tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post3141186943772817642..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: What She Did, MatteredDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12765388228636874372013-09-26T05:28:53.680-04:002013-09-26T05:28:53.680-04:00Anon above, yes a security guard has the job of se...Anon above, yes a security guard has the job of security. What strikes me about Dave's story is that the security guard recognized that what the boys were doing was a threat to Dave's security. I have often seen security guards simply stand by when something like that happens. The woman in this story seemed to understand that a person's security is as important as a buildings security. May I ask, though, why your comments always seem so angry? Am I misreading you?<br /><br />JVAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-55926611102720104562013-09-26T00:25:44.254-04:002013-09-26T00:25:44.254-04:00Purpletta..and a security agent is providing secur...Purpletta..and a security agent is providing security. A job just like the safety person. A job. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-28313335781298124672013-09-23T17:53:54.772-04:002013-09-23T17:53:54.772-04:00I was bulied while working walmartI was bulied while working walmartAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-38628951040513468852013-09-22T23:25:10.942-04:002013-09-22T23:25:10.942-04:00I don't know, anon at 00:41. I read this blog ...I don't know, anon at 00:41. I read this blog & comments very early this morning & for some reason your comment has stuck with me. I have trouble sometimes teasing out differences of opinion that are positive and productive and those that are not. But after much thought I am now in a place where I need to reply. Your comment has a tone that I read as sarcasm. I may be mis-reading this and you may have intended it to be humorous and not sarcastic so if that is the case I apologize. This blog it seems is about bullying. Well about the difference one person made in her handling of bullying. Ensuring someone's safety. I certainly can't speak for Dave's experiences, only for my own, but it seems to me that an employee in a theatre telling paying patrons how to evacuate in an emergency is actually the person's job. Done nicely, with extra effort, in the most supportive way is kind and professional. A person doing his job professionally making patrons aware of information they need. Someone standing up to a person sitting in someone else's chair - well certainly seems to be intended as kindness, although if that help was not needed by the owner of the chair it raises a different issue. But if we accept for argument's sake the kind gesture, it is I guess correcting a member of the public who is rude. And so on... All presumably kind gestures of support in many cases ---- but not about securing someone's safety from bullying. This is an entity all to itself. Being on the receiving end of bullying is terrifying. It is demeaning and embarrassing. It is stigmatizing. But it differs from say the fear of how to evacuate in a fire in that bullying is intentional disregard for one's person followed by deliberate hurt and harm, some of which nearly always will be irreperable. To equate it to the theatre example it would be like someone intentionally setting a fire near me in a theatre, then blocking the exit or joking about blocking he exit. Bullying is a situation all to itself. I worry that sometimes comments on blogs like those on Dave's sometimes may be in the verge of bullying. To me bullying is about tearing someone down. It is hurting in order to do damage to one's person. I am concerned that even here sometime comment can be intended to tear down and I have to say something about that. <br />PurplettaPurplettanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-23863585659046150062013-09-22T00:41:38.410-04:002013-09-22T00:41:38.410-04:00I know writer's are creative - but I think a l...I know writer's are creative - but I think a little too much creativity has been expressed in this one. No one. No one at all. Not Joe. Or the fellow that told the woman to get out of your wheelchair. Or the person making sure that you know safe exits from an auditorium. Family, friends, church members. Absolutely no one. Hmmmm...Perhaps "very seldom" you have witnessed it or "on few occasions" - but no one. Ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-32083778138011958952013-09-21T11:40:10.118-04:002013-09-21T11:40:10.118-04:00A bruising of bullies.....excellent phrase that gi...A bruising of bullies.....excellent phrase that gives a clearer description of the damage that occurs when "word hurt."<br />I wonder if this security guard might have had the experience of feeling unsafe in a public place merely due to her physical being...your description suggests that she may be seen as belonging to two minority groups...take care, Dave and Joe.clairesmumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1159657165118497542013-09-21T09:31:24.911-04:002013-09-21T09:31:24.911-04:00Amen. The more people do it, the more people will ...Amen. The more people do it, the more people will do it and the less bullying there will be in the world. <br /><br />I've never understood why so many people consider bullying just a part of life. It doesn't have to be. Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-9364801987730264572013-09-21T09:23:47.982-04:002013-09-21T09:23:47.982-04:00Loved this story the first and second times. Also...Loved this story the first and second times. Also love "a bruising of bullies." You will always get big points for clever names for groups from me. Happy Weekend, Dave.Kris S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84886335425135959702013-09-21T07:54:20.637-04:002013-09-21T07:54:20.637-04:00Excellent. I just love people who just know what t...Excellent. I just love people who just know what to do right in their job. If you are going to be in security, police, army, nursing in A and E, fire fighter, soldier, I just love it when you can take control and make it safe for everyone. It feel good to be looked after sometimes in a strong and simple way.Jayne Waleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453464335047666502noreply@blogger.com