tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3297573710698947802..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: OpinionsDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53755173338356249572020-12-12T04:38:30.003-05:002020-12-12T04:38:30.003-05:00Very interesting, Dave.
I think it's importan...Very interesting, Dave.<br /><br />I think it's important to remember someone didn't sign up to be a representative just by virtue of their existence. On the other hand, pushback and disapproval can be warranted when someone assigns themselves to speak on behalf of other people - the people-first vs identity-first comes to mind, as does when personal preference is turned into generic advice gets conflated in a "Crouch when you talk to a person using a wheelchair. I get a crane in my neck if I have to look up at you!" I don't like when people crouch at me, it frequently feels awkward and more intimate than the conversation often warrants.<br /><br />But there's a difference between "recommending everyone crouches to all wheelchair users" and "being out in public with a person crouching before you, as you prefer".<br /><br />Where that gets really interesting is when people talk about their own experiences in the second person - "When you hear you may never walk again, you just feel x, y, z" - which annoys me to no end because really, I didn't feel that and how dare you imply I did, assign me feelings/opinions, spread misinformation? But I also recognize that using a 'generic you' may be a valid way of coping with difficult experiences through allowing for some emotional distance. I don't think I use the 'generic you' frequently but I probably use it myself on occasion.<br /><br />I hope you and Joe are staying warm in Canada!Myrthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11301763543771931860noreply@blogger.com