11-18T06:57:23.752-05:00I'm a bit shocked that anyone who knew you wou...I'm a bit shocked that anyone who knew you would have tried to stop you! Glad you didn't let them keep you from continuing your life on your terms. Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.com