tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3240492344472585505..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: I Need Your OpinionDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58635949818615112562012-12-12T10:55:21.918-05:002012-12-12T10:55:21.918-05:00I think you are well within a
reasonable time fram...I think you are well within a<br />reasonable time frame to complain. You can even say that you didn't write immediately because you were simply too angry/upset/traumatized to want to revisit it immediately. <br />Speaking as someone who once let something really big go because first it seemed too big and then it seemed too late, I can say that the regret has stayed with me. wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-75964550162874554072012-12-11T01:48:42.334-05:002012-12-11T01:48:42.334-05:00Even if the call was recorded, it will only be kep...Even if the call was recorded, it will only be kept a certain time. So I'd write as promptly as you can.<br />SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73085259620854300412012-12-11T00:39:49.721-05:002012-12-11T00:39:49.721-05:00I agree with everyone above: Write.
If anything, ...I agree with everyone above: Write.<br /><br />If anything, the lapse of time has given you pause to think of the truth of what transpired. What you write now will not be an angry, knee-jerk, complaint letter, but a well considered and meaningful reiteration of what transpired, which will, hopefully, be taken seriously. Good luck.<br /><br />Happy Hanukkah and Merry Christmas.Websterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13518858062969978457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-68429852048619712712012-12-10T23:09:26.566-05:002012-12-10T23:09:26.566-05:00Write.
Oh I so relate. Sometimes the writing tak...Write. <br /><br />Oh I so relate. Sometimes the writing takes just. so. much. energy. And gets you back to that emotional place again. Where you really really really really don't want to be. So. Sometimes you put the emotion aside and tell the story as if ANY body hearing it for the first time would just fume. But here you are writing it, NOT fuming, but telling the facts. A. B. C. Letting them figure out the emotions... Because, from what I can gather from what you say, you probably wouldn't have to tell them what you might be feeling . . . they will be feeling it themselves!<br /><br />I figure it is NEVER too late to write! Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375461078977866753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-82458922325669586282012-12-10T19:50:57.807-05:002012-12-10T19:50:57.807-05:00Thank you, the encouragement is really helpful. I ...Thank you, the encouragement is really helpful. I was really worried I was too late. I'm writing and sending this week. It will take a couple of days to document.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-85756529237486593972012-12-10T17:19:47.363-05:002012-12-10T17:19:47.363-05:00seems that it is unanimous (at least through now. ...seems that it is unanimous (at least through now. Definitely not too late.Rickismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04078192111057725026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-4393752223995636732012-12-10T14:12:06.572-05:002012-12-10T14:12:06.572-05:00I agree with the other commenters who say "Ye...I agree with the other commenters who say "Yes, write. You're ready now." <br />In addition to the emotional satisfaction it will probably give you, consider that by writing, you may well change things -- or at least start the process of change -- for the next person in your circumstances who has to call those people.<br />Give 'em hell, Dave. You're just the person to do it. And we've got your back. (Along with Joe, of course.)Jeannettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05909196786266434960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67749680098739891702012-12-10T14:00:01.143-05:002012-12-10T14:00:01.143-05:00I work in customer service, so I would say that th...I work in customer service, so I would say that the sooner you write it the better, but the company I work for doesn't record calls, so I have to go by my memory of events. I think it's best to wait until emotions simmer down though, so if you feel better writing it now, then I think you should. Since you know your call was recorded it can be played back. I'd make sure you have the name of the CSR you spoke with along with the time and date of call. That will make finding the recording easier. <br />Good luck to you!Alice Fragglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04009130427995457826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-19417245490116238312012-12-10T12:37:04.090-05:002012-12-10T12:37:04.090-05:00Write it now. You are in a better place to write f...Write it now. You are in a better place to write from the head and not from just emotions. It will make more of an impact now. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-65368870556214720032012-12-10T12:08:08.927-05:002012-12-10T12:08:08.927-05:00A complaint is valid as long as it bothers you. E...A complaint is valid as long as it bothers you. Explain that it was delayed because of the strong emotional reaction, that further thinking solidified the idea that it should NOT have happened and it definitely deserves to be addressed. They may not have the recording but they need your words.flemisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79411938173598012792012-12-10T11:56:38.039-05:002012-12-10T11:56:38.039-05:00Yeah, she didn't care about your threat becaus...Yeah, she didn't care about your threat because she knows for every 100 people who say "I'm going to write", maybe 2 do.<br /><br />Sock it to 'em, Dave.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6227549458740887342012-12-10T11:50:29.415-05:002012-12-10T11:50:29.415-05:00Definitely write, don't let them off the hook....Definitely write, don't let them off the hook. I understand being moved to tears and the need to take some time to collect yourself and cool off but write, if it made you feel that bad it is so worth it!!!<br /><br />Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50124099847239452732012-12-10T11:41:22.577-05:002012-12-10T11:41:22.577-05:00"I started to several times but every time I ..."I started to several times but every time I did, every time I realised the length of the story and the depth of my emotional reaction to it I simply pushed away from the computer. I couldn't do it."<br />I so hear this. I was treated appallingly,and possibly illegally,by a solicitor I went to for needed help<br />and I still want to make a complaint nearly a year later but its still too raw and overwhelming for me to actually do it. If you can write now then do because many of us cant and change only happens when the bad is pointed out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67686216913118021672012-12-10T11:29:05.283-05:002012-12-10T11:29:05.283-05:00Write.
You have waited until you could deal with i...Write.<br />You have waited until you could deal with it without emotions totally overtaking the point that NEEDS to be made.<br /><br />Be strong, be direct, be honest.<br /><br />And do it!!AkMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47346995598597641892012-12-10T09:47:43.029-05:002012-12-10T09:47:43.029-05:00I vote with the rest -- write. A month is not at ...I vote with the rest -- write. A month is not at all an unreasonable delay. <br /><br />I know there have been things that were upsetting to me at the time and for various reasons I didn't pursue a complaint (I have attention deficit disorder, which means it can be hard to push myself to do even tasks that really matter to me within a reasonable time frame, so that did not help). And I have regretted not making more of a complaint soon enough for some good to come out of it. Don't let this be your regret.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18818580851967350602012-12-10T09:45:42.593-05:002012-12-10T09:45:42.593-05:00Write. If nothing else, it will make YOU feel bett...Write. If nothing else, it will make YOU feel better. And that's reason enough.<br /><br />Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73142876577987479632012-12-10T09:23:02.983-05:002012-12-10T09:23:02.983-05:00An unresolved complaint has no shelf-life. Make t...An unresolved complaint has no shelf-life. Make the complaint. Because we tend to fade, quietly away, that's what enables them to continue. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-74837753888759117612012-12-10T08:52:48.098-05:002012-12-10T08:52:48.098-05:00I think you should write. If something has upset ...I think you should write. If something has upset you that much, it needs to be addressed. Sometimes it just takes a bit of time to calm down so you can write more clearly and rationally. Sounds like you've taken that time, and now you're ready. It's not too late. You are a gifted writer, and I know you'll be able to find the words you need to adequately express your feelings and explain what you want to happen now. Definitely write.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81260474933394056462012-12-10T08:47:44.931-05:002012-12-10T08:47:44.931-05:00If it made you feel that bad, it's never too l...If it made you feel that bad, it's never too late. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-73203483557248973272012-12-10T08:11:53.989-05:002012-12-10T08:11:53.989-05:00It's not too late Dave. :) All strength to yo...It's not too late Dave. :) All strength to you as you write it down cos it's a reliving of it and that's hard. This is why we do not make frivolous complaints as is sometimes insinuated.Gleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-51911588819817117762012-12-10T08:07:45.690-05:002012-12-10T08:07:45.690-05:00it is not too late. you can explain that it took y...it is not too late. you can explain that it took you this amount of time to rationally think about it rather than wanting to emotionally react to the treatment that you received. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-28979814459588303582012-12-10T07:26:11.250-05:002012-12-10T07:26:11.250-05:00Dear Dave:
I am voting for writing them. I do not...Dear Dave:<br /><br />I am voting for writing them. I do not think that it is too late. <br /><br />If something can upset you that much then it needs to be addressed - when you are ready and not a moment before. And it sounds like you are ready.<br /><br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-61366696283849401412012-12-10T06:44:48.131-05:002012-12-10T06:44:48.131-05:00I agree with all those who have posted before me. ...I agree with all those who have posted before me. Write. Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-124154803921564392012-12-10T04:56:59.727-05:002012-12-10T04:56:59.727-05:00Write away Dave - by all means. You could even sa...Write away Dave - by all means. You could even say that you are writing some weeks after the event so clear heads could prevail. Be sure to say what it is you want, for example and apology or change of policy. <br /><br />Just because you feel teary emotional about something doesn't mean the issue doesn't have strength. <br /><br />You go for it - and let us know how it turns out. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-92222977340657249672012-12-10T01:45:10.959-05:002012-12-10T01:45:10.959-05:00Write. I fully believe that by the fact you have r...Write. I fully believe that by the fact you have reached out to us for opinion and validation of the experience as being wrong, bad and traumatic, I would imagine you will seriously regret NOT writing. I would suggest you do it when feeling a bit stronger and clearer. No shelf life here and at least you can have an on-record account of this complaint beyond a recording. I would also complain to any type of Better Business Association in the particular jurisdiction of this company. My two cents and I hope you get whatever it is you need, Dave.John R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855575688523179265noreply@blogger.com